To think fuck it! I will get sterilised instead!

[susiemumof]

Yes I probably am bu but I am ill and tired and totally fed up.

Agreement was always that dh was going to get the snip once our family was complete. I am 8 years younger than him and I know they would not be keen to sterilise me due to my age and the fact I had a devastating late miscarriage last year after discovering there were problems with the baby. This is another factor in not wanting to be pg again as we are at a high risk of something similar happening again. The doctor has already told me though that they are not keen on sterilising woman who have recently been through it.

I have three gorgeous children who I love with all my heart, my family is complete and I want to move onto the next stage.

Dh seen his doc this morning, he has a navy doctor so not being refered from a nhs doctor.

Anyway the drama I have had since he came home makes me think he has mistakenly thought I had asked him to snip his balls of with blunt scissors. It's like he has been replaced with dev from corrie with the over the top acting and hand gestures I am getting.

To top it all off he has requested they send him on a 10 hour round trip so that he can get a general rather than local anaesthetic!

Have just told him if he is going to be such a pussy about it I will go and see about it myself!

Sorry was meant to read we only planned one or two of our five pregnancies.

Dc2 was neither planned or unplanned

and women almost always ^

susie...

I know you are not asking him to do it. Nobody misunderstands you in this thread, they just think you have a horrible attitude towards your husband because of what you write.

Why are you being so harsh?
He's going to get the snip, he just wants a GA. He'll still be up and about quicker than if you were sterilised.

And to be honest, if I were a man, I'd want one too. I've had (to some) a relatively minor op. I had to have a GA.
I used to have to be knocked out to go to the dentist!

And if you think that's being a wimp, so what? If you don't understand phobias (or in my case, sheer terror), then it says more about you than him.

so dh doesnt want to be awake when he has his balls cut open - but happy to have op down as long as have a general but its a 5 hr drive to hospital

a tad wimpy as can be done in 20mins under a local but fair enough, least he is happy to have the op - unlike many dh on mn

i would drive him and get a friend to look after your kids or get a friend to drive him and you have kids/work as normal

I'm not actually to fussed about him getting the GA (I think he is a wimp for asking and would say that about anyone else)

So then you would call me a wimp for having my sterilisation done under a GA? How about all the other women who had it done under GA? Not that I had a choice, that is how they did it. Would you say this for all men if that was how vasectomies were routinely done?

I find your attitude really off. You can't even be nice about the fact that he said he would do it. You just want to berate him for his 'drama'. I don't think you can judge anyone in this situation, tbh. It is unfair to call people wimps for not wanting to be awake through an op, not matter how minor it is!

tyler80 I struggle with this too, tbh. I wanted to be sterilised at dd2's birth (section) but they said not, and one reason being that I could be reacting to a traumatic pregnancy.

I asked my dr at my 6 week check, no, for the same reason. I had to wait a year (in which time I became pregnant accidentally, which ended in termination because I couldn't put my body through pregnancy again). But my dh enquired about it & they said they would do it as soon as he was ready (he is dr phobic, so this is a far as he got) as a private patient. My friends dh had it done 2 weeks after their third was born.

My hubby is very very squeamish and said he'd have it done under GA. Its his body and he has to go through it he can get it done any way he wants to!
BTW female sterilisation has a 1 in 250 failure rate. Not high enough odds for me!