to judge these parents at a wedding?

[villagegossip]

Went to the evening do of a friend's wedding this weekend. Chatting at the bar with DP to some people and a young couple came over to the people standing next to us.

They had a little boy with them about 4 yo and a TINY baby in a carrycot.

They were attracting a lot of attetion as the baby was so little and were loving telling people that he should've been born that day but was in fact 3 weeks prem.

So thinking they had come to say hi to the married couple and maybe have a drink or two, told them how gorgeous he was and went to get a seat.

They proceeded to sit at the next table and get shitfaced

Now, i'm not an old fudder but the disco was banging and there were strobe lights everywhere. The dad kept lifting him out of the carrycot to pass him around their mates for a cuddle.

Poor little chap was all curled into himself with screwed up face and clenched hands and feet like he was trying to hide

It just really upset me that he was being passed around in a really loud, bright place, to people that had been outside fagging it minutes before? and prob didn't wash their hands

Really had to bite my tongue - their other little boy spent the last 3 hours asleep on a bench before they got up and left at around 1.30am.

So AIBU to think they should have left baby with someone elsewhere if they were so determined to stay out all night getting trashed?

you really COUNTED the amount of drinks they had?! seriously, tho if as you say they spilt half of it then they didnt drink that amount then did they, accounting for spillages maybe it was more like 6 drinks for the dad and 4 for the mum? who cares, if you really thought they were properly drunk then do or say something at the time rather than just come and bitch about it on here.

as other than the drinking there is nothing wrong with what they have done, so you may not do it but not harm will come from one night out and hell maybe they needed it and yes they wanted to show their new baby off and it was an opportunity to do so.

as for a toddler sleeping on the bench, well its great they have a toddler that will do that i remember my ds2 and dd sleeping on the floor! but they wouldnt have done it out and about at that kind of even, much the pity it would have made my life easier if they had done!

btw do you know EXACTLY what they ordered at the bar, it could have been low alcohol beer or cider, or a weakish wine, or even a spritzer? you dont actually know or did you sneakily stand and check what they were ordering and find out the alcohol content in each drink as well?

Lets hope he screamed all night for them!

That's nice of you.