AIBU to think that neighbour's son shouldn't have hammered on the door at 6.45am for no good reason?

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This morning, mad hammering at the back door at 6.45am - wtf? DS2 was in bed so it wasn't him trying to get in after a big night out and no key.

DH went down to find next-door-but-one teenage DS who wanted to point out that it was pouring with rain and the car window was open, interior of car was soaked. So far, so neighbourly - except - IT'S NOT OUR CAR YOU TWIT!

Our car was parked, as always, in front of the house. This car, nothing like our car, was parked outside the back of neighbour-on-the-other-side house AND ITS NOT HER CAR EITHER.

AIBU to think that he shouldn't have knocked?

comedycentral No, why would we set off up and down the street knocking on everyone's door at 6.45am in the pouring rain? I think that 6.45am is anti-social for anyone bar milkmen, postmen and newspaper boys.

for next-door-but-one DS.

Holycamera of course I'm not suggesting he was being vindictive just a bit dim.

Drip feeding information.

So let me get this straight. You live in a terrace. The car was parked a long way from your house.

at 6.45 am, a teenage boy tells you (and only you) that a car which was parked a long way from your house has its windows open.

He did not tell anyone else.

Could you even see the car?

This is a very strange story.

I don't understand the problem then?

If he genuinely thought it was your car he did the right thing by knocking to let you know about the window/rain YABU.

If he knew it wasn't your car and was knocking to be annoying/wind you up then YANBU.

Maybe dim, but he was trying to be helpful.

enimead I am not drip feeding. the car wasn't parked outside our house - it was parked outside our neighbour's house, as I said in the OP. He didn't ask anyone else about it. The car was visible (just) from our kitchen window.

My view is this:
6.45 is too early to be knocking people out of bed on a weekend.
I don't know what would have made him think it was our car.
I don't think it matters if a car gets a bit wet inside from rain.
he's a nice lad, but why didn't he ask anyone else as he clearly had no idea whose car it was.

Hive says IABU - so be it.

Ok you're not being unreasonable what a thoughtless little shit.

That better?

takingiteasy as I said he's a nice lad. He isn't a little shit.

It's the sort of thing my DS would do (try to help others i mean) and he is neither vindictive nor dim.

You on the other hand sound pretty horrible, glad you're not my neighbour.

betty I didn't say he was vindictive.

Is this the most pointless AIBU in the history of AIBU?

He is a nice lad, who did a nice thing, but a made a slight mistake and woke you up a bit early on a Saturday? That's the jist?

Yabu, what if it had have been your car?
I wish people were as thoughtful in my neighbourhood!!
I don't think you should be annoyed at all he was only trying to be neighbourly

what sort of neighbour would you prefer to have carabos?

One who spots a potential problem and thinks 'fuck it, not my problem' and walks on?

Or one who tries to help?

Teenagers (and particularly teenage boys) can be quite intimidated in adult company (I wonder why ) so this boy has not only indicated that he is a good neighbour but he has also shown courage and maturity.

If that had been my door he had knocked on, I would be making sure his parents knew what a fine and lovely young man they had raised.

Not coming on here bitching about having been woken early.

And you did suggest that he might be a bit dim which is mean and bullying behaviour from a grown woman

I hope next time it is your car, and no one gives a shit.

6.45am isn't the middle of the night or anything.

Calling him dim is uncalled for. He thought he was helping.

I think this post sums up the older generations dire attitude to teenagers - fecking awful, they can't win if they are bad and they can't win if they help

ivy I have two sons myself. One of them a teenager.

You really don't want to admit to being unreasonable to you? :o Don't ask if you won't like the answer.

Yeah why not help him to find the owner? Wellies on, coat over your pj's, knock on a few doors...you get my drift. He is a good neighbour whilst you come across as a little bit single minded.

Exactly Ivy, I have 3 teenagers and enjoy their company very much. Ditto their friends, some of the loveliest, interesting, most inspirational people I know

Does he look out for the nighbours carabos? What have you taught him to do in that situation?

holy camera In what situation? I've just asked him actually. He looked like this and said he probably wouldn't have noticed the window being open and if he didn't know whose car it was he wouldn't have done anything about it.