To wonder why some people get away with behaving as they like?

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The type of people I am referring to are:

People who say 'I'm just honest' and use it as an excuse to be rude and say inappropriate things.

People who think they are very important, too important to bother with others or make any effort yet the whole world flocks around them when they have a(nother) mini crisis and document it on FB. They are usually attention seeking and post things like '10 days til my birthday' and 'oh my husband is so wonderful look what he's bought me', together with posting pics every 5 minutes whilst on family holidays.

People who take advantage of others' and are always asking for favours or expecting people to do things for them. And people do!

People that go up like a can of pop and start ranting and raving at others if something doesn't suit them.

All people like that have been dropped from my life as I can't stand those behaviours but what I wonder too is why people enable that sort of behaviour from others?

Agree with you OP. Not quite sure why you got such a pasting but there we are

I think so fruity.
I am a very assertive person now and every year that passes without DD makes me more so.
Its the freedom of not giving a toss, it comes at a terrible price but at least there are some 'perks'
I feel like a rebellious teenager again.

On the other hand, I really believe I am also more caring. I care more about those who deserve it and give no time to those who dont.

Interestingly the scale of the problem they are dealing with is not the deciding factor. It is more how much they are making of it or trying to make of it.

I have more time for someone who is genuinelly distraught about losing their cat than someone trying to use the death of their grandmother IYSWIM.
I cant be doing with people who keep going on and on and on about something, people offer help and solutions and they just keep moaning without any attempt to resolve it.

So I suppose some people might think I am a bit mean.

I think there are a few happy, optomistic, unembittered women left out there everlong. There could still be more than two

I don't know

One of my DH's relatives is like that. What annoys me is that she can say whatever she likes and DH always says 'well that's just her'. So she can say whatever she wants, be all judgemental but that's ok because thats just the way she is..

If I was to say stuff she said someone would call me up on it and have a right go. But she is exempt and an arse.

Yes, some are 'just like that' but if you behaved 'just like that' there'd be a different rule!

Exactly. Why can't I be the one? 'Oh Sparkling is just vile and nasty and says what she thinks- it's fine, she has always been like that'. Yeah right.

Sparkling I think to pull it off, you genuinely must not care what others feel or think about what you say.

Yes, you have to really not give a shit What. These type of people don't seem unpopular though.

Yes, I believe it's because rather than like them people fear them and allow them to behave this way.

Sparkling IMO they polarise others - they attract both acolytes and enemies. But if you go back to the schoolyard, the acolytes are directed as a gang, whereas their enemies are seldom united or organized so they give an appearance of popularity (and at worst can pick on opponents one by one, which means neutrals join/endure them for a quiet life)

Yes, and when they are family there is even more enduring to be done. I couldn't imagine being a partner of those type of people. i would be there saying 'you can't say that' . Mostly the 'say what they like and it doesn't matter' people are with 'wouldn't say boo to a goose' people.

OneLastSoul, I so have an acquaintance like that. Her line is 'I'll be honest with you..' and it is then followed up with 'but I preferred your hair BEFORE you had it cut' or 'you've put a bit of weigh on haven't you?' And all this advice is volunteered by her, not asked for by the other person. I've had shouting arguments with her over her ways before and she doesn't do it to me now as she knows I will go ballistic at her if she does, but a family member works with her and apparently she is her usual self at work.

I have found that the people who are so free with their 'down to earth' 'tell it like it is' comments are very quick to take massive offence at any percieved slight.

They basically rule their family and friends. They get away with it for years!
The backlash of rage and froth is too much for people to bear plus everyone gets pissed off at anyone who 'sets them off'

They quite often have 'health problems' that flare up whenever they are challenged.