Personal cards up at home

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Possibly the most boring title ever!

I can't decide if this is unreasonable or not. Personal cards put up at home...anniversary cards between DH and I, DH's first fathers day card (from me)...all with really personal, sentimental messages written in them.

Fair do's they are up on display on the mantle place, but I felt put out that both PIL picked them up and read them. I don't think I have ever done this to anyone else in my life - read obviously personal cards out in someone's home - so was a bit startled by it. Is it unreasonable to be bit WTF, or am I unreasonable since they are up on display?

I actually think that they are not on display for all and sundry to read, they are on display for the recipient to enjoy

I would never read cards at a house I was visiting

The picture on the fronts on display not the message inside. I might leave a bank statement on the side or a postcard on the fridge, but i don't expect people to read them

yeah, if they are on display, that's inviting people (including guests) to read them, i think!

alternatively, you could put them behind glass so that the fronts are visible but they can't be opened...

i thought that was the idea, if they were on display they were there for the nosing taking

i read cards in my family's house, prob not at friends. But then again i am northern

I wouldn't mind if it was family or close friends

ha! i always thought that was what was expected, when people put out their cards. an obligation. i thought i was failing in not doing it. in fact, i'm convinced people are 'supposed' to...

I read cards at my familys house but then I am a nosey bugger

I would read cards on display. But I wouldn't have anniversary cards and valentine's cards from DH on display, they are kept in our bedroom when people come round. Actually I use visitors coming as a reason to put cards into the recycling, I'm not very sentimental though.

Why would you want to read other peoples personal cards?

Always have a nosey at my mum's birthday/Xmas etc cards on display to see who's sent them, sometimes its the only time she/we get updates from family we don't see (except for weddings/funerals).

Wouldnt do it at a friends house.

I wouldnt put cards with personal messages I didnt want anyone else to read on display.

A tiny piece of sellotape across the corners will stop people looking, although the cards won't stand up on their own anymore.

I read other peoples cards if they are on display as do people that visit our home-don't really see the issue tbh, they're on display

I thought you were supposed to! I always have, without asking either.

Lol Martha I see a trend emerging as I'm northern too

I'd ask in close friends house to read and have had friends ask me, always happy to oblige but then nothing "deeply" personal within.

Agree you should keep card in private place if it is private. A card on a mantelpiece can IMO be picked up and admired like any ornament you may have on show.

I don't like it either, OP. My mum always reads my cards if I've left them out and to me, it's like reading someone's post. I think I should be able to leave things out in my own home, without people assuming it's okay to read them.

I now put personal stuff away and just leave out the less lovey dovey stuff.

i wouldnt pick up anything in anybody elses house to read in less i was invited to. its rude, i also wouldnt like anyone to do it in my house.

normally keep slushily worded cards in the bedroom.

I wouldn't dream of OPENLY reading someone elses cards (again as others have said apart from my mum and dads cos its a quick way of getting family updates) but I might OCCASIONALLY have a quick sneaky peek if card is open enough. I know this is REALLY rude but I'm a nosey bugger.

"deeply personal relationship things" in a card on public display . So wrong on so many levels...

I think that anything on display is there for people to read if they want to, I wouldn't put it on display if I didn't want them to see it.

It depends on the relationship you have with the person who's looking - it's possibly OK with very close family, but I don't like it and I don't do it.

We have a very annoying neighbour who prowls around picking up and looking at things every time he's in our house. It fills me with rage and I want to kill him.

Ha Martha and Barred, I'm Northern too!

I have never picked up and read a card displayed in someone's home before...family or friend. It just never would occur to me as I'm not the intended recipient of the card.

We put our cards up for each other so I was just surprised by it. But I've learnt my lesson, fo' sho'!

ment to add that i should be able to leave anything i want in my house and nobody should touch it without permision. just because you can see it it dosnt mean you can touch it MOTHER i mean you, you delightful but nosey cow

Keep private ones in your bedroom but in the mantelpiece they are in a more public place. Also, you often have to read the inside to get the "joke" on funny ones and may not even read the personal message. My rude / personal ones are kep well away from everyone.