Personal cards up at home

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Possibly the most boring title ever!

I can't decide if this is unreasonable or not. Personal cards put up at home...anniversary cards between DH and I, DH's first fathers day card (from me)...all with really personal, sentimental messages written in them.

Fair do's they are up on display on the mantle place, but I felt put out that both PIL picked them up and read them. I don't think I have ever done this to anyone else in my life - read obviously personal cards out in someone's home - so was a bit startled by it. Is it unreasonable to be bit WTF, or am I unreasonable since they are up on display?

Would the same apply to a postcard or a letter not in enverlope on mantle?

For me, yes, I wouldn't pick those up and read them either, nor would I expect anyone else to, although if you leave them lying around there is a chance that someone will read them without having to pick them up.

I never knew people got their knickers in a knot about this

MN is hilarious sometimes

YANBU

The front is displayed, not the message inside.

I have to admit, I do occasionally get a bit nosey and have a look inside displayed Christmas cards, but I know I shouldn't .

I wouldn't want to read valentine's or anniversary cards (but then I actually think it's a bit odd to have these on display in a public room anyway?)

lots of you are refering to 'public rooms' since when were living rooms concidered public or any room in a home.

im glad ive controled my anger issues because it sounds like i would be slapping the hands of loads of my guests pmsl

It never occured to me that anyone would look inside other people's cards and read the messages until one of my SILs did it. I suppose it's something that seems normal to her. To me it seems very rude. I know now, so I put the cards away before any of ILs visit.

by "public rooms" I mean rooms you have guests in, like your living room, obviously they are not open to the general public!

Why is it odd? It's not 'public' space, it's my family's space. If I left my bank statement next to a card would you read that too?

No, but then there's rarely a witty joke on a bank statement.

I only allow the general public in the west wing

I don't think anyone is objecting to people reading joke cards, where the punchline is inside.

backforgood my bank statements are fecking full of witty jokes.

narkedrasberry i am i wouldnt touch anything at all in someone elses house without being invited to punchline or not

My SIL stuck her nose into a huge Valentines card covered in hearts and sappy bears from her brother to me. That said 'To my fiancee' on it. I doubt she was looking for the punchline.

Maybe you should blank out the messages in the Joke cards before someone reads , 'Happy Birthday love Auntie Mabel'

I wouldn't either actually . But I opening a card to see the joke seems less intrusive than opening something that's obviously more 'personal' like an anniversary or a thank you card.

Random I

It was quite creepy actually. SIL stood there and read the (small essay) from now DH.

i guess it does but then im odd and i even get a bit iffy about other people touching my stuff, well your ok if i gave birth to you but if i didnt feck off and find your own stuff to touch

Most of my family do To xx love from yy, we are not particularly flowery with words therefore wouldn't write anything personal. If I picked up a valentine's card at my DS's it would be to read the printed verse inside knowing full well her DH would never write anything slushy himself.

But if I inadvertently picked up something and realised it was very personal I think I'd put it back sharpish and apologise profusely. Then wonder why they hadn't put it in the bedroom, or the east wing.

To those of you who think it's OK to read someone's cards, clearly not everyone feels the same way, so perhaps you should ask first.

I would only read my families cards. they don't mind

I wouldn't go into a strangers house and read theirs.

I visited my parents just after Father's Day and read all the cards and declared that I clearly loved my dad the most as my message was the bestest. I then read my sisters cards aloud and explained why there's wasn't as good.

So many of you would hate me!

I'd read cards at my sisters and parents house but probably not anywhere else.