to be upset over the comment on my 'baby weight'?

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Dh is extremely supportive of DS ( 3 months old) and I. Has been doting over me pre and post pregnancy. Recently been posted abroad and we have followed.
I have always been petite (size 6), however post birth have been size 12 for the last 3 months. I had an c section. In all honesty have not exercised as busy with the move and baby, as primary sole carer for the baby. I am not concerned as would like to spend a few months nurturing and enjoying the baby, gym will be there in six months time too.

PILs came to visit for the weekend and lovingly(not!) commented on how if I don't tackle my "tummy" it would stay. When I was in the kitchen, overheard FIL mention in the passing I ought to be disciplined as laziness is an easy trap to fall in. Since we have a gym in our building Mil suggested taking the baby in sling on the treadmill!! Fil wondered why i could not take long walks as I am home all day (its 48 degrees) outside.These words were not meant for my ears but I was rightly(?) upset. MY lovely DH stood up for me saying I am the best mom he has known and he is in no rush for my pre pregnancy body to return.

However, a seed has been planted in DH's head as he has since the weekend started commenting on the fact its been whole 3 months and I havent hit the treadmill as I used to prebaby.
Yesterday he was looking at our wedding pics and jokingly remarked pointing at my svelte self "this is the woman I marrired". He then realised the error of his ways and smiled adding " No worries, you will get there"/

Now this perhaps its storm in a tea cup, but AIBU to be upset over it? PILs plan to visit in a month's time again...should I invest in some spandex???

PS must mention I have never in the many years we have been together seen MIL or SIL (her daughter) anything less than rather portly, I am not being superficial I am wondering about people living in glass houses.... In fact I was " too skinny" in their eyes pre pregnancy.

YANBU. Thoughtless bastards.

YANBU. I'll go for DH balls with a blunt spoon in your position. Fucking arseholing bastards.

Ffs. Please ignore.

They are rude and horrible. It really pisses me off when people make comments like that. Its only been 3 months. Even if it was 3 years, its none of their business.

If its any comfort, loads of people get rude comments like that from relatives. I got an up and down look after a year post pregnancy with 'didn't you breast feed?? I would've thought you'd lost all your weight by now' from a relative.

YANBU. And perhaps if there are further comments you can point out to your husband that he married a person rather than a dress size.

This is a 'far side of fuck' situation. They are being arseholes.

The baby is EBF! I somehow eat more than normal as I feel a lot hungrier. I had heard regarding BF leading to weightloss, however as I now realise its not true for everyone.

Yanby.
a, its none of their business
b, your husband was, momentarily, being a dick
c, its ONLY been 3 months.
Unless its getting you down its nothing to worry about.

Don't feel bad, you had a c section, if you don't feel up to stretching etc. then don't. It's you who had quite a substantial operation to get a healthy baby out and alive and maybe they should be reminded of that. It takes a lot longer to recover from that than a natural delivery.

DH is thoughtless but not a full scale bastard. ILS are fat bastards.

YANBU.

My MIL kept congratulating me on losing weight after DS was born. It was it was just coincidence, I didn't actually try to lose weight, and it pissed me off because it made me feel like she was monitoring me and expecting me to lose the weight. In the end every time she asked "have you lost weight" I just said "no." She got the message.

Whatever about your PILs, what your DH said was incredibly mean. The "you'll get there" comment strongly implies that you should be getting back down to your pre pregnancy weight, which is a horrible thing to suggest to a new mum who has so much on her mind. It's totally up to you whether you want to lose weight or not and if you don't that's none of your DH's business. Size 12 isn't fat by any means.

Your baby is three months old. Tell them all to fuck off and your DH needs to be more supportive of the fact that you had major surgery 12 weeks ago.

Ignore them. They are obviously Daily Mail readers and think seeing as every sleb can ping back to pre-baby size in 3 days, with a tummy tuck so can ordinary people.

Your instinct to enjoy your baby is right. Those first months are so very precious, go so quickly, and never come back. This is one time when you absoltely shouldn't be beating yourself up about weight.

If your dh says it again reply
'and I married a nice person, it seems we all change'

YANBU. Makes me very .
You sound like you are comfortable with your post baby body and have had your confidence drained away by these stupid comments.
It's no consolation to you, but in the few days following my c-section, with big still pregnant looking tummy, my FIL asked me what my exercise regime I was doing to get back in shape . And he is a seriously fat bastard.

The only thing that stopped my MIL commenting on my weight was me pointing out I'm a size 14 to her size 24+. Sometimes you just need to be as rude back to people.

Idiots.
If it helps, I'm in the same situation as you, apart from I started as a size 14 and I'm now an 18.
Also, don't take the baby on a treadmill if you are running, the joggling can be bad for their heads and necks.
If I were you I would shout at DH next time he alludes to your weight, make sure he's really aware of how you feel.

What free said ^

Why are women almost expected nowadays to be back to pre-baby size,looking great,and no doubt having rampant sex within weeks of having a baby? Theres always expectations put on women to be nothing less than perfect in every role in their life.

Does your husband know you heard what they said? I would tell him that it really upset you and you were worried when he started saying what he did because it made it sound like he was starting to think like them. Please say something to him so you can nip it in the bud, as I'm sure he'll realise that he's being silly to make comments like that, and you'll be happier because you can explain that 3 months is nothing and it won't develop into further tension with PIL.

Erm puke how?

How rude of them. When DS was 3 months I could barely get to the shops, he was still feeding so often. No way should you be taking a baby on a treadmill. If you remain a size 12 for the rest of your life, that's fine. It's a perfectly healthy size and having a baby changes you.

Loving what Bronze said!