To be very upset that the teacher forgot ds's birthday today?

[Ouluckyduck]

he is six today and has special needs. He had been so excited - " I will give out the sweets today Mummy, they will sing for me Mummy"

I gave her the bag of sweets in the morning and he wore a badge saying "I'm six". When I picked him up at the end of the day he was rying his eyes out, so upset because his birthday hadnt been acknowledged at all. His teacher said "sorry we'll do it tomorrow" but in a very lofty way. I then said "it means so much to him you know" and she said well he might be "creating" now but he'll be fine and she just forgot, he should have reminded her. Which makes me think she doesnt know or understand him at all, he wouldn't know how to remind her, he hasn't got the verbal or social skills! We had a nice afternoon then and he is fine, but I still feel really cross about it.

such a shame the teacher forgot and worse, didn't seem to care how hurt your DS was by that. Fair enough to forget something when you probably have loads to remember, (even though the birthday boy had a badge, sweets to share and was mega excited ) but to not even care that you've upset a small child doesn't sit right with me. I'd personally be mortified if I was the reason such a lovely little boy (and your DS does sound lovely, OP) was so upset- especially on a special day.

I'm glad he had a lovely birthday anyway.

PommPoire there seems to be something wrong with your keyboard that whenever you type teaching it comes up as teach(ing).

Oh, WhyDontYouMindYourOwnBusiness, do forgive me, perhaps I have misunderstood your sensitive and eloquently worded responses to the OPs evident distress...were your questions about how her child didn't understand, in fact, rhetorical? Although, this does make it puzzling that you didn't pick-up on the possibility that mine too were rhetorical, ah well.

NovackNGood no, my keyboard is fine is thankyou, I was quoting WhyDontYouMindYourOwnBusiness and needed to change the tense in order to make sense.

Sorry, that should be thank you.

Any update?

WhyDontYouMindYourOwnBuisness Cheerio!

And he's a gemini - one of the best kind of people

WhyDontYouMindYourOwnBuisness Why Don't You Mind Your Own Buisness? Or should I correct that and say business?

You clearly have nothing constructive or helpfull to add!

Anyway, was just popping by in the hope that the OP was going to tell us about the wonderful experience of her DC today at school!!

Whydontyoumindyourownbuisness - are you usually so vile? Your last post was disgusting. Why don't you go away? Also, why is your name misspelt?

My son doesnt have very good language skills. At the OP's DC's age he certainly couldnt have explained anything clearly.
He knew when his birthday was though.
Why on earth wouldnt he?
My son can now tell you all about Dr Who and Killer Whales but he still gets confused about what a pillow case is and what the hallway is called.

I myself am confused about your question. It doesnt really make any sense.

I suppose I am a moron too the :/

Poor little lad is six, a mere babe. This is his class teacher, who is supposed to care about him. And if she's so offhand about it all, you have to wonder how much trouble she goes to in order to really understand her children as individuals.

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere you may be sure that you are no such thing! Someone must have reported I think - talk about trip-trapping, provocative, distracting nonsense. Poor Ouluckyduck, I hope your DS got to hand his sweets out today.

That is so sad. As a supply teacher I always celebrate them- you can hardly manage not to notice a badge! There is really no excuse if they are in your class.

Tell him I'll sing for him! I'll get my dogs to do a little dance too ;) poor little thing though, some people seem to forget how things like that are a MASSIVE deal to children. She should know better being a teacher especially.

Hope he had a good birthday otherwise though x

Yes, ignore the trip-trappy unpleasantness. Its owner can take it back under their stone.

OP, hoping your DS has been sung to by now!

I am really, really not a teacher basher. I hope that my posting history will bear that out.

But I had a lot of this when DS was in Mainstream school. He missed out on so much because the effort was just not put in.
He couldnt express himself and staff would give verbal instructions instead of writing things down for me to see.

He missed non uniform days, trips and I missed assemblies and parent's evenings because of it.

It was heartbreaking to see his distress when we would turn up and he would be dressed in uniform whilst the others were wearing superhero costumes etc.

Its making me upset just thinking back on it. I made him put up with that for two years before I had the sense to move him.

I hope your DS had a lovely birthday OP and that the appt went well today.

OhDoMiss I've got tears in my eyes reading your posts, I can't imagine how hard that was for you.

Hi sorry for coming back so late! Am not sure how to feel about those deleted posts...

Anyway, he got to give out his sweets today, the class said happy birthday and "made a noise like animals in the jungle", and he got a card. I asked him after school if he was happy and he said yes.

I must admit though that I avoided meting the teacher's eye at picking up time...

Oh your poor little boy. He must have been so disappointed to have his birthday overlooked/forgotten.

I think this is a very poor effort from his teacher. Birthdays are so important to children of this age and really how long would it have taken to acknowledge, hand out his sweets and sing happy birthday to him? Particularly as you say she acknowledges birthdays as a regular occurrance with your son's classmates... I think I would be querying why she felt it was okay to ignore DSs.

She sounds quite lacking in empathy and compassion to have been so offhand about it, especially as your son was actually in tears
TBH this would somewhat undermine the trust I had in her as my DDs caregiver and teacher and I think I would tell her that too.

MrsdeVere

Part of my sadness was about not understanding where the teacher was coming from - I know all children are special and deserve the best, but wouldnt you try and make sure to give pleasure to a child who has so much to put up with - frequent hospital appointments, poor health, speech and language difficulties, social problems, behind in his learning... I think he really deserves every nice experience he can probably get!

Oh X post!

So pleased that some effort has finally been made to recognise your boy's special day!

Better late than never I spose... But glad your son enjoyed it!