to wonder how people who shag strangers cope with...

[Herrena]

....the level of grooming required? I have been thinking about this since I saw Quantum of Solace and Prometheus last week (both of which contain people getting it on on the spur of the moment)

Seriously, I'd need about 24 hours notice before I considered myself presentable enough to shag a random hottie - I mean bikini wax, legs smooth, armpits smooth, hair looking presentable etc! I usually take an, ahem, relaxed attitude to this level of personal maintenance

Am I unusual in thinking this way? Does anyone else ever wonder about this?

Thanks [bravesmile] I think we are splitting up so I'm a bit maudlin self pitying emotional tonight!

Men don't care they just grateful.

When I was a teen, my boyfriend came around unexpectedly and I was all hairy and we had amazing sex on the sofa. So I think I learnt early on not to worry too much!

Sensual that's a lovely story, your DP sounds wonderful. I hope you're feeling better now.

Erik my DP is lovely, and the silly, insecure me cant believe I have landed such a kind, loving man. The other me, the me with the logical head, knows that every woman deserves to have a man that adore them and that they adore. If your DP really doesn't feel as though he is tr luckiest man alive, maybe there is someone out there, waiting for you to fall in to their lives like a ray of sunshine.

I'm by no means saying leave, but perhaps there is someone out there who could make you feel differently?

erik, if your H really feels that way then it sounds like you are going to be well rid. Doesn't make it any easier emotionally though :(

Sorry to hear that erik.

I also had a bit of a boudoir look going on in my 20s bedrooms ... there's a bread maker and a pile of ironing in there now - not a scented candle in sight!

And what twllbach said!!

X posts Erik sorry

Its a fair few years since Ive done anythihng like that but I never used to do anything any differently to now. I used to shave the armpits maybe once a month week if I could be bothered and the legs usually at the same time. Other than that - hmph. Never had any complaints. I never tended to notice their levels of self-grooming so I doubt they noticed mine.

So sorry to hear that eric.

Oh no Erik, I'm sorry to hear that :(

Erik sorry I spelt your name wrong too

Twllbach - yours too.

And yes I am fully recovered thanks

Thanks folks
no he doesn't love me enough :( and I deserve someone who does, I know that, which is why I'm trying to steel myself to end it properly. Ain't easy though. But when I read posts on here, and see friends' relationships, I think yes, that's what I deserve. He's not a bad man, he just doesn't feel the way I need him to feel.

Sorry for hijack

Good luck erik you do deserve it and I hope you get it.

(I used to have special going out pants, no longer.)

It sounds like you're doing the best thing, Erik - I was in a similar situation once and had to force myself to break with XP (we were engaged, first loves etc). It was horrible. But it had to be done because things simply could not go on the way they were.... he wasn't what I needed him to be and (IMO) vice versa was true as well. We were far better off separating.

X number of years on, I can look back and realise that breaking up with him was one of the best decisions I ever made. Just trying to reassure you that there will be a time when you look back and it isn't painful....

I know.....fuck it's hard though, it really is!

I certainly don't plan on ever leaving DH unless he continues to quote fecking Predtor at me however it hit me the other day how morbidly afriad I would be to display my stretchmarks to another man.

Obviously DH doesn't mind them and sees them as a reminder of the fact that I had his daughter (not that he would need a literal reminder, but you know what I mean), but another man out there will think "who is this victim of a shark attack I am shagging???"

Erik - sounds like a hard position to be in :( sorry to hear about it.
At risk of sounding flippant I reckon a thorough re-read of WoT in time for 8th Jan should take your mind off stuff a bit.

Sorry, Eric, I didnt read to the end of the thread, and hope my random post isnt insenitive

It is indeed hard.

However, when things have settled down enough for you to consider (gasp!) dating again, you might want to look this thread up for reassurance that not all men are unforgiving arbiters of personal grooming

I realised that I was in no way a contender when I realised that most women have brazilians these days. I can't even see my brazilian area properly thanks to my saggy gut Lucky lucky DH

someone just mentioned bread maker, and I realise I need to put mine on. I live such an exciting senshule life

Hope your ok Erik really hard situation to be in xx