Personal cards up at home

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Possibly the most boring title ever!

I can't decide if this is unreasonable or not. Personal cards put up at home...anniversary cards between DH and I, DH's first fathers day card (from me)...all with really personal, sentimental messages written in them.

Fair do's they are up on display on the mantle place, but I felt put out that both PIL picked them up and read them. I don't think I have ever done this to anyone else in my life - read obviously personal cards out in someone's home - so was a bit startled by it. Is it unreasonable to be bit WTF, or am I unreasonable since they are up on display?

erm you are overthinking

YABU... if you dont want people to admire them, dont put them on display...

It was your husband's parents looking at them, not the window cleaner, so really, why the fuss?

YABU because they are on display.

If you don't want people to read them, put them away.

I think I have idly flicked through my mums birthday cards before now.

I wouldn't read them but I think if it's on display, then there is the likelihood someone might read them at some point

I'm not hugely annoyed or anything :) Just was a bit "huh?" at it and was debating with myself about the etiquette.

YABU, they are in display.

YANBU - i wouldn't dream of lifting up and looking at others cards when i am a guest in their house

you wouldn;t put a card with "will shag you senseless this evening, happy anniversary xxx" on teh mantelpiece would you?

My Dad does this and puts them back with the message facing out rather than the picture so it looks horrid!! Used to drive me nuts, I now have more important things to worry about, and get less rude cards as I am older! In fact, maybe he doesn't do it so much now as my cards have got duller.

Yabu. Perhaps put them on your bedside tables if they are more private. That's what I do.

My MIL asks if she can read them and I have to say yes but sometimes I'd rather she didn't so now I take any down I don't want her to see when they come round.

What was written in the card?

I have a nosey through cards on display in my mums and sisters houses. If you dont want people to read them then put them away

I disagree, I would never pick up a card in another persons house, and I include my in laws in that grouping. Fine to look at the front of the cards as that is the bit on display, but never read them unless invited to.

So OP, YANBU.

Haha Kew, I dunno about that

I sometimes wonder about this too. Will be interesting to see what people think. I don't mind people reading mine, and I love reading other peoples. Just nosyness I supose.
I do ask first if its ok to look at them, but then I supose it would be difficult for the person to say no.
I think YAB a little bit U because people love reading the messages. If it was something really personal that you definately wouldn't want your pils reading it shouldn't be on display.

Yabu. My family have all always done this. I thought it was normal?

Sole, just messages about our first year of marriage, deeply personal relationship things.

Totally agree if they're that personal, put them away. But equally, it genuinely just never occured to me anyone would actually pick them up and read them either.

I read other people cards.

I wouldn't look through/read people's cards unless I was shown or invited to do so. I guess it is what your MIL is now used to. Hide any cards with private messages. :)

I read the cards at my mums house, she reads the cards at my house. There has been several incidents with rude cards - but that normally prompts laughter.

I think it's Ok if they're on display. However I don't think I'd read through a friends cards, so maybe you have a point.

YANBU. I think it's rude to pick up something that is clearly adressed to someone else and read it.

I always read cards if they're on display .
That's why they're on display isn't it ?

We all read each others cards in my family

I dunno Doilook...when we put them up, I think it was for each other, not thinking of guests....

An etiquette puzzle!