To be very upset that the teacher forgot ds's birthday today?

[Ouluckyduck]

he is six today and has special needs. He had been so excited - " I will give out the sweets today Mummy, they will sing for me Mummy"

I gave her the bag of sweets in the morning and he wore a badge saying "I'm six". When I picked him up at the end of the day he was rying his eyes out, so upset because his birthday hadnt been acknowledged at all. His teacher said "sorry we'll do it tomorrow" but in a very lofty way. I then said "it means so much to him you know" and she said well he might be "creating" now but he'll be fine and she just forgot, he should have reminded her. Which makes me think she doesnt know or understand him at all, he wouldn't know how to remind her, he hasn't got the verbal or social skills! We had a nice afternoon then and he is fine, but I still feel really cross about it.

Possibly not probably

I do have my doubts about her yes, but as we are nearly at the end of the year I just hope for better luck next year...

Is it really petulant to consider not getting her an end of year present?

Better late than never-glad he had his special time, but there was really no excuse for not getting the day right.

Hopefully he will have a nicer teacher next year.

Ah, that's good to hear Ouluckyduck. Warm fuzzy feeling and smiles at your DS's happiness and "made a noise like animals in the jungle" (although I hope that doesn't mean that noise they made was scary for him?)

OhDoAdmit - I'm so sorry that you have those memories of your DS's early experience of school. I'm sure his birthdays and dressing-up days since have been much more fun for him.

Well you could get her an end of year present but you might forget that it's the last day...

i'm glad they made an effort today and he was pleased.

I do think that regardless of the child's condition a teacher should remember. And my DS, who has good language skills, would be too shy to mention it. her behaviour had nothing to do with your DS and this will not be a problem with a different teacher!

(and don't worry about the deleted posts - they had little to do with you and your ds)

This:
"I know all children are special and deserve the best, but wouldnt you try and make sure to give pleasure to a child who has so much to put up with..."

Yes, as a teacher of that child you jolly well should. Very well put OuLuckyduck your DS is being well looked out for.

Thank you