to really miss getting pissed?

[BettyFriedansLoveChild]

DD is 4 months old and am ebf. No intention to give it up before six months, but I REALLY miss drinking! Will happily have a v small amount of wine with a meal, but miss being about to go out to a pub and drink with abandon. It's not just the breast-feeding, its also the overwhelming sense of responsibility, knowing that my choices don't just affect me anymore. Someone please tell me that I will be to enjoy a boozy evening in the pub again one day?

You may well find that when you are able to have more than one glass, you feel pissed as a fart halfway down the second one... You'll now have the alcohol tolerance of a 15 year old, I'm afraid...

Wow, some judgey responses to this thread! (And some nice empathetic ones). No, I don't want to drink until I am lying face down in the high street with my knickers round my ankles, but I would like to be able to share a bottle with DP, and if the conversation is flowing and the wine is particularly delicious, to be able to open a second bottle. (Yes, I am a bit of a wine geek - this is why I miss drinking, and also why I can't buy into the whole alcohol-is-a-poison thing). Not saying that opening the second bottle would happen every night, or even every week, I just miss the option of being able to do it.

YANBU !!

I haven't been able to get drunk since July 2007 due to 3 dc under 3 and bf them all until 1 and 1/2, still bf 17mo...but it's the sense of responsibility etc too.

I simply cannot wait to have an overnight baby sitter one day and really let my hair down and get more than tipsy!

I agree it's not about the getting totally drunk and in a state...it's more a case of not thinking, oh I'd better stop my night now as bf/have to be there for the dc in the night etc.

Betty thanks for clarifying. Before you get a bit about the judginess please remember

a) for some of us, like myself, it was a syntax issue over the "drink with abandon" interpretation.
b) this is Mumsnet ... judginess is practically compulsory

In your specific case, honestly, it's not long in the grand scheme of things, it just sucks now. I remember with dh, back when I did drink, we had been given a particularly lovely bottle of Rioja, I was lovingly nursing my single glass whilst dh merrily worked through the bottle raving about how good it was. to this day I do not know how I managed to refrain from clonking him over the head with he bottle

My 20 year old niece was out on the tiles til early hours when her DS was only a month old She sees me as an old-fashioned stay-at-home mumsy-type. I think the judgy-pants are people who never drink much anyway and think people who DO drink are like this

you dont have to get in that much of a state lebfg.I dont see anything wrong with going out for the night your allowed to have a night off and a relax and dads are allowef to go out with friends without anyone saying anything.

Yes for me it was a syntax issue. I can totally understand the desire to have the burden of responsibility temporarily lifted from your shoulders, enjoy some time to yourself, relaxing - i just have a problem with the need to 'get pissed', reminds me of teenagers in a park swigging from a bottle of vodka.

I also like wine very much, and have a glass with dinner of an evening more often than not really, and more than one if I am enjoying a long meal in the company of friends. I am not a puritan! But I do find alcohol is more of a pleasure that way, than in excess, and much as I enjoy the first one or two glasses, I lose the desire to drink more after that, and get a headache if I do.

OP you asked if YABU missing getting "pissed", some people think that yes you are, what's judgey about that? Your baby is only 16 weeks old, you've got a long way to go until they are no longer dependent on you, and by then all you want is a mug of Horlicks.

YANBU - getting pissed is FUN! i believe it is good for the soul. Seriously though, going out (or even staying in) drinking really does enrich my life, it's good to really let your hair down after working/being mum all the time, you can lose your inhibitions a bit and have some funny chats with your partner/friends and dance like a demon. Etc. None of that is the same if you are sober.

Really? getting pissed is fun? poisoning yourself, putting your health at risk. putting your safety at risk and feeling like shite the next morning!!! OOOOoh what fun not to mention a waste of money.

Where did I say 'my body is temple'? My body is a fun park, just a well cared for fun park.

Guess that's one of the positive sides of divorce - every other weekend I can go out and get shit faced slightly tipsy and not have to deal with any kids the next day

all depends on how you look at it bugster sees 2 glasses of wine as not much whereas when I have that much I am completely out of control and I always go out.

This thread is brilliant. I am 34 weeks pregnant and cannot wait to have a very strong gin and tonic and let my hair down. It doesn't mean you are poisoning yourself! Oh and no wonder you don't like booze zukiecat if you dri k wkd!!! Good wine is one of life's great pleasures

Ah the judgypants are swinging around on this thread alright.

I'm with you OP, I also miss having a great night out without worrying.
I don't want to get legless, just that nice relaxed feeling after a few glasses of wine and a good laugh.

YANBU. I felt the same as you op. I loved my dd but felt like I wanted some fun with no responsibilities too. It DOES get easier.

'my body is a temple' = a place to burn strange substances, make libations and sacrifice virgins :)

i haven't got drunk drunk in ages. i love it. i miss it.

i found i could get quite tipsy when my baby slept reliably until 5-6am ...

actual drinking all night silliness has been very rare since first child. toddler hustling on a hangover is very much less than no fun.

actually, my body is a tempura...

a little bit fishy, and totally battered.

:)

My body is a condemned building

I love having a good bottle with my dh, whilst having a great chat. I also love going out with girlfriends and drinking mojitos all evening.

I was lucky that I didn't miss booze whilst bfing, but it was great to get back to it.

Nice to see there are others out there like me. In RL I find I'm surrounded by the sort that throw a disapproving look my way when I open a bottle of beer, or slurp up a second glass of wine. Fortunately DH thinks they're a whole load of judgy pants too. I've never thought what I do is unusal or 'wrong'. And letting loose once in a while - well, I wish I could go on the tiles and drink some mojitos too - been far too long!

ballotelli, I think you're hypoxic from pulling your judgey pants so high.

YANBU....mine are 8 and 6 now, and me and DH share a bottle of wine or 2 every Friday and every Sat...i used to drink in moderation while i was Bfeeding as i used to express beforehand :O

:o Edgar I know that feeling!

*Ballotelli, sounds like you need a or seven!

The OP is missing the heady carefree days of pre children, when she could get smashed (or not) as it suited her. What the hell is wrong with missing that?! And soon she will get the chance to go out, have 2 glasses wine and start a third at which point she will go home because she is plastered tired and have a monster hangover the next day. Then she will vow to never do it again, and will stick to that, until the next baby comes along......:o