To have asked my friend to put clothes on her potty traing child while at my house?

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First post so here goes! Invited a good friend and her dd to lunch and play date yesterday. She is potty training at the moment and had an wee so she changed her and left her naked. In my living room. She had a poo on the potty then still didn't put clothes on. She sat on the carpet and my cushions I had to asked her to pop some clothes on her in the end. I'm not fussy but I was mindful when I was potty training my ds while out and about. She seemed annoyed when I asked. It's been bugging me, Aibu?! I had to wash the bloody cushions too.

YANBU. Good grief!

If bum not wiped, then YANBU.

I really don't think it would bother me. If her husband stripped off and sat his sweaty bollox on my sofa cushions I'd probably have something to say , but not so much with a child.

Y were both BU.

She sat on your carpet, and cushions, but the way toddlers bodies are designe, her anus and vagina wouldn't actually be touching fabric. Would they?

But also, there was no need for the toddler to be naked. If potty training stay at home for a week, get it sorted, then venture out.

Yuk!
And apart from anything else, it really is quite cold at the moment....

Didn't she wipe the child's bum?

YANBU

I would not be impressed with this either.

There was no reason for your friend to be annoyed at you asking, not everyone's comfortable with a recently wiped naked bum shuffling along their carpet.

She could have at least put pants on her
YANBU.

Yanbu at all!! I wouldn't have liked that.

YANBU. A friend recently did this to me. Her DS peed twice on the playroom floor. After the first time she said "He NEVER normally does this!" and yet STILL didn't put any pants on him when he peed again.

I had a crawling baby at the time too.

I finally snapped when he sat astride the wheelybug and wiggled his way around the house.

Grrrr.

So what's the difference between sweaty bollock germs and DCs pooey bum germs pjama?

Are DCs bum germ cuter or something?

She was a bit unreasonable really, but not majorly , although if i went with a toddler to someone's house i would be mindful of their things, but that's just me. im not sure why she was upset at you asking i wouldn't have been shrug

YANBU. Why on earth did she think it was a good idea to try potty training while taking the DC out to someone else's house? Surely a DC's training could be hindered by different surroundings/distractions etc? And what do you do? Carry a pot around with you to someone else's house and dump it in the middle of their sitting room?

I don't know really zigzg! Can't really explain it, I just don't think I'd be so worried about something like this. Can see why others might though.

YANBU

A family member once brought their 3 year old DS round here; he pooed his pants and then she took them off and let him sit naked at our dining table ready for tea with no pants on and she hadn't wiped his bum!

I have a permanently naked potty-using 3 year old but there's no way I'd just let him be naked at someone else's house

I witnessed no wipe! I'm sure she did but I really didn't want wee/poo everywhere if it could be avoided. She is a great mum but perhaps she felt I was being critical in some way? Thanks for the replies glad its not just me that was abit Yuk with this.

Yanbu, if she wants unwashed bums on her sofa cushions, fine,but very disrespectful to let your child sit naked on someone else's.

What's wrong with cheap pants?

UGH!!!!
YANBU x 1000!!!

I agree btw pjmama (sorry, called you pjama before)

Same goes for cute DCs snotty noses and dribble, there's no way I could wipe DHs nose while I was eating and keep my food from coming back up but I do it with DD2 without a second thought

Weird.

She should have said to you beforehand "we are at the potty training stage where she is better naked, is that ok or would you rather come here/postpone"

It's amazing how you get desensitized to childrens various excretions isn't it?! I have a friend with a massive vomit phobia, but she has no problem dealing with her own kids when they're sick. Anyway I digress...!

YANBU, that is very yuk!