To think that you shouldn't....

[mangomadness]

.....visit a newborn baby and nursing mother if somebody in your house has viral tonsillitus? You've been looking after them, learned over baby for 2 hours and didn't tell me until you're left about said virus. That's the tonsillitus that spreads. I have a poorly baby desperately fighting the virus, it's breaking my heart, I'm a first time mum and it's agony knowing I can't just make my baby better.

Also I now have tonsillitus.... Feeding every 2 hours when my boobs and nips are painful thanks to all my swollen glands, was not what I wanted as a present.

It's also known by these visitors that I get severe, can't talk, can't eat and can hardly drink tonsillitus if I'm near somebody who has it. I'm getting the bastards whipped out whilst I'm on mat leave.

I'm probably going to get flamed for being too precious but I need to vent!

YANBU, or precious!

I hope they know what they've done and feel suitably mortified about it.

Feel better soon.

Thank you, thought it was my hormones and illness combined making me irrational.

YADNBU.Hope you and your poor baby feel better soon.

YANBU at all!! I thought it was common sense to postpone visits to people if you're ill. Guess not!

YADNBU! How bloody inconsiderate! I hate it when people visit newborns and mothers knowing they are ill. It's just not on! Hope you feel better soon and hope they know what they have done so they don't do it again to someone else!

YADNBU - what a complete lack of common sense! I would be giving them a few choice words. Have you told them that your newborn baby is now unwell because of their thoughtless actions?
I feel angry on your behalf!

YANBU at all. I wouldn't visit a newborn and their parents even with a sniffle, let alone something viral.

Poor you, I hope you feel better soon.

Who was the nutter who did this? Have you killed them yet?

YANBU! I would go mad! i'm very on your behalf. Hope you and your little one feel better soon.

YANBU. Thats very thoughtless in my opinion, I hope you both get better soon.

Here comes the flaming part......

.....the in-laws

YANBU, I get tonsilitus too, its bloody awful, but I've never had it and nursed a newborn. Stupid idiots, I hope they grovel for forgiveness.

No flaming from me, out of everyone they should be the most considerate towards their new grandchild. I can understand wanting to meet the baby but they could have at least waited until they weren't infectious!

But I expect they were so excited... but they should have known better & not be so selfish (or at least come in wearing surgical masks!)

YANBU

YANBU (or precious) in the slightest. I do hope you let this inconsiderate shit of a person know that this has happened and that they bear the responsibility. I'd go for maximum guilt-tripping but only because I'd be too cowardly to take out a contract on them.

Oh God. Poor you!! YANBU and they were being bastards.
Friends or family? I'd rip them to shreds once well enough.
God, why don't people think?!

YANBU, very selfish, even if it was the ILs!

I caught tonsilitis from one of DD's Pre-school friends a month ago. Her mother didn't tell me she was sick as she let her climb all over me and Baby DS. Then gave her antibiotics in front of us! Luckily DCs have been ok, but DH and I had it really badly, still not over it. Poor DH was very busy at work and unable to take time off, had to drug himself up to the eyeballs. I then caught a heavy cold on top of it that ruined our Jubilee weekend.

What is up with all the tonsilitis at the moment, BTW? It's flipping everywhere!

x posts. PIL?! Oh hell. Has DP called them to tell them they can now not visit at all due to them making you and baby ill? Knobs.

YANBU, they are stupid, selfish fuckwitted visitor. Hope you feel better soon and your baby too.

They'd been to see lo twice in hospital. Tbh this is my final straw, there's been issues (charging into ward and trying to take baby as I'm bf) and I've been made out to be irrational as I keep asking dh to say something....thats the deal if it's my mum I stand up to her, his he does it.
Final, final straw I'm going to have to say something (when I can talk) or buy dh some balls!

You are certainly NBU or precious about your newborn. On the other hand, the visitor was being incredibly stupid or selfish.

Hope you are both lots better very soon.

Only just saw it was your in-laws. What were they THINKING? Sure-fire way to piss you off and just so bloody stupid. Get your DH a pair of balls for Father's Day and good luck!!

YANBU! My newborn has been given the gift of conjunctivitis by a friends dd :(