To kick up a fuss at school tomorrow.

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i picked dd1 up at school today, and she has a massive graze on her nose, upper lip, lip and chin. Her left cheek was swollen and she had the beginning of a black eye.

Tbh she looked like she'd been in a brawl.

When I asked her what had happened she got teary and just wanted to go home.
Her regular teacher wasn't around and there was a sub, who is really not a great teacher. When she saw my expression the teacher casually mentioned that there was a note in dd folder, but offered no other explanation

I am really upset. I know that fallings part of growing, and they did applied some ice. But this incident happened very early today (before break from what I gather)

Dd has a massive swelling on her cheek, lip and chin and was in pain for the majority if the day. She's a really strong little girl and doesn't complain easily so didn't make a fuss

The school has a policy not to administer any children's brufen without permission, but they never contacted me to ask if they should give her a dose or if I would like topic her up.

So wibu to go in and complain very loudly to the class teacher? not about the actually falling part, but how they handled the situation after that?
Seeing my little girl's face so badly scraped and swollen and the fact that she was in pain unnecessarily is breaking my heart so my judgement might be a little off.

How old is dd1? sounds like more than a little scrap with another child .

I would go in and say something in the morning, if she was in pain they should have called you so you could pick her up of pop in with some calpol for her.

She's a really strong little girl and doesn't complain easily so didn't make a fuss

Therein layeth your answer. School staff are not psychic, if she doesn't say she's in pain, they aren't to know how poorly she is feeling.

I don't know any school that keeps a general purpose bottle of calpol/suspension/ibuprofen 'just in case' mum says it's ok to dose them up.. What if she were allergic? they can't dispense drugs willy nilly. Named bottles of prescription drugs are a different matter.

I would speak to the teacher in the morning. Not a loud complaint, but just let your feelings be known and tell them you expect to be informed if anything like this happens again.

Our school always phones if there is a facial injury - just so you don't get that awful shock at pick up time. A minor head bump would have a little slip in the bookbags, but I think I have been called for anything nasty looking.

i would say something - i was asked to pick my ds up the day he split his lip (a ball hit him in the face) and he was fine

I would talk to the teacher tomorrow, I would expect an explanation of the injury at least and if it WAS caused by another child I would be asking why and how. I wouldnt go in in a rage or anything like that but I do think a word is in order.

She's 6. There was a stick that another girl fell over and in trying to help the other girl dd fell down 2 steps.

Dd confirmed that it wasn't a fight and so have several of her Friends who were very keen to make sure dd was ok when I went in to pick her up and let me know all the details.

I believe it was a fall. What I'm really upset about is how they handled it and feel I should make it an issue.

What I'm really upset about is how they handled it and feel I should make it an issue.

What do you hope to gain from it? A change in policy? An apology? Because an issue for the sake of it is pointless.

JTH- I would have been happy to go in and pick dd up, had they not had anything at the nurses station.

Her lip was so swollen she didn't eat much all day, so how does the teacher, a ta and a student teacher not notice this?

She's a child and they are the adults, they knew she had had an injury, what does being observed mean otherwise?

I wouldn't 'make it an issue' - just make it clear that you think it is unacceptable that you weren't contacted to be informed or given the opportunity to come in and give calpol.

someone should have said something to you at pick up. the teacher in charge having seen you, should have.

I would also think you should have gone straight up and asked that teacher what had happened.

I would deffo speak to someone tomorrow.

I would like them to ensure that should the situation happend again to any other child then the parents are involved.

My heart is breaking at the state her face is in and the fact that she was in pain unnecessarily ALL day.

Yes but if she'd wanted to go to the medical room and sit there or if she was crying to go home, surely she would have made the staff aware?

My DS comes home with all sorts of injuries but he doesn't always ask to go to the medical room or to go home because sometimes he doesn't actually need/want to.

Did your DD say they prevented her from going to the medical room? Or was she hurting too much to get on with the rest of the school day?

Right. Some kids are very good at not making a fuss. You agree that is the case with your daughter?

Winding back a million years when footballs were banded and sponge balls allowed, my then ^yo came out of school and collapsed (and he's 'hard'). I took him to A&E and he'd torn his cornea through a sponge ball hitting him and filling his eye with dirt.

I did say, the following day, that I was nonplussed how it had never been noticed. But he hadn't said a single word in class or drawn attention to himself.

I would expect a call from school for an accident which has resulted in that amount of grazing

I wouldn't go in all guns blazing but I do think the school could have communicated better

So if they had called you earlier, what would you have done? Did she need picking up? Did she ask for pain medication and they refused?
yabvu to complain loudly. It will end in you looking completely pfb.

Based on your description I would have called you and given you the opportunity to come check her out/give calpol/take her home. I would say as much to the staff and I don't think YABU.

OP - I'm not clear why other posters don't think there is a point in saying something. By leaving your Dd in pain, the school have failed in their duty of care to her. If no-one ever raises issues, then nothing ever changes: of course blame won't help. But they should have called you and it is reasonable to raise that with them.

Civil she made it clear her dd doesn't complain about pain. Should they give her medication anyway. I would be very unhappy and that.

If the school knew the child was in pain and ignored her then they were out of order.

But I don't think we know that or do we?

Both girls were taken to the 'medical' room. Ice applied and dd rested until her nose stopped bleeding.

She then rejoined her class.

I'm assuming that the swelling got worse as the day progressed.

Tbh it looked pretty awful by the time I pick her up.

I know it's irrational to be upset with the school because it was an accident, but why not handle it better??!

But what's classed as better?

I think the teacher should a) ask and b) use their common sense - no one has injuries like that and isn't in pain.

Did your child complain of being in pain or ask if she could go home?

If she didn't, I don't know why you think they could have handled it better.

I appreciate it must have been quite a shock to see her like that when you picked her up, but really if the school thought she was fine and she didn't display any signs of being unwell...I don't think they were wrong.

TBH I don't think it just about whether she complained of pain or not. She's 6, she's had quite a bad fall, school could have handled it better. Both at the time and at pick up.

Dprince, given the extent of her injury they should have called me and let me decide whether she needed the pain relief or not.

I don't expect them to administer pain relief but they should they not recognize when a child (especially one who has been there for a while) is not herself?