to get a bit peeved about people moaning about 6 weeks of holidays with their DCs?

[Abgirl]

Have seen at least 2 facebook messages this morning complaining about how long the summer holidays are - 1 has even worked out the number of days until their DCs were back to school! It might seem like a long time now but the days are long and the years are short - I work FT and would love 6 weeks off to spend with my DCs :(.

I've got a pre schooler and a baby and I've mentioned to people I'm not looking forwards to it. I'm looking forwards to seeing her more but everything we go to stops for the summer - playgroups music group pre school etc.

My husband works away, we've recently moved and my house is tiny .(children share a small room). I an anxious. If I had a house and garden they could roam about in and a stream of friends or family I would feel different. I will be 24 7 on my own with them. Ij's draining and lonely and I'm already tired.

I have that summer holiday feeling mysrlf - DS is finishing YR and DD goes to a term time only childminder.
I feel like i barely see them and am looking forward to a lazy time with them :o
That said I have a load of family help and lots of things planned (kids/us going away etc). I can imagine 6 weeks stretching out ahead without a break can be a bit daunting. And this is my first "summer holiday" as a parent, ask me again next year :)

I love the holidays, lazy days and lie ins, no mad rush in the mornings!

agree, still in bed, kids in pj.s......lazy days

I can't wait, my ds is shattered and needs a break. No school runs, I'm a cm and work full time but only doing 2 days a week in the hols and going away for 2 weeks. We plan on doing free outings such as the beach, a local park with water play area and we are lucky enough to live right next to a park so hopefully they won't be too bored.

Beatrice that sounds hard :(

Oh come on...

Not everyone is an earth mother. Some people struggle and find full time motherhood very hard. If you don't have the imagination to envisage that, then fair enough.

Sorry if you feel hard-done by, by your situation. But likewise, there are Mums struggling who find the prospect of the holidays tough. Sympathise with them, indeed of giving them a hard time.

It's not that strange, surely?

Ditto Abgirl. I wish I didn't have to work full-time too & could spend the holidays with the DCs. Makes me sad when people whinge about it too - but I guess the grass always seems greener. Although, as I run about frantically trying to shove the DCs in holiday camps they are not that keen on - I do wonder how anyone would think that my grass could be greener!!!

yanbu, it does seem quite sad when people moan about it. its 6 weeks, not really that long! and why have kids if you dont wanna spend any time with them?

moaning about groups and things being closed for the holidays is totally different, for whoever mentioned that.

im looking forward to holidays, not being restricted by school drop off and pick up times, gives a bit more freedom

If people are complaining about having their children for 6 weeks, why did they have them in the first place?

"its 6 weeks, not really that long! and why have kids if you dont wanna spend any time with them?"

Yawn...

Mine are of an age where I see them less and less

DS(13) has a busier social life than anyone I know, and DS (9.8) plays out on the green only makes an appearance when he's hungry.

Mind you, every holiday I seem to be dishing out £1 coins like they're going out of fashion so that's going to have to stop this year.

I think you are B a bit U OP because you have no idea what other people's lives are like. I also think it is hugely hypocritical to vaguely wonder why people have kids and not want to spend 6 weeks on the trot with them, even if you only implied this. You say you need to work FT - presumably you knew this before you decided to have kids yourself.

Personally I can't wait til DC1's first summer holiday, starting tomorrow. (SAHM, but I have also worked in the past)

If people are complaining about having their children for 6 weeks, why did they have them in the first place? for the tax credits, child benefit and the year of work...why did you have yours?

off OFF work not of work - blimey I pay nursery to do the work!

We have 8 weeks here. I can understand how people find it tough. Both dh and I are off for most of the 8 weeks so I love it, there is no routine here at all. But if I were off on my own with 5 dc for 8 weeks I would go crazy

I work full time.

Mine costs me £10 a day! (including money to get lunch)

I'm skint. It's raining. It is never going to stop raining.

I freelance. I can't take 6.5 weeks off. So what happens is, apart from 2 weeks of no work (and NO money, I don't get paid when I don't work) I have 4.5 weeks of entertaining DS during the day and working from 6pm - midnight.

This is my life, I have chosen it, I wouldn't swap it and I love being with DS. But 4 weeks of that is a fucking grind, tbh. So yes, I have been known to moan about the length of the school holidays on Facebook. I'd much prefer, for example, 3 weeks at Christmas and Easter and only 4 at the summer.

I am on week 4 with a child in cast I have every right to moan a tad

Now mine are older and they go out and play its much easier during the holidays, I used to dread them when they were small

But ive always worked full time so have to pay £300+ a week for holiday clubs and that's even more upsetting.

I have a bored 19 yr old who has been finished college since the middle of June and doesnt start back till september sigh

I know I've moaned in the past. When DD2 was younger she liked to see a calendar full of events. I prefer to take life as it comes. She's 15 now so she does organise some things with her friends. She'll still expect me to do a fair bit of entertaining though. Lunches out , shopping trips, days out (but not too far away because she doesn't like too long in the car ). but overall, I do enjoy the school holidays. Less routine needed.

I don't think it's your place to judge, as we all know from mn everyone has different circumstances.

Now my eldest 2 are teens I don't see them and they will look after dd2 while I work, but when they were younger the thought of being off with them was horrible.

It would be tediously tiring, the bickering and cost of entertaining them drove me mad. they always have other children round which is fine but does mean dealing with other parents. Plus they get bored by week 4 or 5.
It was really not good for my career to need all that time off. My job is what pays for the house, the cars, the food and everything else they use. Damaging it is not good or all of us.

So no I don't want to spend all that time with them it's boring, tiring and inconvenient.

I have two lovely children who I really enjoy spending time with. I work nights though and the school holidays mean me going without sleep!!

I work Sunday night, so try to sleep Monday. I work Tuesday and Wednesday night, so have childcare arranged for Wednesday but try to sleep on Thursdays.

I try this on the sofa, with the DCs parked in front of the TV. It is never very successful.

I still love the holidays though, as we have a beach, some lovely parks and Butlins to go to. As long as they are busy, they are ok.

8 week helliday here!
2 weeks down..
Not too bad, thus far..
Although the bright voice only lasted til we drove out of school car park.
Am SAHM. Have resigned self to getting nothing done that needs doing til September....
I'm very happy for those mums who love having kids round ALL THE TIME.
But I'm not one of them!