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Original poster

AIBU to think that neighbour's son shouldn't have hammered on the door at 6.45am for no good reason?

93 replies

carabos · 30/06/2012 15:19

This morning, mad hammering at the back door at 6.45am - wtf? DS2 was in bed so it wasn't him trying to get in after a big night out and no key.

DH went down to find next-door-but-one teenage DS who wanted to point out that it was pouring with rain and the car window was open, interior of car was soaked. So far, so neighbourly - except - IT'S NOT OUR CAR YOU TWIT!

Our car was parked, as always, in front of the house. This car, nothing like our car, was parked outside the back of neighbour-on-the-other-side house AND ITS NOT HER CAR EITHER. Angry

AIBU to think that he shouldn't have knocked?

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comedycentral · 30/06/2012 15:22

It could have been your car though. He was being neighbourly.

OhNoMyFanjo · 30/06/2012 15:24

Charming, but not to worry next time when it is your car I'm sure he won't bother now.

enimmead · 30/06/2012 15:24

What did he say to him?
Will he continue to be neighbourly?

larks35 · 30/06/2012 15:24

YABU he was trying to be neighbourly, if it had been your car you would have appreciated the knock wouldn't you? FWIW I've lived here for near enough 6 years and haven't got a clue whose car is whose round here, I just don't notice these things. I knocked on 3 sets of neighbours' doors when I've noticed lights left on, the car didn't belong to any of them either, mind you this was more like 6.45pm not am.

Original poster
carabos · 30/06/2012 15:25

enimead
DH thanked him and pointed out that it isn't our car. Reminded him which is our car.

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treas · 30/06/2012 15:26

YABU

Blueoctopus · 30/06/2012 15:26

Not sure what I think.
I think maybe YAB a tiny bit U. He was only trying to help, I'm sure he thought he was doing a good deed and it was 6:45am so not exactly the middle of the night.

HolyCameraConfusionBatman · 30/06/2012 15:26
Confused

He thought it was your car?

Or are you saying you think he got up at 6:45am, came out in the rain, made up the thing about the car, just to vindictively wake you up early?

TouTou · 30/06/2012 15:27

Personally, I think the teen was being neighbourly. It may have been early, but had it been your car you would have been incredibly grateful and would have seen it as a bloody good reason to hammer on your door.

HTH Grin

enimmead · 30/06/2012 15:28

Do you think teenagers know who owns which car on a street?
Most don't even know what day it is.

LurkingAndLearningForNow · 30/06/2012 15:28

YABU. He was being kind and made a mistake about who the car belonged to.

I take it you're not a morning person? Grin

Original poster
carabos · 30/06/2012 15:30

enimead I agree with you - so why would you knock when you didn't know whose car it was (and it wasn't parked outside our house)? Confused

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picnicbasketcase · 30/06/2012 15:30

I'd probably be cross too, but his heart was in the right place. And 6.45 isn't that early really. 4.45 and you'd definitely not be unreasonable.

HolyCameraConfusionBatman · 30/06/2012 15:34

carabos this is just a guess, but....because he mde a mistake and thought it was you car?....because he was trying to find out who the car belonged to?

enimmead · 30/06/2012 15:37

Because he hadn't found the owner? Maybe someone was staying at your house?

I think he was trying to do the right thing and that is important.

Original poster
carabos · 30/06/2012 15:39

The car wasn't parked outside our house.

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imnotmymum · 30/06/2012 15:39

wish someone would have woken me up to tell me when I left my windows open soggy bottom on the school run !! YABU

TouTou · 30/06/2012 15:40

enimmead - it's quite sweet when you think about it. You hear about how shite teenage boys are all the time, they never seem to get good press. I go all warm and fuzzy to think about this chap running around the place at stupid o'clock trying to find the owner. A bit daft of him, but still sweet.

LurkingAndLearningForNow · 30/06/2012 15:42

I think you should be a bit more grateful that he was lovely enough to care carabos Hmm

enimmead · 30/06/2012 15:42

Is it a big street? A cul de sac?

Did he knock on anyone else's house?
Were you the first?

He may have knocked on all the other houses in the street and had no luck.

Of course, he could have ignored it. Or gone through the car and stolen stuff. But he didn't - he probably went around loads of houses because he was worried.

Some people are like that. They care about other people and will do their best to solve a problem.

Did he find the owner?

Original poster
carabos · 30/06/2012 15:43

TouTou I agree with you - but he didn't do that. He knocked on our door, got the answer in the negative and then went on his way...

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Original poster
carabos · 30/06/2012 15:44

enimead its a terrace of houses. He didn't knock on any other doors because we would have heard the hammering what with being up at 6.45 and all Hmm

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comedycentral · 30/06/2012 15:45

Did u help him to find the owner?

TouTou · 30/06/2012 15:45

Yeah, but he still tried. He didn't have to bother at all. Still think it's sweet of him. (But perhaps that's because I have a DS who thinks 6am is the middle of the day so 6.45 in our house is positively late! Grin Angry)

HolyCameraConfusionBatman · 30/06/2012 15:48

carabos I think this may shock you, but sometimes people don't/can't park outside their own house Shock!

Are you suggesting that he was being vindictive?