To have asked my friend to put clothes on her potty traing child while at my house?

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First post so here goes! Invited a good friend and her dd to lunch and play date yesterday. She is potty training at the moment and had an wee so she changed her and left her naked. In my living room. She had a poo on the potty then still didn't put clothes on. She sat on the carpet and my cushions I had to asked her to pop some clothes on her in the end. I'm not fussy but I was mindful when I was potty training my ds while out and about. She seemed annoyed when I asked. It's been bugging me, Aibu?! I had to wash the bloody cushions too.

YANBU! Bleurgh!

YANBU

And yes, GrahamTribe some people do actually potty train like that. I have had many friends that have plonked a potty on my lounge floor for their DC's to use.

Yanbu. Botty scrapings are botty scrapings, cute bum or not.

Cheap pants.

I potty trained two kids, and with frequent nct meet ups round each others houses, none of us ever left kids with naked bottoms...unless in the garden in summer ... And even then I think they had pants on.

Wow I'm in the total minority here, but I wouldn't care a bit if it was wiped. Meh. There's usually someone naked in our house!

I'm emetophobic, and I have a huge problem dealing with DD's vomit.
Luckily, I can count on one hand the number of times she's been sick, and she's 10.

YANBU. How inconsiderate. Nobody has ever done that in my house and nor would I do that in anyone else's house. Never heard of a potty training naked stage. Suppose the child is at nursery. I don't suppose that would happen there.

Yuk!!!! YADNBU

I actually DID take my DS's potty to my friend's house this week as its the first week of PT. I CAN'T keep him in our house for a week - he and I would both go absolutely batshit crazy. He doesn't do anything quiet, crafty, sitting-downy or time-consuming apart from TV so we have been on two full days out and lots of park trips with portable potty, LOTS of changes of clothes and the occasional pull-up for soft play. YANBU for wanting your friend to show a bit more consideration though. At my friend's house I checked with her about where he could be / sit etc.

"And yes, GrahamTribe some people do actually potty train like that. I have had many friends that have plonked a potty on my lounge floor for their DC's to use."

How ill-mannered of them! They bloody well wouldn't get away with doing that in my house!

A friend of mine came round once, plonked her son's potty on the lounge floor, let him wee in it then for some reason put it full of wee up on my ironing board, which ended up covered in piss. She didn't apologise or even mention it. I had to bin it and go and buy another!

I am so glad i am way past potty days. I used to have to bite my tongue when friends would suddenly sit their child on its potty in the middle of my lounge. I dont think i could have coped if the pooey bum was then left bare to sit on my soft furnishings as well.

not only I wouldn't want a child's anus and vagina on y carpet and cushions, I would also not want a carpet and cushion on my child's anus and vagina. What was she thinking?

I'm genuinely shocked that people would think it's okay to put their child's potty in someone's sitting room. Jeez, it takes a lot to leave me speechless but, um...............................................................

GrahamTribe, but that's my child! MY CHILD!

YANBU, I can kind of see how it happened - you get so desensitised to these things when potty training that all your normal hygeine instincts can go on hold, but of someone calls you on it then a reasonable mother would suddenly remember the grown up rules and apologise.

Unless you were so oblique and she's so desensitised that she thought you were having an OMG Vulva! fit of prudishness and missed the bodily fluids angle completely.

potty in the bathroom fine.. potty in the living room yuk..., and putting some pull ups or training pants on would have been better too..

I get that accidents happen and I always change my ds straight away and apologise/clean up if we are out. She took the potty from the downstairs loo and put it in the living room. Im just amazed about the lack of consideration for any damage/clean up that could have happened. We manage enough of that without any help from others!

got to say, I am often at the way some people on here are about wee and poo and hygiene stuff generally. Its as normal and everyday as you can get to deal with bodily functions and young kids need you to get close to it. If you have a young child yourself I would be very surprised at an OTT reaction to a child using a potty. (obviously you want the parent to take care of your things) but in terms of it being in the living room or whatever, well really, so?

I wouldn't mind someones DC using a potty anywhere in the house trixie, but I'd draw the line at potential skiddies across the setee.

DC like spreading their horrible/cute child germs, I see it as part of my job to minimize their chances of world domination.

would people really be bothered if a friend put a potty in their lounge? maybe I'm odd but i wouldn't bat an eyelid.

I never used a potty in the living room as i used a toddler seat on the toilet as i cant see the point of teaching them to use a potty and then teaching them to use a loo. Just skip the middle bit and go straight on to the toilet. Toilets are rooms designed for pooing and weeing in. My lounge is not.

Really trixie? My sitting room is for relaxing in, watching TV in, reading in, not for going to the loo in. I have 2 washrooms for that! (And yes, I have children).

I'd consider someone very bad-mannered if they plonked a potty in the middle of my sitting room floor and would tell them to use the room designed for toileting!

we did have a potty in the lounge, no downstairs loo and newborn lazy -mum--!

YANBU

I don't get this naked thing for potty training...