to change dd's nappy on the bus?

[amieis]

When we are still 30 mins from home and she's whingey?

Everlong. Yes it is. Ops baby has that problem and gets very very sore.

No but the op said that her dd hates being in a wet nappy and screams when left. The op has also said that the dd has been checked out by drs and they can't find anything wrong

Well if its not the tiny genitals why does it make lurking so incredibly uncomfortable? That's quite an extreme reaction to a babys bottom.

No she didnt, but it was a real risk, and the OP didnt know that until later. It could have gone either way, I personally wouldnt have risked it.

No she didn't but she didn't know that. She could only have known that from checking in the nappy which would have offended people!

Sorry, it came up telling me mumsnet was offline just as I was about to post!

I'll continue to be honest because you have posted respectful replies. Thank you :)

Simple as: I am not okay with seeing human excrement/urine. And changing a baby on a bus is bad decorum.

This may not be a 'good' enough reason in your eyes but it's the truth. It's just exceedingly unpleasant. I will do it with my own children but I see no reason why I or anyone else needs to be privy to your child's body functions.

Will somebody give me a better reason than "it's common" that you shouldn't change q wt nappy innpublic? Is it just busses, or just public transport or anywhere in public that's the problem?

I am a bit dubious about this instant nappy rash thong because presumably nobody changes nappies every hqlf an hour during the night, but that aside, if you want to change a wet nappy inn public WHY SHOULDN'T YOU? I bet it' simply paedosteria- someone will come on in a minute qsnd say that bus drivers have special hidden camera for the sole purpose of filming wanton nappy changing and they then sell the films for fortunes to rings of perverted MPs.

I think it's really just as simple as it's shockingly bad manners as you're not thinking of anyone else, it is pretty 'common' to use the English term. I'd say feral or bogan. And then there's just the plain disgusting part.

I think it's just a difference of opinion, no one is going to change anyone's mind.

Fair enough lurking but as has been pointed out, you would only be likely to see anything if you actively looked for it. So if I changed my baby and you could see nothing, would it still bother you?

But the shocking bad manners extends to expecting a baby to be in pain, just appease someone who it really wont affect in any tangible way. Why do manner not extend to a small child?

Seeker. I am a bit dubious about this instant nappy rash thong because presumably nobody changes nappies every hqlf an hour during the night

No just at every feed. But my child frequently woke up extremely sore. She was sore or recovering from being sore or about to be sore most of the time

YANBU

I don't change dd's nappy during the night because thankfully she doen't wee at night

What if the baby was being changed in its pushchair or carrycot-would you even notice? I certainly wouldn't

everlong you have had it explained many times why it isnt that simple and havent said what you would do in the OPs position if you had a child that would be badly affected. Why are insisting on flogging the same ridiculous point over and over?

I've always been able to tell when babies are being changed. Never really bought into the 'I can be really subtle' thing. It's another of those 'everyone can be made uncomfortable because I have a baby' type things.

I don't expect a baby to sit in pain. I expect people to have prepared better. Change the kid before they get on an hour long trip. I honestly am extremely sceptical that a child has 'weeping blisters' after twenty minutes. I was such a sensitive child my mother used cloth and to this day we use organic wash powder. But going on what you're saying, yes I would honestly expect a parent to get off the bus. It's what I would do too before you ask.

But it's really just an opinion, and people are going to do what they like. I just think it's not on.

Everlong. Its already been pointed out to you that the baby might go to the toilet just after getting on the bus. What then?

crikey how unkind to expect a small baby to sit getting sore in his/her own poo for half an hour. I really feel sad that people are more bothered about their own queasiness than a baby's sore bum :(
I can do what I like? Not really. She's hardly lighting up a crack pipe is she? Just caring for a baby in a difficult situation.

Lurking. Well i can guarantee you that Im not making the weeping blisters up to be amusing. You don't have to only believe things you see you know.

I hate "stuff everybody" attitude too. I hate loud phone calls, smoking, loud music from earphones, litter, people doing their make up on the train- you name it, I can be outraged by it. But try as I might, I cannot see anything remotely offensive in the momentary glimpse of a baby's bottom.

I will tell my DD that you are extremely sceptical ~lurking hopefully it will stop her silly attention seeking behaviour

ffs................

It's not the baby's bottom, it's the mess under it.

And it's the disrespect to everyone else I find the most offensive. You're forcing people into your unpleasant choice and expecting them to think it's okay. You can have your choice, but you can't force everyone to think it's appropriate. To me it's really bogan or 'common' behaviour.

Anyway, it appears you ladies have never had to change your baby on a bus, so if I may ask my own question? Why are you so offended if people think it's tacky behaviour?