To have asked my friend to put clothes on her potty traing child while at my house?

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First post so here goes! Invited a good friend and her dd to lunch and play date yesterday. She is potty training at the moment and had an wee so she changed her and left her naked. In my living room. She had a poo on the potty then still didn't put clothes on. She sat on the carpet and my cushions I had to asked her to pop some clothes on her in the end. I'm not fussy but I was mindful when I was potty training my ds while out and about. She seemed annoyed when I asked. It's been bugging me, Aibu?! I had to wash the bloody cushions too.

Eugh - I take back my earlier post in that case. I want wiped bums! :o

There's a difference between a naked child and a naked child who's likely to wee on your sofa, isn't there?! I don't run the cleanest of homes, but it's enough having to clean up after my DS when he goes through his ripping-his-nappy off phases, to not make me relish having other people's DC's weeing (or worse) on my carpets!

Being naked helps at the beginning, because they can't deal with clothes and pants yet - so you leave them bare-bottomed and they can go on the potty whenever they need to. At home, that is.
I did that with both DD1 and DD2 and it works fine, but we never did it anywhere other than at home.
A friend of mine did it once when her DD came round to play, and it didn't bother me - it's better than having an accident.

YANBU. I think that's quite inappropriate. And wouldn't no what to say in your position although I wouldn't have the guts to say anything!

however well wiped, i wouod not want anybody's anus or genitalia in dontact with my soft frnishings

Yuck she should teach her dd to wipe and wash afterwards, that is part of toilet training. Fair enough leave your child nekkid from the bottom in your own home, but be respectful in other peoples homes and pop some pants on

Make sure that you meet on neutral territory next time-suggest the park.

This wouldn't bother me in the least.

But then my 5 YO DS still poos his pants on a daily Basis, so maybe I am a bit meh about small childrens bodily functions, it will wash out

Wouldn't bother me, but I have manky carpet that won't look any worse if it gets weed on. Have had friends with potty-training toddlers round and used potty in the lounge to get the child to it fast enough - and to get ds to sit on it for long enough.

Re training on toilet to start with - doesn't work if you have a short child! Ds has been trained for a year now and can finally get onto the loo with a step, but uses a potty half the time as it's quicker. He's nearly 4.

yanbu, your friend sounds disgusting tbh, who leaves a child unwiped after having a shit? Then to let her spread it all over your furnishings is dangerous as well as revolting. It is obnoxious for filthy, unhygienic people to assume that everybody else should accept their kids shit and piss all over their homes.

Cheek of her for being insulted by you asking her to clothe the child!

IMHO there is never a need to have a potty in the lounge (in your own or anyone elses!) but then again I also skipped the potty stage and took them straight to the toilet. I remember goig into someones house and findig a potty in the kitchen, which had yet to be emptied cue gagging and needless to say I declined any other dinner invitations.

There has never been a potty in our living room. In fact, when I was potty training dd2 in our lovely house, I locked the living room door because I wanted it to remain piss-free. But then I am precious and dp thought I was mad.

If potty-training toddlers come round, I would have no issues with a potty in the hall or downstairs toilet. If a parent whipped out a potty in any other room, unless the need was urgent, I would ask them to move into the downstairs loo.

I don't want naked children in my house either!

I'm another one in the minority here. It really wouldn't bother me one bit if a naked toddler sat on my sofa, in fact my 19 month old spends most of her time stripping off since she's discovered she can undress herself.

I don't think I'd let her do it at someone else's house, at least I won't after reading this thread.

Eeeew!!! Yanbu!!! Bum germs!!

Exoticfruits-good idea thanks. The park it is until potty training is done! I don't ask for a lot in life, but a piss/poo free living room is nice :)

no question at all that the OPs friend should have asked her and complied with whatever she wanted but as someone who is 1 week into PT her DS I am getting a bit ggrrr with some of the posts on here that are "well i did it in 1 week and we never used a potty and my DC was fully clothed at all times". Well bully for you! I thought we'd skip a potty as well, DS had other ideas and won't go on the toilet yet. He's quite short and even with a seat insert etc feels unsafe. He'll get there, but in the meantime, he'll be using a potty. I do put pants on him most of the time (never bare bummed out of the house) but he finds it hard to pull them down and at this early stage I want to boost his confidence as much as possible so why set him up to fail? One step at a time. Sorry, wandering off topic a bit but this particular aspect of parenting seems to bring out the worst in some people who found it easy and can't imagine why anyone else is doing it differently to them. Rant over..as you were