to think that if an HV makes the comment...

[nickelbarapasaurus]

"some of the answers you gave on the MH questionnaire make me a bit worried you might be prone to PND", that it might be worthy of a follow-up?

from someone ?

that was the comment my HV made (about 5 mins before she suggested that i should go to some of the Children's centre sessions, even though she knows i work 6 days a week, because she had to visit me in the shop ) when DD had her 12 week check.

she's now 6 months (28 weeks today) and i've not heard a peep from any HV since.

Val - i've just googled to check your theory, and you're right

net doctor says it

there's some general info in wikipedia
looks like it's only 1%
i suppose it's another what works for one is hell for another.

Yayyy to good nights sleep do you feel better for it Nickel? it can make such a difference just to get a few hours undisturbed.

the first night threw me completely! I spent the whole day on Monday sooooo
tired!

but today i feel good and yesterday I felt good.

I'm able to wake up a bit earlier, too, so i've put videos on while having a "lie-in" until it's time to get up

I got a high score on my MH questionnaire after my 2nd baby and the HV said "You are fine. You are just having a bad day."

How ridiculous was that? I've a long history of depression and she just dismissed it. There are some rubbish HVs out there (and some good ones).

we don't trim DD's nails

we've been told to do it when she's asleep - she never sleeps and if we try to mess with her when she is asleep, she wakes up and screams.
I try to bite them down when she's feeding, but she gets so fidgetty. I manage to keep them quite short that way, but I have tried to use clippers on her, and she writhes around so much that I'm worried I'll break her arm, never mind draw blood!

writing all your shop ideas down.
I was going to write a letter to the schools saying "have you forgotten who i am, or have you changed staff so noone knows our links anymore?" But i thought it's too close to the end of the school year (and I've run out of steram, I really have), so I'm going to write a proper thing during August, with "this is what we do" written all over it, with ideas for them to visit and buy books etc, and send it off to the Head, the Litersacy coordinator and the Librarian of all the schools that have fallen by the wayside.

last week, after my "why don't you like me?!" email, I sent an email to the 3 schools that do spend money a lot and gave them £30 of free books (of their own choosing) just for still loving me
it was my karmic "you shop here, I give you lovely stuff, you don't, you miss out!"

Migsy - I've not got a medical history of depression, but I have been forced to see to a counsellor for anger issues (when I was pregnant)

I have got lots of toys and things here for DD - I try to "rotate" them each day so she doesn't see the same ones.
and she seems to "obtain" her book recommendation every week by biting the thing! (i think she knows exactly what she's doing )

I have found that she does get a bit gripey when she's bored or tired, so if she gripes, I've taken to (since I started the thread, I've taken to doing a lot of new stuff) sitting down with her and playing, rather than just getting annoyed. I know that sounds really obvious, but my god! does that griping noise grate!
I've just got to tell myself that she needs me more than the goods-in or the ordering or the bill paying. (and when I have real customers, she gets to talk to them then, so she's happy)

that Edinburgh test
some questions confuse me, like:
In the last week I have felt scared or panicky for no very good reason:
Yes, quite a lot
Yes, sometimes
No, not much
No, not at all

well, I feel scared and panicky for very good reason ,so I'd pick "no" for that, but that doesn't change that I've felt scared and panicky.

I just did it online:

Total Score = 10

Total Score Analysis
The total score is suggestive of a depressive illness. Scores above 10 ought to be assessed further by a health professional.

Nickel this sounds so similar to where I ended up after having DD2, some of your posts were bringing back how I felt.

We had 8.5 months of very very little sleep and reflux baby, when DH eventually frogmarched me to the doctor's after arriving home to find me sitting in the middle of a trashed living room crying with the two DDs just sitting there with me the doctor said "Oh yes I have been wondering when you were going to come and see me"

I knew things weren't right but was scared about going to the doctor and needed someone to give me a push, luckily DH was there to do that for me. With some CBT and ADs things got back on track and all is ok now.

I think you should go and see your GP, your HV does sound pretty rubbish to be honest with you.

I hope you are able to get back on track soon, but just wanted to let you know that there are lots of people out there who have experienced similar, you have got more on than most looking after a baby and running a business, I was on paid maternity leave at the time not working and found it hard.

On the Eczema, my DD2 had really bad eczema, the thing we have found that controls it best is actually Sudocrem we slather her in the stuff before she goes to bed after her bath (feet, hands and wrists, arm creases, behind knees) and it is now keeping it under control, we do occasionally have to use 1% hydrocortisone cream if we get a bad flare up to get it under control but normally only have to use it for a few days (I don't really like using steriod cream but it had got so bad it was all cracked and bleeding). For my DD switching cows milk to goats milk also helped although your DD is I guess still BF or FF at only 6 months so this probably doesn't help you. Hope you get it sorted.

no of course not! :)

I didn't even look for a breakdown - it just said that which I quoted - more than 10 is a problem

sleep - god, just realised I read your reply and didn't acknowledge it

I did read it, thank you :)
It's good to read other people's experiences - I don't think mine's as obvious as yours was. (i hope!)
yes, DD is still msotly BF, but she's eating a little bit of food (nothing serious, just some veg here and there) we know the eczema flare coincided with the sudden hot weather, so we think that it's not diet related

Baby scissors are better for finger nails and clippers are better for toenails ime.

we haven't got any scissors.

i'll look for some.

and doe anyone know where we can get cheap 6-9mo or 9-12mo babygrows with integral scratch mitts?

(please don't link amazon)

I will have a look for you nickel.

Boots do baby scissors.

What size, nickel?

Here

And here

Here if bare feet are a problem

Nickel, I'm not far from you, can I do anything to help? Shop sit? (I used to run a pub so fine with tills etc) Baby sit? Take a selection of your books and try to sell them at the toddler group I run?

This will all be week after next btw, am currently recovering from surgery! I almost rang your shop, and then realised how odd that would be....must be the meds!

cool, we've got boots vouchers

6-9 months or 9-12 months (or 6-12 months) :)

she's eating now, and her godmother has just come in to offer to take her for a walk. aww.

matalan have got loads - just not in the right size!
thanks fab - i'll bookmark that, because they might come back in.

never thought it would be a problem, or i would have stockpiled (knowing what summer is like for long clothes)

aha! that 3rd link has the right size in stock.
(not impressed that all of your choices were pink and girly, fab )