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AIBU to find these type respnses on mn rather bloody annoying and not very helpful?

133 replies

itsanewname · 27/06/2012 07:24

These are not actual threads but the answers are pretty similar to what i have read on different boards:-

OP: Its rainin outside, I have to be somewhere as a matter of life + death, should I run 4 the train or take teh bus?
Poster: Learn to spell first and sort out your grammer.

OP: [Describes something that has happened that is going to divide opinions], can i have an opinion please?
Poster 1: I think this (enter opinion)
Poster 2: I think this (enter differing opinion)
Poster 4: How dare you disagree with poster 1, she has been here ages.
Poster 5: I love Poster 1, she says the bestest things.
Poster 5: Everything Poster 1 says is right cos i just love her.

(Actually this isn't that annoying, just a bit arselicky which I find Hmm

OP: I let my dc use fb, I have given them permission, please give me advice about a problem that has cropped up and how to deal with it.
Poster: Your dc should not be on fb (whilst offering no help whatsover towards the op's actual problem)

and my favourite -

OP: This [insert an event of some sort] happened to me, I am trying to make heads and tails of it.
Poster: Thats never happened to me so therefore you must be lying.

Is it just me who thinks if you cant offer any practical advice, fuck off why bother even posting?

OP posts:
extremepie · 27/06/2012 11:51

The ones I hate are where someone comes on with a post that is clearly quite emotional and/or difficult for them and then some posters feel the need to kick them when they are down.

Someone who (for example) is already feeling guilty/stressed/upset about a situation really doesn't need someone heaping it on and making them feel worse when they have posted for a rant/advice/bit of sympathy.

That doesn't mean you can't tell posters they ABU if you think they are but there is a way of doing in that is a bit more tactful.

Hullygully · 27/06/2012 11:54

No no wimpy's are franchises now. They have prizes for best regional wimpy and some are run by swingers.

Maryz · 27/06/2012 11:55

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manicbmc · 27/06/2012 11:55

No Wimpys near me. Sad

Then there is that restraining order....

manicbmc · 27/06/2012 11:56

I totally agree with that, Maryz.

Unless someone is really being a twat, there is no need to be unkind.

Hullygully · 27/06/2012 11:57

I agree too extreme.

What I REALLY hate tho is people having arguments for the sake of it.

I like discussion and learning and thinking. There is no need to fall out over stuff, one can agree to disagree (apart from extremes like send all immigrants home etc of course)

TuftyFinch · 27/06/2012 12:05

www.wimpy.uk.com

Put in your postcode.

Cockwomble · 27/06/2012 12:08

I'd love a burger.

differentnameforthis · 27/06/2012 12:10

Thanks for proving point 3

But you didn't have a point 3....

manicbmc · 27/06/2012 12:10

Thanks Tufty. The nearest isn't proper Wimpy. It's in a bloody awful bowling alley and doesn't do the puddings. Next nearest is York or Edinburgh. Damn.

I shall make my own brown derbies.

Princessdivaaa · 27/06/2012 12:13

I've found this thread very interesting..

I'm fairly new to MN and when taking a look around and reading threads I couldn't believe how people speak to each other. It has shocked me how nasty and unhelpful some replys are..

I certainly won't be posting a problem on here..

Hullygully · 27/06/2012 12:14

ok then

CockyPants · 27/06/2012 12:19

Two words.
Chinese whispers. That is what MN has become.
And cliquey.
And don't start on about McDonald's....otherwise people who boast that they have never eaten there will tell you how disgusting the food is...

garlicbutt · 27/06/2012 12:21

Princessdivaaa - if you have a problem, MN is a fantastically powerful resource. Just choose the message board with an appropriate title: "Am I Being Unreasonable?" invites YABU or YANBU replies, not insightful discussion :)

Hullygully · 27/06/2012 12:21

chinese whispers.............?

Are you quite sure?

garlicbutt · 27/06/2012 12:24

How very DARE you mention McDonald's on a thread I'm reading, CP???!!! Angry

McDonald's are disgusting! They're made of mechanically recovered shit from the bottom of the barn! Yeuch!!

The apple pies & McFlurries, however, are luffly Wink

garlicbutt · 27/06/2012 12:25

That's what she said, Hully ...

bigmouthstrikesagain · 27/06/2012 12:26

I must not be very nice op as on reflection I really cannot say that I go on to MN to 'help' people. I also do not come for 'help' myself. I ask for real help from real people rather than strangers on the internet. I have received fantastic advice and varied opinions and all of that is great, but boredom was the prime motivator for my joining MN a few years ago.

If I happen to give useful advice then great but I cannot rely on unverified advice from a forum for child rearing iyswim. I am sure it is different for others and I am sure many people get real support from this board. But I see MN as a great sounding board for voicing your opinions and seeing how they sit with others, for vigorous debate and sometimes arguements, I enjoy the frantic ranty arguing when a thread gets heated but I rarely take things personally.

To protect yourself on the internet it is necessary to treat what you read on social sites like this as unreliable I will be teaching my children to be wary when I speak to them about participating in forums on fb etc. I take my own advice.

Olive28 · 27/06/2012 12:31

YABU. Going off on a tangent is far more interesting than sticking to the point!

Cockwomble · 27/06/2012 12:33

I bloody love mcdonalds, and burger king, and kfc.

ethelb · 27/06/2012 12:33

I find the third point happens in RL a lot.

ie I'm looking for advice wrt Estate Agent charges, and they respond with, oh well you shouldn't have used that agent then.

I've even had problems with the student loands company and been told v smugly that I shouldn't take out loans as they are DEBT.

Bloody hell!

ethelb · 27/06/2012 12:33

I find the third point happens in RL a lot.

ie I'm looking for advice wrt Estate Agent charges, and they respond with, oh well you shouldn't have used that agent then.

I've even had problems with the student loands company and been told v smugly that I shouldn't take out loans as they are DEBT.

Bloody hell!

numbum · 27/06/2012 12:41

The ones that annoy me are when someone posts about a minor problem or disagreement with their DH and all of a sudden the OP is being told she's married to a control freak who is mentally abusing them

And 'If that's all you've got to worry about think yourself lucky' pisses me off too.

garlicbutt · 27/06/2012 12:44

minor problem or disagreement with their DH and all of a sudden the OP is being told she's married to a control freak who is mentally abusing them

This often-repeated criticism would hold some weight if MNers were wrong. But it's right more than 90% of the time.

bronze · 27/06/2012 12:44

I find that some mners (me included probably) make assumptions on other peoples lives according to their own

' Just go to the nhs walk in centre...'
Um yes I would if there was one anywhere near (even further for other posters)

'just get the next bus'
Erm yeah except. There's only one each way a day (or for some one a week on market day)

Ds is being bullied
'change schools'
I would but the next school is another 15 miles away

Rant over