To wonder why some people get away with behaving as they like?

[flashmollyflash]

The type of people I am referring to are:

People who say 'I'm just honest' and use it as an excuse to be rude and say inappropriate things.

People who think they are very important, too important to bother with others or make any effort yet the whole world flocks around them when they have a(nother) mini crisis and document it on FB. They are usually attention seeking and post things like '10 days til my birthday' and 'oh my husband is so wonderful look what he's bought me', together with posting pics every 5 minutes whilst on family holidays.

People who take advantage of others' and are always asking for favours or expecting people to do things for them. And people do!

People that go up like a can of pop and start ranting and raving at others if something doesn't suit them.

All people like that have been dropped from my life as I can't stand those behaviours but what I wonder too is why people enable that sort of behaviour from others?

She said her point, did you not get it.

fruitysummer how rude that you've made a snap judgement of me based on a few posts on a forum?

FWIW you sound pretty unpleasant yourself. You may think you have friends but with your arrogance and behaviour I bet they all slag you off behind your back....

I think you just proved fruitsummer right.

Maybe you're just judgemental and intolerant?

It's self-explanatory, molly. Maybe people get away with it because they don't care what you think of them. If they did they probably wouldn't say/do the things that you object to.

you almost had me in your first few posts, OP - nice one, fancy a

"She said her point, did you not get it."

@MissRepresentation. Yup, I thought I had!

Ah so fruitsummer can insult me and make personal comments but I do the same in retaliation and it's not ok, MissRepresentation? Do jog on now

How do you know so many of these people? No really, it seems almost unbelievable.

Did I say I knew hundreds of these people? No!

Sometimes people get away with behaving like total arses because other people are scared of them and want to avoid being shouted at, or because other people lack confidence and think being "friends" with a bully means they will be strong/protected.

But basically everyone has a bad side, and everyone's going to do things that annoy you sometimes. All you can do is change the way you react to things. If someone posts "My lovely DH bought me flowers this evening!" on facebook, can't you just be pleased for them? If someone asks you for a favour and you know they wouldn't do the same, just say no.

We all have qualities that annoy others. You may noticed you've rubbed a lot of posters here up the wrong way - why do you think that is?

No thanks, I'm comfy where I am.

You're here ranting and raving and being rude...complaining about people who rant and rave and be rude. If you can't see the irony there, I suggest you get someone to help you out.

Oh and to those that have said I'm judgemental, is it now judgemental to refuse to put up with rude or offensive behaviour then?

oh how funny. Very clever OP. Or is this just bitter irony?

ElephantsandMiasmas, I really do not thing that my post was that bad at all, certainly not deserving of some of the insults I have received and the judgements made about me. Clearly you are trying to jump on the bandwagon going by the put-down comment made at the end of your post.

What have I said that is so bad and is worthy of all this ganging up? Come on...

And I wasn't rude....until some posters were rude to me!

I'm very tired of controlling people who use expressions like "straight talking" and "being honest" when they actually mean "fucking rude". The same people live a life of constant strife that'd exhaust most of us but actually, they thrive on it. Playground language is very popular with them too since the world consists of people that they "don't like anymore". And while most of us are keener on some people than others, we tend to leave alone the ones we haven't got much in common with rather than make great public statements about disliking them.

Having spent too much of last year witnessing (and thankfully no longer having to) someone who manages to get a surprising number of people dancing to her controlling tune it occurred to me that there was a pattern to this. One that I suspect applies to most of these people.

I don't know Molly, tbh there's not much to disagree with in your OP. People who constantly behave like that are annoying. But there are two sides to everything and some posters just tried to demonstrate how perfectly nice people could come across unintentionally as the ones you described.

You seem to have asked the question are you being unreasonable and then reacting quite angrily when anyone suggested that indeed you are.

There is a definite irony in complaining about anger and then reacting with anger.

Sunshine - you suit your name. I sense an argument brewing and like to hang around for a bit and see if it's going to be a good one. My money's on Molly at the moment, she's come out all guns blazing and is taking no prisoners!

Everybody has good qualities & bad ones this is part of life, if you choose to dismiss people because of their bad qualities then that is your choice-I tend to look at them as a whole myself.

That said I am the type to call a spade a spade & I've also been known to fly completely off the handle on occasions when something has royally pissed me off so perhaps I'm the type of person you're referring to........

I tend to walk away once someone starts telling me how 'they tell it like it is'.
It usually means they are gobby and insensitive and too arrogant to realise that not everyone wants their opinion.

I value honestly above almost any other quality. I cannot bear dishonesty.
But I dont know why people feel the need to tell someone they look awful if it serves no purpose other than to put them down.

Arf!

Why would you mind about someone posting pics of the nice stuff that their husband has got them, or posting pics while they're on holiday? What has that got to do with being a wanker?

Well I don't actually think the OP was rude at all until fruitysummer or whatever they're called popped up and told the OP she wasn't a nice person all things considered.

And OP, I agree