to wonder how people who shag strangers cope with...

[Herrena]

....the level of grooming required? I have been thinking about this since I saw Quantum of Solace and Prometheus last week (both of which contain people getting it on on the spur of the moment)

Seriously, I'd need about 24 hours notice before I considered myself presentable enough to shag a random hottie - I mean bikini wax, legs smooth, armpits smooth, hair looking presentable etc! I usually take an, ahem, relaxed attitude to this level of personal maintenance

Am I unusual in thinking this way? Does anyone else ever wonder about this?

20 years ago when I was single I think the level of intimate grooming was much less. I hear that 'down there' nowadays requires maintenance. Thank goodness I wasn't expected to do that!

When I was young I don't remember obsessing about personal hygiene< whispers> down below

but now the thought of doing it with someone who hasn't washed their todger thoroughly beforehand......I mean , really

I was my husband's first partner. I set the standards to aspire to ;)

Also, jumping, I didn't 'hook' DP, he chased me very hard for a couple of months. I let him think he had to convince me, even though I knew he was the one I was going to spend the rest of my life with from the first hour I spent with him.

Did I mention I used to be thin?

And pretty?

Oh I don't know, I never bothered even when I used to shag randoms

We were teenage randoms though, so maybe they're less fussy. I don't know.

My OH looked after me when I was ill and lost most of my hair less than a yr into our relationship. One sunday when I was feeling really shitty I watched him teach my three DC to polish their shoes properly to make their shoes last longer and look respectable and I knew he loved me . Whenever I watch him polish his shoes now I just think about how he stepped in so early on and didn't care about my hair .

That's the kind of grooming I like on a guy - polished shoes

your DP sounds lovely twllbach :)

I know that technically I should only do all that grooming in order to make myself happy, but I've always found that the sheer faff of it all negates any enjoyment I take in the end result (with the possible exception of smooth lower legs, which mean I can then wear a skirt in summer and not be self-conscious)
plus, re-growth is uncomfortable and itchy

My DH has been watching this thread with some alarm - he says he counts as a random hottie and so I should follow this level of personal grooming every day. I laughed merrily

Meh - I used to take it where I found it and they could take me how they found me :) I rarely never had any complaints.

I didn't even do any pubic maintenance until I was 24 and nobody ever seemed fussed!

My grooming went out of the window before I hooked the bloke jumpingthroughhoops. Back in the olden days personal grooming wasn't required in the same way as it seems to be these days , thank goodness

Yes I always went out tidy It was art of my getting ready to go out routine. Choose outfit,get showered,shave fanny legs and pits,naice knickers etc. Always optomistic me! If I didnt get lucky at least id be fit for swimming the next day.

If I was off men for a bit it would be spikey legs and a 70's bush all the way

That's a nice story sensuallettuce

A certain level of personal hygiene does make one a bit randy, on the few ocassions I have had a Brazilian (wax) I couldn't wait to get me kecks off and show it off, I was always in the very early throes of a relationship (poor dp, probably wants his money back now) so still no shagging of strangers though!

Sensuallettuce awwww and

Twllbach and :( because my D H doesn't feel like that about me

I think most normal men wouldn't care about chipped nail varnish but might be put off by excessive leg hair!

I do feel more confident when I've done all the grooming, so maybe that is the attractive bit as you say passmethecrisps and realhousewife....

aww, erik :(

Erik that's :(

Let's hope men worry about their bodies as much. Otherwise we are being foolish.

Ooh I live in hope of Daniel Craig being lured into my den of vice consequently I defuzz regularly, maintain the downstairs bits and paint my toe nails.

When I started seeing my partner, things were complicated and overwrought and I used to not do any shaving and stuff if I was in his vicinity to put me off shagging him.

Never worked. And he was never bothered. Why would any man worth his salt be bothered?

This thread reminds me of a time I had the opportunity to boff a guy I had fancied for ages at a festival, but I just couldn't bring myself to do it as I was at a festival ffs, and it is hardly easy to keep oneself well groomed! Still regret it to this day as the opportunity never arose again and it was only the ^second^ night! (and he probably thought I was too virtuous and not too stubbly)

Some lovely posts on here though, many of you have lovely ohs! (mine's a keeper too bless him!)

Men really don't care that much. And normally if you were havign a one nigh stand wouldn't you have already been out on a date / night out, so probably quite well groomed anyway?

I can't say anyone I've been in a relatonship has noticed whether I've been wearing make up / shaved anyway.

When I was at Uni 20 years ago there was very little in the way of 'grooming' - maybe a leg shave.

There was topiared fanjo's, matching underwear, fake tan, fancy hair.

Not one man I fucked complained, in fact the level of gratitude was surprisingly high

There was NO topiared fanjo's etc. Obviously

I get the feeling that some younger ones today do worry this much, molasses - sad to say. I've been lucky enough that most of the men I've been out with have been confident enough to not be bothered by holes in socks, hair in odd places and the like (on me or themselves)!!

DH says he appreciates any effort I make but that none is really necessary, bless him. Mind you he could just be being nice because I'm very pregnant and can't reach my private areas anyway

back in the day i was always shag-ready! now I don't even own an epilator or wax stips

was quite nice to be permanently groomed actually! I need to work on it (once first trimester apathy passes)