to really miss getting pissed?

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DD is 4 months old and am ebf. No intention to give it up before six months, but I REALLY miss drinking! Will happily have a v small amount of wine with a meal, but miss being about to go out to a pub and drink with abandon. It's not just the breast-feeding, its also the overwhelming sense of responsibility, knowing that my choices don't just affect me anymore. Someone please tell me that I will be to enjoy a boozy evening in the pub again one day?

You will, and you will also learn the pleasures of looking after a toddler with a hangover the following day. That's always fun that is.

You will but like edwin bear says, there is a price to pay.

I am lucky, I do not get hangovers!!

If you do fancy having more than a small glass of wine as a one off, have you thought about pumping? I've done this on special occasions, birthdays, Christmas etc.

Thanks edwinbear and mammaTJ! I'm pumping already, but more to get her used to a bottle (she will have to start nursery at six months as I am back to work then). She is not that keen on bottles anyway, so trying to get her to take one for a 3am feed is probably more trouble than it is worth :(
I guess that I will just have to wait a little while longer...

That 6 month mark will be here before you know it! Good luck with the bottles.

Ooh i miss getting drunk and my boy is two but i have no one to baby sit for me!!! It sucks. I want a decent night out with friends and not to have to worry about my little boy!!

Have you considered you might have a problem?

Why do you want to poison your body with alcohol?

Is your life really so bad that you need to drink 'with abandon'?

What message will you be giving your dc?

Balotelli, really ?

I'm on enforced sobriety due to working every. fucking. night.

I feel your pain OP.

DH is going out not this Saturday but next and I must have the night off. I can't wait. I've already restocked the vodka and am perusing Netflix and making a list of films to watch [rock and roll]

Knowing my luck, work will ask me to do Sunday morning instead

Shock horror I've got drunk with my children there watching! I can vividly remember the first time I noticed that my father was a little drunk, and my reaction at the time was very similar to my childrens - I was slightly shocked and also thought it was very funny. Parents are allowed to be human too.

OP I think the overwhelmingness of that sense of responsibility reduces over time as you grow used to parenthood and once your baby is less completely dependent. Depending on your babysitting set up (and you and your baby too) your first night without feeling constrained is a few months or a few year off.

My children are just turning into teenagers and so we have a lot more freedom as they can be left on their own for a few hours during the day, and have an active social life with sleepovers etc. It still feels very odd when we have a night with no responsibilities at all though :)

Bloody hell Balotelli, judge much?

How horribly sanctimonious.

OP - wine is lovely and even Jesus was a fan (hear that Babs?)

A small glass will not harm and in the meantime six months will soon be up.

My DD is FF so I definitely enjoy a couple of glasses when she is in bed.

Hardly 'judging' just reading and responding to what OP wrote.

I have never understood the 'need' for alcohol.

It is a poison and destroys bodies, lives and families.

The NHS and Police spend billions clearing up, treating and dealing with the effects of alcohol.

All fact.

No Judgement.

Drink with abandon..sorry don't get it, enjoy a drink yes , several even but drink to abandon loose your senses etc ( as this is how I interpret your post) just don't get it... Baby sitter calls as dd has temp and is being sick....you are too pissed to even think properly... Sorry don't get.

She wants a few glasses of wine every now and again, not a daily vat of vodka

Besides which I doubt it's the alcohol the OP is missing as such, the drink is just part of the whole having a night off and relaxing without worrying about being woken up in the night/early morning. Just having an evening to yourself, to be yourself, instead of just being mum to someone.

( Balotelli honestly, you think you don't sound judgmental? If not then surely just decline to comment? )

OP - agree with previous poster re lovely social / unwinding aspect to a nice evening with a drink or two.

I'm sure that when the OP said "drink with abandon" she didnt mean she was planning to get to Wetherspoons for happy hour, neck 18 double vodkas, puke in a gutter and fight the police on her way to A&E.

It's just nice to be able to accept a top up of wine without having to mentally calculate exactly how much you've had.

Sorry, but I too read the op as I want to go to the pub, drink with abandon and get away from the responsibilities if motherhood.

Which are normal feelings to have, it is fairly daunting to realise that you will always be on duty, even when you are supposed to be off.

Feeling you are missing out in grown up social time, a few drinks and a nice time is fine.

Resenting that you can't go out and get totally of your tits to the point you are incoherent and burbling, would in my IMO, mean looking at why you feel like you need to do that. Just in case it is PND, or simply not getting enough of a break at this early stage.

When DD is sleeping a bit better you can drink more after her bedtime.

You'll find you'll want to drink more than you can handle. Bf is dehydrating, plus you'll be a lightweight after abstaining so long....at least, that's my case.

I started having a babysitter and going to pub for a relaxed beer and food at about 8 months, but then DS took a long time to start going long enough between bf at night.

From about 12 months, I started to feel 'myself' again. It's just a matter of time. I remember DS at 4 months - so needy and full-on and the bfing was just constant. I'm only 11 months down the line from you and I have to think hard now to remember how difficult it was. Good luck

Try dr brown bottles.dd couldnt take any other now takes that.She is ten weeks and I went out drinking until 3am for my mates birthday on sat. She is ebf never touched formula

have you tried filling a regular wine glass with a non alcoholic drink at home?
works for me, I still feel like I'm getting that special drink but without the worry of drunk with kids in the house

I know what you mean OP, but it may be that you are missing the lack of responsibility more than alcohol and that feeling doesn't go away even when the baby will take a bottle.

My ds is 8 months and I have been able to have a few nights out as he will happily take a bottle. I found though that when out I really missed him, and although it was fun to have a couple of drinks the alcohol really hits you when you havent had it in a while, and I got sleepy and went home after 2 hours.

I guess I have lost the will/ability to 'drink with abandon', and believe me i used to love a big night out. Having tried the nights out post baby I would rather do dinner/coffee/shopping with friends than sit in the pub. Maybe you will find the same. If not then once weaning starts you will have more freedom so hold on for a few more months, and perhaps try a cup if the bottle feeding isn't working.

The reason dr brown ones work is the feeding movement is the same as on the breast.dd gags on tommy tipee even though they are shaped like breasts.the only thing is dr brown youbcan only do 2 ounze at time.I tried everyday and got her used to it she was then fine for dh

Was great to have some drinks even on the jagerbombs on celebration for my friend.Dh cooked for me yesterday and I didnt even feel bad even though had 3 hours sleep.

Another one who can't understand the need to 'get pissed' or 'go to the pub and drink with abandon.'

Don't think those things are compatible wih motherhood or even adulthood.

By the way I regularly drink alcohol (days of breastfeeding are long behind me) but would never have more than a couple of glasses. Alcohol is much more pleasurable in moderation. I have a horror of people who 'get drunk' and loose control. The idea of doing that in front of children is particularly appaliing.

Think Britain has a dire alcohol problem.

It's about being able to take off the burden of being mummy, just for a short while. I can understand that. Whether you choose to do that with more than one small glass of wine, going out running (as I do), losing yourself in a book and knowing you won't be interrupted etc. Unless the OP is talking about getting so pissed so takes her knickers off and chucks them at stray passers by, starts a fight and then pukes in a taxi, i don't see any need for the catsbum face.

YANBU. It is nice to get tipsy, it is nice to be carefree.
Balotelli: I don't get all this "your body is a temple" stuff. I don't live my life to maximise my health. I love getting a bit tipsy (not completely drunk) with DH once in a while, usually with a lovely meal and a bottle of good wine. I can have a nice time without alcohol as well, of course, but sometimes I want wine so I drink it. Why on earth shouldn't I?

BTW our babies were all taken to pub while DH and I had a meal and a glass of something from almost newborn. Neither of us felt the need to get hammered.