We need a 2nd car. AIBU to want a “fun car?”

[FireBlade918]

Hi,

I'm dropping down to 4 day working week to look after my daughter on Fridays. Wife is building up to a 4 day working week so DD will have a 3 day nursery week. Up to now I've been using my motorbike to commute to work (while Wife on maternity) but Wife will now have car on Fridays so we need a second car otherwise DD & I will be confined to the village on Fridays. The car will just be used for Friday adventures with DD, we already have have a sensible car for sensible chores.

So am I being unreasonable to want a fun car - aka ?Daddies magic flying carpet ? ???

In terms of cash we have more than enough savings that DW enjoys controlling. The savings have been earn't jointly i.e. 50/50. We moved house a year ago, spent lots, still have lots of work/expenditure ahead but all in budget. Its not a question of funding. Sensible / Boring the car will still cost the same.

Basically, if we elect to buy a sensible (boring) 5 door front wheel drive car then Wife is happy to use our savings i.e. the money is ?allowed? to come out of ?our savings?. If I want a 2 door rear wheel drive rag top (fun car) then I have to sell ?my toys? to fund it.

AIBU or is she being manipulative?

Kind regards,
Mr Fire Blade

This is going way off piste but it seems like there is nothing to lose...

1. We've been sleeping apart since DD arrived 1 year ago. We haven't had sex for at least 3-4 months (at least since i quit smoking). Probably less than 6 times in 18 months, and not that frequent before DD's conception. Its sparse.

1. RVF400 has refused to revisit the marriage councillor since the councillor referred her to a specialist "lady councillor". RVF felt like she was being judged and victimised. She was referred in 2007.

FireBlade why are you blabbing your Wife's personal info on a public forum?

Because I'm fed up with being the bad guy.

Riiiiight and this makes you the good guy does it?

Extraordinary. And so embarrassing. I'm mortified for the 'pair' of you if indeed you are a pair. If not - jolly good wheeze.

I'm afraid I'd divorce you though - or encourage you to jump out of that plane sans parachute!

Wow, you're a [insertinsulthere]

Very emotionally abusive to post all these horrible things about your wife on a forum. The implication she 'tricked' you into a family too? She could just fuck off if it wasn't for your little girl?

DW (forgot username) PLEASE leave this manchild! He's emotionally abusive, selfish and a bully. Let him buy 'daddies magic flying carpet'

...He'll need it for his 'adventures' to picking up DD for access.

I very much hope this is a fake thread, because I just want to hold the wife if it is real. :(

Forgot to leave out the emotional blackmail part of the EA...

Public humiliation...

You ft oh so neatly in the EA box.

Cringe factor 90.

Hope RVF400 is ok.

That is all.

Maybe not but I'm pissed off and out of ideas, what do you suggest?

I suggest she divorces the ass and seizes the assets.

Then gets her own magic flying carpet...Away from you.

I suggest you go to Relate on your own, and talk about how you feel. You might be able to work out some strategies with an objective professional on how to approach you wife constructively.

I can see it being another 3-4months before you get sex too after this

Kleptronic, from the jargon I would guess you have been through something similar. Are you big enough to speak in an open forum about your experiences?

Squeaky and the rest!

You can try asking questions and see if I'll answer.

I apologise for all vitriolic comments that I posted past 7pm last night. I've somehow succeeded in having a complete argument with her all on my own.

Having had time to reflect I think it boils down to trust. She thinks I'm screwing her over in terms of cash hence her comments about being a mug. Conversely I think she has taken me for a ride in terms of not being given a choice about being a father. These are the real issues that need to be addressed.

I will discuss them with her when she wakes up.

In the mean time, once again I apologise for my conduct yesterday evening.

Your sincerely,
FB.

Someone has their tail between their legs..

Hope you and your wife find a way to cope with each other.

Wow.
Sadly, this is not a fake thread. Think it might be time for a Namechange.
Incidentally, i.m amazed by the apology. that's a very rare thing from DH. I note it's not directed at me though!

I bought a two seater after having Ds. The two of us had such fun zooming around with the roof down

Then surprise Dd came along, and it rained every day for 6 months. I last drove it in august 2011. It's on the drive covered with sticks and leaves and moss. And no one will buy it because it's rained every day for six months

I now drive a micra [uncool]

Oh and the neighbours hate us because we've got too many cars

I started off finding this thread, then a light hearted shock when the dw turned up. Now I just feel really sad for the dd. You need to stop thinking about yourselves, especially Fireblade. You have brought someone else into the world who needs you to be rational and mature.
So, so sad!

Oops, meant
finding this thread amusing

You don't like each other at all, do you? :(

We're considering a second car now but are having to look at 4 seats due to twins. We can't have 1 car with only 2 seats in case of us having to do an emergency pick up fro somewhere when luck would have it, the wrong one of us would have the 2 seater. Is it really practical to have a second car that you can't use as a family though?

What about an Audi TT, it is possible to safely have child seats in the rear.

We had a 308cc prior to DTs and a Scooby....DH is looking a scoobies and Evos as the second caragain.

Good grief. Am speechless. Hope you are both actually talking to each other now. I also hope that you can separate your lives in an amicable way, for your daughter's sake.