AIBU to be horrifically angry and upset at my 'friends'..

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I'm 11 weeks pregnant and very hormonal
I've told two of my close friends, and my immediate family (+work) and my DP has told family (inc his bitch of a sister (who's judging me even though she had an unplanned child at 15 and I'm having a nearly planned one at 20)) work, and a few close friends.
I wanted to keep it quiet until my 12 week scan and maybe a bit longer, as I wanted my mum to fully understand before the world knew (she has short term memory loss, so it takes a while for things to sink in.. E.g. You'll now remember that I'm pregnant, whereas I have to tell her everytime I see her)
Somehow my extended friendship group, family, and randomers all seem to know and I'm rather angry.
I KNOW it was dp's sis as she's already admitted to telling a 'few' friends, even though we asked her not to..
Eurgh, I know I'm probs being unreasonable, but I'm really upset about it and dp doesn't understand :(

YABU.

And you need to get over yourself, and fast.

'bitch of a sister' - that is your baby's aunt.

Grow up.

has no one ever told you,

Two people can keep a secret, but only if one of them is dead.

I think horrifically angry sounds an over reaction

But it's your news to tell and share with others as and when

You have told quite a few people though haven't you? It was bound to get our.
So yabu but that is ok because you allowed to feel extreme rage about anything when you are 11 weeks prg. :)

YABU, keeping it quiet means yourself and dp, no one else.

And what Bombastic said.

It's either tell everyone or tell no-one. Some people can't keep things to themselves so you would have been better telling no-one at all until you were ready for it to come out.

Seriously, calm down.

Its 1 week earlier than you planned. Don't share things with people if you aren't happy with others knowing. Most people can't or won't keep secrets.

I take it, with you describing her as your DPs 'bitch of a sister', that you don't get on all that well?

It's difficult when you want to be the ones to control telling people about a pregnancy and someone goes shooting their mouth off.

In normal circumstances you could just pass it off as your SIL being her normal self, but with your mum having short term memory loss problems, it's a horrible thing for her to do.

Are you sure she knew not to say anything? Could she have been genuinely excited and couldn't help herself?

There isn't anything you can do about it now, but I think your DP could try to be a bit more understanding about how frustrated you feel about your mum knowing.

I do get why you're peeved, honest, BUT It sounds like you've told quite a few people really, it could have slipped out 50 different ways. You'll know in future to keep the info much more private.

You already thought your SIL was an almighty bitch & this doesn't change anything. (You may be right about SIL or you may be exaggerating, hard for me to say). In future you'll know better to keep any private info from the SIL, at least.

I feel sorry for your DP stuck in the middle.

YABU

You clearly have issues with your DP's sister. If it turned out to be another friend who had shared the information, you are unlikely to be this angry.

Blimey you've told alot of peopke for keeping it quiet, who else was there to tell?

horrifically? really?

blimey i hope nothing real goes wrong for you

Oh come on - you've told at least 10 people! YABVU. I'm sure your dp doesn't understand. Who can blame him? You told your immediate family and he told his. Nothing wrong in that.
Grow up a bit.

No need to be shitty about the OP JodieHarshHasALumpyPennie,

You're saying that as though you were voted the best MN name of this century.

I can understand why you're pissed off but like others said you did tell quite a few people. However since they were supposedly your friends you would have expected them to hold a confidence. Some people just can't help themselves and feel like they have to be the centre of attention with new news to share.

In future maybe it will be best to keep things between yourself and your partner until you're 100% sure you want others to know.

Fair play, Agent: mine's pants.

It's just a bit childish, and a bit of a childish complaint

Oh fuck off the lot of you.

YANBU to be upset, but these things have a way of getting out if you tell more than one person. I'm sorry you're getting crap from your DP'd sister. Maybe planning something nice would help. You could pick a frame for your upcoming scan picture, so you can give it to your mum as a visual reminder?

'Horrifically'?

You are a drama queen.

You've told half the world anyway.

"horrifically angry and upset" ? That the 10-15 people you told might have mentioned it to someone else?

Newsflash: Nobody cares.

What's your definition of the height of maturity Jodie?

Taking time out of your busy schedule to try and make someone feel like shit?

YANBU to be annoyed - especially with hormones and a general dislike of your SIL :o

BUT... you were being very unreaLISTIC to think that everyone would keep their mouths shut. Some people can't help blabbing.

And judging by the venom of some of the replies here you're not the only hormonal one...

YABU but you're pregnant and hormonal so that's excusable :)
If you want to keep something like this a secret then you can't tell anyone at all. People like sharing good news so something like this was never going to stay a secret for long.
TBF to your SIL you and your DH did a pretty good job of making sure everyone knew already.

And judging by the venom of some of the replies here you're not the only hormonal one..

I'll second that.