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to be amazed at people going to church

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Hullygully · 20/06/2012 15:19

I really didn't think anyone still did the whole church on Sunday thing (this is not meant rudely, am just genuinely amazed).

Why do you go?

Don't you go out dancing and drinking on Sat and have a terrible hangover?

Or don't you want to have a lie-in with the papers?

Do you have roast dinner after?

Where do you live?

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Hullygully · 20/06/2012 20:36

And that doesn't mean I don't like them, just that I couldn't feel as close to them as others.

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LucieMay · 20/06/2012 20:37

I said that friends matter to me because I was accused of discriminating against every man and his dog when it matters not a jot what they believe because they don't matter to me. And I don't agree religion is a small part of who someone is, it seems to be almost all encompassing when it comes its followers. I find it odd that people think I'm not allowed to pick who I waft to friends with? I would never force on friendship on someone or take offence at them not wanting to be friends with me for whatever reason. It's their prerogative just as it is mine. All humans should expect to be treated with decency and fairness in everyday life but we are still free to dictatewho gets to play a part in our personal lives.

StrawberrytallCAKE · 20/06/2012 20:38

Be honest, you just put that second post in to try not to anger people didn't you?

Well.....this will be interesting viewing.

Sirzy · 20/06/2012 20:38

There is nothing wrong with picking who you are friends with, there is something wrong to automatically say no because of one part of that person.

I see you still haven't answered my question?

BsshBossh · 20/06/2012 20:40

Why do you go?
To celebrate my faith with like-minded people. I'm the only practicing Christian in my family so this time is important to me. It's also one of the rare moments in my week where I'm not distracted from prayer/meditation/reflection.

Don't you go out dancing and drinking on Sat and have a terrible hangover?
I don't enjoy clubbing etc anymore and hate hangovers so don't drink loads. Besides, I have a choice of services - Saturday evening one and two Sunday ones.

Or don't you want to have a lie-in with the papers?
If I go to an evening or late morning service then I get my lie in. But generally I'm a natural early bird.

Do you have roast dinner after?
We have our roast dinner at night.

Where do you live?
London. Loads of people round me go to Church, temple or the Mosque so your incredulity, OP, makes me... incredulous!

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Hullygully · 20/06/2012 20:40

do you mean me strawberry?

I don't want to anger people, no, I think it is all very interesting and I'd like to be able to discuss it without a big old fall out! Something I don't seem to manage in rl...

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ClaireBunting · 20/06/2012 20:43

I go to church because I find it irresistible.

StrawberrytallCAKE · 20/06/2012 20:43

I do Hully sorry, this thread is moving at an incredible rate!!

It was the 'nuts' comment I was mostly interested in.

HolofernesesHead · 20/06/2012 20:45

I go to church to pray and worship, to bring my dc up in the Christian faith, and to remind myself that I'm part of something bigger than myself. I go to a village C of E church - DH comes sometimes, and the dc serve sometimes.

No hangovers - can't do over-drinking!

Papers usually before lunch.

Lunch normally something a bit special, sometimes a roast.

And I live in the south east.

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Hullygully · 20/06/2012 20:46

strawberry - I couldn't think of an acceptable word...just shorthand, not meant to be offensive, honest. Although seeing it in isolation I can see it doesn't look so good.

let me try again.

I think that people who believe in what I call the "supernatural" are (literally)delusional.

I'm not sure that's better, I can't think how else to put it.

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GrimmaTheNome · 20/06/2012 20:47

In some ways I'm glad I was brought up as a christian and believed it into early adulthood - because I know I wasn't nuts (just deluded Grin) and so I've no problem at all being friends with people who still do believe. Just as well as that's most of my family for starters!

LucieMay · 20/06/2012 20:47

Which question sirzy? I haven't purposely avoided any questions but there have been so many directed at me it's possible I have missed some.

StepOutOfSpring · 20/06/2012 20:49

It's something of a relief too, to spend time among people who share your outlook on the world (liberal Christian in my case). In everyday life, most people do not seem to have similar beliefs and it can get wearing when if you mention your faith everyone seems to want to tell you what they think is wrong with it.

Chubfuddler · 20/06/2012 20:49

Our village church is great. One service a month (scattered rural area sharing a vicar). 3pm service so hangover well gone. Last week the church warden was handing out haribo at the end.

Sirzy · 20/06/2012 20:49

If you built a friendship with someone and months later found out they had faith would you seriously stop being friends with them?

GrimmaTheNome · 20/06/2012 20:50

(incidentally, I xposted with hully, 'deluded' was the conclusion I came to about 30 years ago)

cityangel · 20/06/2012 20:50

where I live its try and get your child into the good church schools territory.

StrawberrytallCAKE · 20/06/2012 20:51

Haha, yes you are having some wording issues this evening.

I'm not offended, I find it hard to believe in god but think some of the basic moral teachings in the bible are a great starting point to live by. I'm sure that's the same in most religions though.

Maybe you should go to church for a service so you can see what people get from it?

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Hullygully · 20/06/2012 20:51

What do people with a faith think about those without one?

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Hullygully · 20/06/2012 20:52

I have been, I found it very troublesome.

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MissAnnersley · 20/06/2012 20:53

Offended? Why would someone be offended at having their beliefs held up as 'nuts' and 'delusional'?

No, you crack on. You're on fire tonight Hullygully.

Chubfuddler · 20/06/2012 20:54

I can't generalise. What I think about individuals has nothing to do with whether they profess to have a faith. I know some very self professed religious people who are complete arseholes. I know some atheists who are arseholes too.

PurpleCrazyHorse · 20/06/2012 20:54
  1. Why do you go?
I'm a Christian so it's important to me to attend Church, to worship God and receive regular Bible teaching. It's also a great time catching up with friends etc too.
  1. Don't you go out dancing and drinking on Sat and have a terrible hangover?
Never been a big drinker but I've often attended Churches that have an evening service Grin. However, sometimes if we've been away etc we won't go to Church on the Sun morning, I'm not religious about attending absolutely every week.
  1. Or don't you want to have a lie-in with the papers?
We have a toddler so we're lucky if we're in bed until 8am. Church starts at 10:30am so still time to relax in the mornings.
  1. Do you have roast dinner after?
Sometimes. We tend to have a light snack straight after church (about 12:30) and then eat a roast nearer 4pm. I'm too lazy to rush straight home and get cooking immediately. However, if we're especially blessed, we get invited for a delicious roast dinner at someone else's house, hopefully by someone who loves cooking!! :)
  1. Where do you live?
South Wales.
JodieHarshHasALumpyPennie · 20/06/2012 20:55

Hully I would just think "Well, of course you don't believe, and of course you think I'm nuts deluded: you don't have faith! If it looked logical it wouldn't be faith" etc. etc. That sort of thing.

Which sounds patronising Confused Not meant to be, but I won't ever really understand why people try and pester people into belief. If it comes, it comes, and it would have nothing to do with someone on the doorstep/Bible bashing etc tec.

To Lucie - I am very close friends with a number of atheists so vehemently anti-faith that they practically vomit on my shoes if they see me wearing a cross/doing anything vaguely religious. We often sit into the wee small hours getting ratted and discussing stuff. It's no barrier. But then obviously none of my friends are bigots Grin

JodieHarshHasALumpyPennie · 20/06/2012 20:56

Incidentally Hully - are you as contemptuous of Christians as you sound? Genuine question, not picking a fight etc. etc. - just intrigued.