to think we should be able to choose what our kids eat for lunch?

[Cuddler]

My friends son is starting school in September and she has been given a whole list of things he isn't allowed in his lunch box.Not just for allergy reasons,i understand those,but things like,no cheese sandwiches,as thats dairy and carbs together,and no ham as its processed,no yogurts if they have sweeteners in them.No tropical fruits,only berries,apples,pears and peaches,they are better for concentration.no white bread.No pasteurized juice.

I'm not saying that the above isn't true,my kids don't have sugary yogurts or white bread sandwiches,BUT i would like to think they could have them if they wanted to,and i do think that this is going about things in the wrong way?In the grand scheme of things,a cheese sandwich,a frube,a banana and some apple juice isn't that bad is it?I mean it could be worse?

Sorry, don't know if anyone else has asked but which yogurts are good re low/no sugar? I didn't even think about sugar in frubes,etc.

Oh ffs cuddlers It is categorically not a fact that you can be born a fussy eater And you know this how exactly?

Do you know anything about sensory processing disorders? Or supertasters? Why are some people's noses so valuable to the wine and perfume industries? To claim that we all process taste and texture in the exact same way is ridiculous.

I take back my apology btw. Are you Micahel Gove? Or a DM hack? What exactly is your agenda?

Absolute bollocks cuddler. You talk bollocks.
Hth

Rachels organics my first yogurts dont have added sugar yougoonie i think they're just sweetened with apple juice. Theres another brand too but cant remember the name. Its in the kids yogurt section at tescos though.

I'm sure I remember an edition of New Scientist covering the faddy food gene.

or I might be lying

My DD is a bad eater (nearly typed shit eater but realised it looked like she was an eater of shit, she's bad but not that bad) She was BLW. DS will try anything. He had shop bought purees.

It's all down to the attitude of the child imo.

Apparently the human sense of smell and taste depends on 1000 genes. In lots of people 50 of these genes are switched off resulting in certain things tasting radically different to them. Different people have different genes switched on and off which is why some pople love things that other people hate.

I think coriander is an example commonly used of a flavour that tastes delicious to some wheeras othes would rather lick the devil's armpit than consume it.

cuddlers the misinformation in your OP is just another example of the utter nonsense which feeds a general disdain for teachers and for state education, a disdain which is often based on complete ignorance.

This kind of tosh frightens inexperienced parents in much the same way that generations of children were petrified of going to secondary school, because everyone knows that all the 1st years get their heads flushed down the loo by Gripper Stebson.

The DM would love this story because it demonstrates yet more political correctness gone mad. Gove would love it because it helps justify their removal of nutritional (and other) standards at academy schools. You love it because you fancy yourself as not being "mainstream" (whatever that is).

Can you understand why people might react so strongly?

If you have a toddler whovis a great water this is lovely, u rub your friends nose right in it, I had 4 fussy eaters and was very upset by comments such as it was my fault they were like this blah blah.

Fast forward 22 years to oldest and 12 to youngest and I have slim athletic kids who eat anything but food isn't the be all and end off of their lives...

However the main cow who always crowed that her kids ate so well now has 3 very fat teens as food was always so important to them.

Ha ha ga ha ha ha.

Cuddler. You might be a healthy eating guru who has never put a foot wrong when feeeding your children but your social skills could do with some work.

I have to say thebody that if I had the choice of being the mother constantly worried about their DC overeating or the mother constantly worried about their DC not eating, I'd choose the latter any day. Although I would prefer it if he expanded his range of food, not least because I am actually a really good cook and it makes me really sad that we can't eat together (he has sensory food aversion). Apparently it's often linked to being G&T though

Haven't read the whole thread, but what actually IS allowed? Surely that would be a shorter list...

I haven't read the whole thread bu OP I don't think this is true for a minute

Exactly dowager I agree ( now) but people do make you feel so inadequate don't they?

Soz could you explain G&T??

No, its not true, OP is a twat made a mistake;

It wad just some guidelines/recomendations from the school

lol Cuddler. You have so much to learn. What a blinkered, moronic post.

thebody - yes they do. It's taken me years to get to the point where I accept it. He's been like it since he was weaned and he's now nearly 6. G&T = gifted and talented. It was a bit tongue in cheek!

Actually DS2 is very very bright....

Oh Lordy!!!

Firstly, I'd remove my child from any school that stipulated such rubbish and secondly, if they saw what my ds (who has Selective Eating Disorder) has for his lunch every day, we'd be told to leave!!

Every single day, he has a carton of apple juice (made from concentrate), a Nutella sandwich made on 2 rounds of white bread, an apple that he usually eats at playtime, a chewy bar or little cake type thing and a pot of cucumber (no skin on). If I don't pack those items, or swap something for a different choice without telling him, he wouldn't eat it.

If, one day, I gave him ham sanwiches on brown bread, he would starve and have no lunch. Surely it's better to give the child a reasonable lunch compared to no lunch!

I've also heard there are schools who say no packed lunch allowed and that all children have to have school dinners - that's nanny state gone too far as well!

The phrase "pride comes before a fall" spring to mind OP

Thats gonna be one mighty fall then. Although it stinks a little of competitive parenting, normally caused by insecurity in ones own abilities, and that same insecurity manifesting itself in a rather unpleasant way. Should feel sorry for the op really.

Dowager lol to G&T. Sure your ds will be absolutely fine. My kids worried the life out of me, but you get to the point where you think food battles just arnt worth it. You just do your best and it all works out fine in the end.

Agree all last posts, never be smug as a parent because it comes back to bite your arse.

Oh I am chilled now. I generally don't give a fuck except when I have to explain DS's limited diet if he gets invited to play somewhere. And despite that, he is happy and well and has grown 3 cms in 3 months so clearly he's not terribly nutritionally deprived.

I expect it's all those cheese sandwiches :o

I have just noticed that Cuddlers childen are all 4 and under!!! She's in for a rude awakening methinks!

He/she might not, you know. Some children are just not fussy eaters. I often wonder how it is that I could end up with a 6yo who prefers asparagus and broad beans to carrots. What did I do right/wrong? Of course it is all my doing. Children have no free will.

Hi,

I'm a reporter at the Argus, in Brighton, and I've been asked to look into this post.

We think it's a story people would like to know more about and I was wondering if you might be able to tell me a little more about the guidelines or if possible put me in touch with your friend. Obviously we would be able to quote anonymously to prevent any ill-will before you've started school. If you could drop me an email or call me on 01273 544511 or email [email protected]