AIBU to find these type respnses on mn rather bloody annoying and not very helpful?

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These are not actual threads but the answers are pretty similar to what i have read on different boards:-

OP: Its rainin outside, I have to be somewhere as a matter of life + death, should I run 4 the train or take teh bus?
Poster: Learn to spell first and sort out your grammer.

OP: [Describes something that has happened that is going to divide opinions], can i have an opinion please?
Poster 1: I think this (enter opinion)
Poster 2: I think this (enter differing opinion)
Poster 4: How dare you disagree with poster 1, she has been here ages.
Poster 5: I love Poster 1, she says the bestest things.
Poster 5: Everything Poster 1 says is right cos i just love her.

(Actually this isn't that annoying, just a bit arselicky which I find

OP: I let my dc use fb, I have given them permission, please give me advice about a problem that has cropped up and how to deal with it.
Poster: Your dc should not be on fb (whilst offering no help whatsover towards the op's actual problem)

and my favourite -

OP: This [insert an event of some sort] happened to me, I am trying to make heads and tails of it.
Poster: Thats never happened to me so therefore you must be lying.

Is it just me who thinks if you cant offer any practical advice, fuck off why bother even posting?

AIBU to find these type of snarky posts on mn rather bloody annoying and not very helpful?

Thanks for proving point 3 :)

I knew I right.

*was

Does that first one actually happen? I can honestly say I have never ever ever read a thread where someone has been told that they cannot express an opinion that is different from one by another poster on the grounds that they have been here ages.

I have seen personal attacks which are responded to

I like cheese
cheddar is best
you utter fuckwit, what a pile of shit, you don't know what you're talking about, fuck off
hang on a minute, X has been here ages and is really nice. Lay off.

But
I like cheese
cheddar is best
no, I think you're wrong, wensleydale is nicest
how very dare you disagree with X, don't you know they've been posting since the creation of the internet

I have honestly never seen it. Which doesn't mean it doesn't happen, of course just saying that I have never come across it and I'm now dying to know which threads it's been on!

oh, but yes yes yes to the other stuff. Answering a question nobody asked (may be guilty of it myself once or twice ) seen that, loads. Posts offering no help at all, but just laying into the OP. some people are not helpful.

oh, and the spelling corrections. ARRRGGGGHHHHH! It doesn't MATTER! You still get what they mean. Stop being spiteful!

Because it really is just spite. There is no other reason to respond to a long and clearly upset post with the word

it's affair not afair

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You missed out the response to a relatively trivial AIBU: "Uh, people are being killed by their own government in Syria; you're very lucky if this is your biggest problem.". Often accompanied by a .

AIBU to think passive aggressive smilies mark you out as one of those posters?

YANBU
Have a cup of tea and walk away though (after putting your point across)

This will turn into point 2 though

If I had a thread on the xxxxxxxxxx board, I would rather have one pithy reply from xxxxxxx than any number of saccharine "helpful" comments. I am an addicted lurker, spend hours a lot of time here and am secretly in lurve with xxxxxxxxx

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I came across this one a while ago and it made vom a little.

And yes to all the other examples too, I just dont understand why someone would waste their time replying without actually trying to help!

Because they don't WANT to help. They want to correct a spelling or tell the op that they are wrong for having a green bathroom when the op was actually asking about loo roll or tell the op that their problems are meaningless because someone a hundred miles away has a problem 3 points up the Important Scale or tell the op that it's a trivial thread that nobody cares about.

Some people are just not nice. or nice but not being nice on that thread

I think your mistake is thinking that everyone is here to help others or wants to help others. That's not actually true. Some do, some are here to piss about and a few, very few, very VERY few are here because it makes them feel better about their own miserable lives if they can be nasty to strangers.

But most people are nice, thoughtful, kind and actually want to give their time to help people they have never met and likely never will. That's worth putting up with a bit of the other stuff, isn't it?

It's just the nature of the beast innit? All internet forums are the same really.

Oi, OP, dont be snarky to Pets, she's luffly, and been here since the creation of toime. Let her alone.

Hectate, you are spot on, I have actually just realised that not everyone wants to help others. I can actually say that it would never cross my mind to come on an internet forum where it is mainly people looking for advice and not offer helpful advice and in fact be obtuse as can be, so I probably forget not everyone is as nice as me .

The spelling and gramma ones I hate, I know and understand that people are surposed to get it riight but there are many reasons why some can't,
I.e learning disability or something like that.it dosnt make the poster thick or unintelligent it just means they can't spell and to jump in and ridicule someone for this is incredibly hurtfull,it happened to me on my very first post.
I have dyslexia and aspergers I am highly educated but some things in life may be much harder for me to do as oposed to someone without my issues mn is very obviously a leasure activity if I were to start using the person who deals with my admin ect for me it would cease to be leasure and cease to be private and thus cease to be pleasureable.
Part and parcel of being a decent human being is turning a blind eye to things like that to not cause embarrisment or not ridicule people for no reason other than to make yourself feel better making those type of comments IMHO won't make anybody look good they mark you out as being a bit of a twunt who thrives on unplesantness and say much more about you as a person than they do about the bad speller so no you are nbu

I once commented on someone's lack of paragraphs and sentences - because they were putting up massive posts and basically they were unreadable.

I meant it kindly as in, sort it out so we can understand you (just a few carriage returns please!) and it was on a non meltdown thread, something like I've bought oodles of crap fro DDs birthday but I want to buy double oodles now, and then other posters came along and went completely through me.

So anything I struggle to read I just ignore now.

I hate people who just reply with First World Problem and add nothing further.

It also annoys me (but probably shouldn't) when someone is complaining about their DM interfering, for example, and someone comes on and says well my DM has died, so that means you should never complain about your's. Ever.

I haven't seen a lot of the 'ganging up' type of threads here for ages. Cyber bullying is pathetic.

The grammar/spelling point is interesting. Yes assuming someone is less intelligent because of poor spelling or grammar is wrong, but equally, if someone is less intelligent or poorly educated, they are no less deserving of assistance anyway.

Absolutely agree with hurricanewyn!!!

It also annoys me slightly when people post a second time in order to correct their own spelling/grammar mistakes. Very devoted, but 9 times out of 10 it is possible to understand the original post without that clarification!

def yabu on the FB thing, because generally if your kid is having a problem on facebook and they are under the age they are meant to be on it, the actual problem is that they are too young to be on it.

Also I think you are being hyperbolic and a bit daft. This isn't an advice only site either, we don't have to make sure everything we say is practical and useful.

banana

But human decency dictates that we don't bully or be hurtful so why's the thread daft.
It's a perfectly valid post highlighting something that is an issue for many people in the enviroment where the issue happens in the first place