Was this inappropriate of the teacher

[sweetmoonbeam]

Hi, I hope it's OK to ask as I'm genuinely interested.

My friend has a ten year old daughter who is in year 5 and the week before they broke up for school there was a little jubilee party with sandwiches and cakes (in the style of a buffet.)

Friend's DD took two of the same type of cake and her teacher shouted at her, very publicly, to put one back, there was no need for her to take two and that she was being greedy.

The girl isn't fat but she is definitely not slim either. I don't know how to describe - plump isn't accurate as she isn't plump even, but on the big side of average? Does that even make sense?

She's a lovely girl and works hard but is quiet and likes to read so has been the victim of a little bit of bullying and teasing.

My best friend is a TA at the school and isn't normally with that class but because all the juniors were out that afternoon she saw this and mentioned it to me as she knows I know the little girl through my friend.

I think it's quite horrible of the teacher (and I am a teacher myself!) but am I being a bit defensive on behalf of my friend's DD?

Lol @ Ghost cake

Sprogged, I'm assuming the child wasn't pissed?

The point is, the child was being greedy. It is greedy to take 2 of something when there are other people to consider.

Your anecdote has nothing to do with this because the child in it, was being mocked by the teacher and not simply instructed to not be greedy...when she actually was being greedy.

But I feel like I'm making the same point over and over now and I guess we're not going to agree on it.

Perhaps it's an age thing. I'm 43 and when I was in school, greed was very much frowned upon. Then again, I can literally count on one hand the amount of overweight children in my entire Primary and Senior schools.

No they probably weren't pissed Worral. I'm 39 and I don't recall people being overweight in school either. I've never been overweight myself but I often had seconds for pudding, we all did. I think we don't agree because I don't see it as being greedy. I see it as a child thinking great - more cake. But like getting pissed at the office party, it's not something you do every day. And the anecdote is the same as this because the kids are going to feel they got a green light off the teachers reaction to bully the kid more.