To be angry that xh allowed DD to drink wine on a school night?

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DD was staying with XH who lives with his parents. She is 15 and not used to drinking. She was encouraged to have a glass of wine in the evening by stupid grandmother but it was a school night AND she was in the middle of her end of year exams so had two exams the following day.

She has an occasional very watered down alcopop in the past with me but only at weekends and she hasn't yet got into drinking with her mates. She thought it was all quite funny and tells me that her friends are drinking all the time at home but surely not on a school night?!

AIBU to be angry with XH who allowed it and do other 15 year olds drink on a school night??

Those who think the OP is right here- what age would it be OK to give a teenager a glass of wine with their dinner?

On the one hand, I think it's fine for a 15 to have a glass of wine - on any night of the week! She's old enough to handle it.

OTOH, my dh and I drink a lot (both our families did) so I'm very aware of not wanting to normalise it and see it as something that has to be done and got used to!

I don't think the OP is right, I can't see how someone who is teaching their 15 year old to drink alcopops can expect people to know a glass of wine with dinner would not be acceptable.

I would say 16 would be about right for a glass of wine with dinner.

But not on a school night, and definitely not the night before an exam.

Yabu - ridiculously so tbh.

I wouldn't routinely give anyone who was underage a glass of wine with dinner. On special occasions they could have a glass if they wanted to, but until they were 18 I wouldn't offer alcohol as a usual drink at all.

I have a glass with dinner most evenings, I don't see any reason to offer that to my dc until they are adults.

Easy to say it was just one glass of wine as an adult used to drinking. I have not drunk for 6 years but recently had just one glass of wine and boy am I a cheap date these days. For that reason I would not be happy with this situation, given it was the night before an exam.

Yes, I agree with Celia - an occasional glass of wine with dinner, not a routine thing.