To wonder why some people get away with behaving as they like?

[flashmollyflash]

The type of people I am referring to are:

People who say 'I'm just honest' and use it as an excuse to be rude and say inappropriate things.

People who think they are very important, too important to bother with others or make any effort yet the whole world flocks around them when they have a(nother) mini crisis and document it on FB. They are usually attention seeking and post things like '10 days til my birthday' and 'oh my husband is so wonderful look what he's bought me', together with posting pics every 5 minutes whilst on family holidays.

People who take advantage of others' and are always asking for favours or expecting people to do things for them. And people do!

People that go up like a can of pop and start ranting and raving at others if something doesn't suit them.

All people like that have been dropped from my life as I can't stand those behaviours but what I wonder too is why people enable that sort of behaviour from others?

Perhaps because everyone has good and bad and their good outweighs the bad ?

Because they are 'real'.

aka rude.

I prefer straight talking honest people to bullshitters.

I dont mind being reminded when friends birthdays are, nor do I bedgrudge them getting excited about it, or seeing happy relationships.. far more than the passive aggressive moaners who will have a status like "some people are twats - you know who you are"..

Because some people just dont care what other people think of them!

I can't think of any redeeming quality that could be big enough and good enough to outweigh any of those four behaviours though

Because they are allowed to behave that way is the simple answer - their bad habits and the kind of childish behaviour is explained and excused and indulged.

hope you listening MIL!!

Itsjustafleshwound, that's what I was getting at; why do people enable their behaviour?

I refuse to enable any bad behaviour in someone.

People that go up like a can of pop and start ranting and raving at others if something doesn't suit them.

irony much?

come on OP, let it all out - but it takes all sorts you know?

Eh? Have I been shouting and swearing and rude then, UnChartered? I'm ranting yes but I'm hardly screaming and shouting at you all like an old fishwife

do you have a lot of friends OP?

No because I'm very fussy and won't put up with any of those very unreasonable behaviours. Why?

your OP does read a bit ranty and shouty IMO

Sometimes it is ignored for an easy life and avoid confrontation ...

whilst I would like to comment in some constructive inciteful way, I CBA. I avoid folk who irritate me, thats about the size of it

Does it, UnChartered? Oh well. I think you are trying to read things into my post to cause an argument....

I think people are often shocked when people behave rudely, so fail to react and call them on it.

nah, totally wrong

i'm all about the laughs and acceptance, me

Because people let them behave that way!

To give an example, there is a woman who lives in the same road as me that is very, very volatile. Everyone walks on eggshells around her, she goes beserk at people about the slightest thing, most recent thing was when the bin men put someone else's wheelie bin outside her house and she took it round to the correct house and screamed and shouted at the people that live there. Yet when she's being nice, everyone talks to her and she gets invited to things at the houses of people she has had a go at. I don't get it. She behaves like an arse but everyone lets her

acceptance of what, Unchartered? people behaving badly and acting like arses?

People get away with acting how they like because nobody challenges them.

Maybe some people just don't care what you think of them, OP.

I hate it on things like big brother where someone is accused of being 'fake' because they are nice to everyone and try and keep the peace.... like those are bad qualities?

Flash

I'm honest - brutally so - that's why my friends come to me for an opinion on things. If I think someone looks fat in a dress, I tell them - they've asked me to be honest so I have. But now I'm being rude?

My DH is wonderful, if he buys me flowers/presents, I may sometimes post the fact on FB. I'm not attention seeking, i'm just ridiculoulsy pleased and happy about it. I like to share my happiness.

I ask my friends and family for favours all the time. It's what friendship and family is all about sometimes. They do it too, why? Because i'm bloody nice, i've asked properly and I'll always return the favour when I'm able.

And I've been known to go up like a can of pop too when the time has suited. Doesn't make me better or worse than anyone else, it's just a fact of life.

You don't sound very nice all things considered and I think that's why you don't have many friends, rather than it being your choice.

And your point is, Grahamtribe?