to think 41 isn't too old?

[moogster1a]

Told DM on Saturday that I'm pg. ( due December). She told my sister whose response, according to DM was to be "just flabbergasted". When I asked why, she replied because of my age, obviously. I'll be 42 when lo is born and have 2 dc age 5 and 2 so it's not like it's a huge gap and no one would have expected it.
She went on to tell me of 3 other people she told, all of whom apparently said words to the effect of she must be mad at her age etc.
Surely it's not that bizarre an age to be pg. Really pissed me off as if I'm being freak granny mum.

Just remembered I'm actually 42

When I was pregnant with DD my GP told me that the average age for women giving birth in London to their first child was 32. That was seven years ago and I'm willing to bet it's gone up. Not one doctor or midwife batted an eye at my age for either of my two, and I doubt they would if I got pregnant now (at 42, not 41 )

No 41 is not too old. I was 41 when I got pregnant....after years of trying. :)

I think it also depends where you live. In London no-one batted an eye at a late 30-something with a baby. Where I live now I sometimes feel old compared to other mothers with kids the same age, but either people don't think the same thing or they are too polite to say anything. And anyway, I don't care!

many many congratulations :)

gives me hope i am 40 this year and would love another baby (need a partner though)

Congrats, OP! Tell your mother to zip it and to stop passing on other people's petty spite. I've just had my first baby aged 39, and my community midwife says she's currently seeing more women over forty than under thirty. You'd be absolutely in the normal age range around here (north London) - I was in a local cafe full of mothers yesterday with a friend (also 39) with our small babies, and virtually every woman in their with a baby or small child was at least my age or older.

No, not too old :)

Just to add, having children in your forties isn't new, have a look at census returns for your family going back to the 19th century, you can often find that the youngest was born to a mother in their 40s. With no contraception, it was likely. I wonder how they coped with all their pregnancies, the ones that made it, the ones that didn't. So much was left unsaid...

Congratulations. No not too old. I am 44 and 28 weeks with no 3!
No one has really commented on my age although I think acquaintaces probably think I am younger than I am.

O yes and my mum nearly 42 when she had me. Before she died she said what a blessing I was as she was in effect able to be a grandma again to my two young children when the rest of the grandchildren had grown up.

Congratulations Snowgo00. A friend told me that people with blood group A have a bit more luck with having children in their forties, no idea if there is any scientific basis to it or if it is just piffle!

Thank you whendreams

Sorry whatdreams

I'm blood group A.

My gran was 43 having my mum so it's a bit of a family tradition :)

My nana had her first child at 38, and my dad at 46!

Her attitude to most judgemental people was "fuck'em".

Congrats!

Congratulations. I am 40 and having my 3rd.
So many people have babies in their 40's - Uma Thurman is all over the papers these days pregnant at 42.
It just seems normal.

Good for your nana, I like the cut of her jib :)

yanbu at all, however things were perhaps different for your Mum. My Mum was mid thirties when she had me and was considered and "older mother" and made to feel like a grandma at risk of a whole host of health problems, however when I was pregnant at 23, I felt like a baby as most of the other mums in my antenatal class were in their mid to late thirties. Times change, your Mum needs to realise that!

Thanks hairytale!
My Granpa was also 11 years younger than she was-and she outlived him by ten years!