to think that being a fussy eater in someone else's home is actually quite rude?

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And never even to TRY new things? Or appreciate the efforts of the host (who has multiple food sensitivites) to cater for everyone and try to provide healthy fare? And to not even feel a little bit bad about being fussy?

The not eating a fish with its head on and suchlike is common, but that one definitely is childish. It's preciousness, and if you can't handle the idea that fish have heads, you should be a vegetarian.
the amount of grown women who will squeal like toddlers at "things with eyes" or whatever is just pathetic.

bogeyface sorry but i dont give a frigg what people can and cant eat i am not running a nandoes

When i invite someone for dinner come with a hugrey belly and wine and leave the moaning at home

We run a stcit eat what yur given or fuck off in my house oh complined about a dinner once said he dosent like cod

Gets what now he eats cod funny that

bogey the problem there was that people seem to have different ideas as to what constitutes 'most things'.

I deliberatly rewound and replayed an ad on TV the other day of a fish with eyes cooking in the oven, its eyes popped and H was nearly sick. I lmao, cos I am sensitive like that!

Mrbo having friends and family with severe allergies and health problems means that as much as I would like to be like that, I cant or I would have killed several people by now. It does make you realise that things arent always that simple.

Noble. "Most" is a large proportion, if I was to put a figure on it I would say 75%+, and i would assume that most people (ie more than three quarters!) would say the same. Happy to be corrected though.

I didnt grow up in poverty, but a choice was not an option at mealtimes. We ate what was on the plate, or we did without. It was never anything fancy anyway, my mums cooking was plain lancashire fayre.. predictable and unpretentious.

I was apparently a picky eater until I was 3, and then had my tonsils out. My mum always said that from then on I ate whatever was put in front of me.

Another thing in our house was no snacking. You got breakfast, dinner and tea (thats lunch and dinner for you southerners! ), and supper.. but no eating between meals, so you were always ready to eat when it was served.

Indeed, bogeyface but apparently if I say that I eat potatoes and various veg, then I am disqualified, despite the amount of things that I don't eat still being in the majority.

yellow - could well be a reaction against your brother (my poor Mother had two fussy eaters. Poor woman was the best cook for miles around, people would cross three counties to eat her steak and kidney pudding, yet did her children appreciate it? No, we were ungrateful brats).

OR could be different palates. Some people are more sensitive to taste than others. Toddlers, for instance, can perceive bitter flavours far more strongly than adults - just as a child's hearing is better than an adults. Thought to be for evolutionary reasons, to stop the younger members of the tribe going off and eating berries without supervision. They suddenly become sensitive to the sulphonomide compounds (IIRC) that create the bitter taste of green veg esp. brassica around 18 months, just at the point where back in the day they'd be exploring the forest in a hunter-gatherer society.

I doubt any adult is as sensitive to sulphonomides as a toddler is, but some people are far more sensitive to flavours - they get called 'super tasters' in the literature. Presumably some of them find their way into wine tasting or tea tasting or other fields of work, and some of them just spend their lives being called fussy eaters.

Most can probably vary slightly between different circles, in my circle of friends about 50% of us are veggie so saying you eat most foods would assume most veggie foods. In a circle where all but one eat meat being a veggie would probably automatically mean you don't eat most foods, so could be classed as fussy.

If we are going by 75% + of foods I probably eat about 95% of veggie foods so wouldn't class as a fussy vegetarian. There is only one veggie thing I won't eat, it just happens to be a reasonably popular one so people are surprised if you don't eat it.

How popular the food you dislike is matters to whether you are classed as fussy, if you won't eat any form of pasta, you would probably be classed as fussy, if you won't eat any form of liver (as an example) you wouldn't be. It is still only the dislike of one food, it's just one of them is used in far more dishes!

What do you mean by fussy? Are they fussy coz they dont eat what u make. Not everyone likes the same thing. If i invite someone over for food il arrange with them what food we will have.

If you hav someone over & u ask if they would like to stay for tea. Tell them what you are having & let them make the choice of whether to stay or not.

noble have you seen a docter about the stuff that makes you Ill?

As to the other stuff it may be an unpopular view but it does sound very much like it's drama for the sake of it and if you do actually want to socialize normally at events that invole food your probally going to need to just grow up and deal with it but obviously that's only if you do want to

I reckon that if you went to a doctor and said 'prawns go straight through me' they'd say 'well don't eat prawns then'.

Anyway, having just looked further into the supertaster thing, they mention coffee, alcohol, strawberries, olives and other stuff I don't like as being unpalatable to a supertaster. Perhaps those of you who eat a wide variety of food are simply lacking in tastebuds and can't taste it the way I do

Actually, I think they'd say: its not physically possible for prawns to "go through you in 10 mins", not even close.

I'd say that I eat and enjoy a wide variety of foods. I strongly dislike coffee and olives, and also strong spirits.

I could and would force myself to eat/drink a little of all those things in certain social situations. I just remind myself its not going to kill me and get on with swallowing.

Have never heard of this super taster thing before. Hmmm.

I do get the impression that more and more adults nurture their pickiness these days. It just seems to be something that people are almost proud of. Obviously I'm not talking about genuine intolerances or allergies or sensory issues or small children (obligatory disclaimer because apparently it's not blindingly obvious that those groups should be excluded from tutting on the part of the hosts) but about adults who are capable of eating, or at least trying and if necessary, pretending to eat, food cooked in good faith in someone else's house.

If you're childishly awkward picky, then have the courtesy to tell your host well beforehand. I'll happily accommodate my friend who doesn't like garlic, for instance, or my husband who really dislikes fish (actually, I mostly growl about him not eating fish, PITA), or someone else I know who doesn't like chocolate at all, so I won't make brownies for pudding. But there's something very self-indulgent about an adult in full health who sits there picking tiny pieces of red pepper out of his pasta sauce. Grow up.

But you said loads of stuff makes you unwell. I'm now confused.

Bogey. It WOULD be 'nothing' if the food had coconut in. I would rather go hungry than vomit.

And yes, sock, the pans...the cutlery, the cooking utensils etc. I have different colour ones for different allergies.

I have given up, it's easier to always be the host tbh, and safer for my DC's.

penis yes it is.

I once decided I was allergic to courgettes.. because the first time I had them, in a prawn and pasta bake, I was violently ill with food poisoning. I had eaten prawns all my life, without any problem, and so decided it couldnt be them.

I was 17 at the time and my parents had gone away for the first time, leaving me on my own.. I had such great plans for fun.. but spent the first 3 days sat on the loo with a bucket in front of me, and the next four feeling weak as a kitten.

I didnt eat courgette again for about 15 years until common sense told me that I got food poisoning from dodgy prawns..

I would hazard a bet that many (not all of course) people who claim to be allergic to things after eating them once, quite possibly are not actually allergic to them and the "reaction" was purely co-incidental.

Many food allergies are a modern "ailment" that didnt seem to affect people until the last 20 years..

No, it isn't.

I agree OP. Had dinner with some family members the other day and 20 year old was horrified that the chicken had come ON THE BONE. Jesus. Grow up.

I have serious, all consuming mental health issues, I was recently an IP for 3 months in a psychiatric hospital and did not eat any of their food during that time. I brought my own in or went hungry. I am a fussy eater I guess, I don't like spice at all, no chillies, no black pepper etc I can tolerate a korma in terms of spicyness. I won't eat messy food, I won't eat fish with bones, I won't eat courgettes. It is endless. I choose my food by what I dislike the least and have spent much of my life struggling with food. I actually do eat/like quite a lot of food but it can be really hard to find something that is not spicy, once I find a restaurant or food I like I go with it.

I am pretty polite, I try to eat what is in front of me, sometimes I eat it and then vomit it up afterwards.

I wouldn't tell everyone all of the above because it is personal and difficult and embarrassing. So you might think I am fussy and awkward but why should I correct you by disclosing such personal information? Why should I justify it? You have no idea how hard it is to live like that, no idea. So people can think I am fussy all they want.

It is not physically possible for the body to digest something into it being shat out in ten minutes.. puked up yes, but ejected from the arse.. nope!

But Couthy if food that you dont even know contains coconut makes you physically sick then that is an intolerance, as your body cant deal with it, rather than just "I dont like coconut...waaaaahhhh....cater to my princessiness!" is it?

No one would expect you to eat that or starve as it would probably kill you first, I was talking about genuine pickiness.

Noble It really ISNT possible. It takes several hours for food to go from one end to the other and can take up to a couple of days to be eliminated completely. I have found that if my IBS is playing up, when I eat something I have to go to the loo very very quickly afterwards, as it sends my system into overdrive. But I am not getting rid of what I have just eaten, it simply is not physically possible!