To think that you shouldn't....

[mangomadness]

.....visit a newborn baby and nursing mother if somebody in your house has viral tonsillitus? You've been looking after them, learned over baby for 2 hours and didn't tell me until you're left about said virus. That's the tonsillitus that spreads. I have a poorly baby desperately fighting the virus, it's breaking my heart, I'm a first time mum and it's agony knowing I can't just make my baby better.

Also I now have tonsillitus.... Feeding every 2 hours when my boobs and nips are painful thanks to all my swollen glands, was not what I wanted as a present.

It's also known by these visitors that I get severe, can't talk, can't eat and can hardly drink tonsillitus if I'm near somebody who has it. I'm getting the bastards whipped out whilst I'm on mat leave.

I'm probably going to get flamed for being too precious but I need to vent!

YANBU or precious at all

Dh deffo needs to get some balls. Trying to take the baby when you're feeding? These people are totally inconsiderate

Buy him a spine instead. Cut his balls off and use them as earrings.

Irrational my arse!

Hideous, selfish, thoughtless thing to do.

You are not U in the slightest.

Hope you all recover soon.

Some people are just stupid. Hope you are both better soon.

This reminds me of the thread about the inlaws turning up with fil puking and crapping and the op went to her mums in the middle of the night because of them.
Op UANBU at all,congratulations btw.

Oh god I remember that one! I'm still mad on that OP's behalf!

Yes wasn't it norovirus he had and she had to have the house deep cleaned afterwards?

Yes it wasnorovirus, I admit I have wondered how she was on occasion .

I don't understand why people go bonkers when a baby arrives!
My mum is FURIOUS and is one phone call away from telling them what they're been doing. She's also mad at dh for not standing up to them, in his defence he's had lots of little chats but message is clearly not getting through :(

I'm currently trying to feed with a temp of over 39 so poor lo is getting roasted by me! Luckily lo seems over the worst and is resting loads after 2 horrible days

You poor thing, that's bloody rubbish. Obviously you're not unreasonable. Hope you're both feeling better soon.

I would let your mother loose on them! Your DH's chats are clearly not working. Now is the time to put down some expectations and standards.
Come on let your mother have a word - bet that will help sort them out!

Oh you poor things. On the plus side at least her immune system will have been boosted slightly, but I suppose that's no comfort. On the plus plus side - stupidity isn't catching.

Hell yes, let your Mum call. Hope you both feel better soon.

Is it bad of me that I thought "in-laws" as soon as I read the OP?

You are not at all precious! Stupid, stupid people! [Grr] for you.

Thank you all. Am slightly worried that they're going to send me down pnd route (I've suffered with depression and bipolar 2 for years) and it's good to know that I'm not irrational for being angry and upset!
If I let my mum loose, there's not a professional clean up team that'd be up to the job once she'd finished!

Oh I do like the sound of your Mum!
You are in NO way being irrational. And tell them to mind their own re your MH issues. I thoroughly dislike them for you.

poor you and your little one.

Hope you both feel better soon.

Terribley thoughtless pils.

Do let your mum have a word (or several)

have some

Kudos to you for not putting the fact it was ILs in OP. If a friend did this you'd disown them. Bec it's in laws you have to be fed shite like:

"ah it's their grandchild as well a your baby"
"they were so excited you can't blame them"
"you are a family now"
"it's not fair to exclude them at this precious time"
(not quoting thread, example of IL attitudes chez Bringme)

Whilst MIL clutches pearls about how she is being kept from her precious grandchild by evil DIL.

Ps get well soon to you and baby and congrats!

Poor you
My DM gave my DD who was 7 weeks early a welcome home present of a stinking cold. My DM was devastated that she had inadvertently caused it (had no symptoms on day of visit), so your ILs should be feeling equally guilty - if not more so - as they knew they were ill.
Hope you both feel better soon.

YANBU, I thought you were going to say it was perhaps a childless mate who just didn't really think but your PiL is awful! Recently my dad stayed away from visiting my newborn nephew because he had a rotten cold, even though he was desperate to see him. It's the considerate thing to do!

hang on to your tonsils. i had mine out and it didn't help at all.

Lovebunny: really? I've had it about 5 times in 12 months, one of those times I was admitted and had to spend all night on a drip.

Thank you everybody, think I'm going to write down all of the things that are/have upset me, get dh to ring them whilst I'm in the room and get it sorted..... I'm not going to hold my breath that it'll stop!