AIBU to be horrifically angry and upset at my 'friends'..

[beccabubbless]

I'm 11 weeks pregnant and very hormonal
I've told two of my close friends, and my immediate family (+work) and my DP has told family (inc his bitch of a sister (who's judging me even though she had an unplanned child at 15 and I'm having a nearly planned one at 20)) work, and a few close friends.
I wanted to keep it quiet until my 12 week scan and maybe a bit longer, as I wanted my mum to fully understand before the world knew (she has short term memory loss, so it takes a while for things to sink in.. E.g. You'll now remember that I'm pregnant, whereas I have to tell her everytime I see her)
Somehow my extended friendship group, family, and randomers all seem to know and I'm rather angry.
I KNOW it was dp's sis as she's already admitted to telling a 'few' friends, even though we asked her not to..
Eurgh, I know I'm probs being unreasonable, but I'm really upset about it and dp doesn't understand :(

YABU but I like the fact that in your OP you used nested brackets and then unnested them to the right level. Do you work in the software industry? If not, have you thought of being a programmer?

Right shera, yeah it's really bizarre to keep a secret when asked to and not blab it instead

5 foot 5 no, is that impressive?! im just a bit anal when it comes to things like that!! ;)

YABU. I don't want to sound harsh but to be "horrifically angry" when you've told a considerable number of people is downright silly. Anyone, from the rather long list of those in the know, could have revealed the news. Hindsight is a wonderful thing but you really do need to keep this sort of information very close if you don't want the world to find out.

i imagine you are all grown women so u grow the fuck up!!

Does anyone else see the irony here?

Agree with others you've told a lot of people already why not just tell your mum if it was that important to do so?

I don't understand why people tell anyone before their 12 week scan though

OOh I feel a little bit sorry for you as you've had quite a lot of harsh comments. Blimey guys, she's only 20!!! Try and remember back! You told who you wanted to tell and I can understand why you might be peeved your SIL told people esp as you don't like her. I doubt she did it to annoy you though. Either way, you need to try and not get stressed about what can't be changed. Just enjoy your pregnancy and think about how you and SIL might grow closer when you both have children X

People have been really harsh on you, a bit unfairly really! I think it is the day for it as someone else has got a massive slating on AIBU today as well!

You know you are BU a bit but if you have asked people not to say anything they shouldn't, however you know now not to necessarily trust everyone so next time just tell immediately family if you really need to, if not just your DP.

My brother and SIL only wanted to tell immediate family but my mum couldn't resist telling people that my brother didn't know as she was so excited. It would never have got back to them as it was just her friends but I did have a go at her a couple of times about it. She should have known better especially as they had a scare of eptopic pregnancy a few weeks before BUT she wasn't doing it to be out of order - she was just too excited!

figgygal where I llive you didn't get a 12 week scan, just a 16 week one so impossible not to tell people really. Also some people would rather tell people in case something goes wrong so they have a support network. Its personal choice though.

YANBU. You ask someone to keep something private? They should respect your wishes, of course! This is your news to share, as and when you choose.

It was down to you and your partner to tell not her. I'd be cross as she couldn't keep it quiet. Remember this for next pregnancy and don't tell her till 20 weeks scan..

Don't tell them the sex what ever you do or any name ideas.

Or you could give her the wrong information and see how long it takes for you to hear it back from someone else :o