to feel this way about DP staying out for the night

[OhWhatAPalaver]

i kinda think i'm being a bit silly here but not sure... i'll try and be concise.
our DD is 5 months old and a bottle refuser, meaning i am unable to go anywhere or do anything at the moment. i have completely accepted this to be the case and i don't mind too much, i can live with not being able to go out for a while.

DP works shifts, pretty much always late ones. he knew he was getting off a bit early tonight so was going to meet up with some friends (mostly girls) for a few drinks. fine by me, no problem at all. he doesn't go out often so i'm ok with this.

however, i get a text not long ago saying he is now going to his friends house, so i call him and ask how he's getting back as its not on the right bus route. he says he might get a taxi or might stay on their couch, he's not sure. i must have sounded disappointed as he said i sounded miserable. i always seem to feel sad and anxious if he stays out and i feel that, being a father now, he should be responsible and come home.

i am slightly concerned as he was only saying the other day that he wants more excitement in his life and is a bit bored at the mo as he feels like all he does is work and doesn't get much time to see his friends any more. i explained that we have a young baby and that's generally what happens for a while.... i don't want him to feel like he cant go anywhere but i really would prefer him to come home tonight rather than tomorrow. AIBU?

'It is possible to use MN on a phone or Ipad and still have a life.'

You fucking fibber Mews

Using mumsnet on an iphone or ipad to keep an argument going on all day whist supposedly living a full fun day then boasting about your techiness seems rather like you don't have a life to me.

But you then hand over the baby & cheerfully announce that you (& bacon sandwich if wished) are going back to bed, & you are only to be woken for feeds.

My experience of bf babies was that dh was bugger all help overnight, what with his criminal uselessness in the lactation department. Pottering about with the baby during the day, otoh, he was great at.

No short memory - I just don't see what OP's dh isn't doing atm that he could be doing. & if he's tired & hungover tomorrow, well, diddums. No reason why he can't man up & give OP as much rest as is possible, hangover or no hangover.

Wow some of you know him well enough to know his level of moral fibre now.

Agent It is! Honestly. :o

Novack WTAF? I'm not on it all day nor did I boast about techiness.

And I haven't been trying to keep an argument going all day I've been talking about fucking tents!

I think it's really out of order to call people on how much time they spend on MN. I can think of half a dozen others who post on here more frequently than AnyFucker and SchrodingerMew.

It really shows you have a life if you get off on being nasty and putting down strangers on the Internet too, Novack.

I hate the pathetic "you don't have a life" line that people pull whenever it so suits them. It's arrogant, judgemental and presumptious. And rude, and an insult on a personal level.

And yes, people can post as frequently as they like.

WRT to AF's posts, she clearly just cares about vulnerable women and gives her opinion as she doesnt want them to be walked over, she doesn't force the OP to leave their partner, does she? How heinous

It's quite a crap line isn't it? And I also don't think anyone who is sitting on here arguing at nearly 2am on a Friday night can call anyone on what they do with their time...

fanjo..what are you talking about?

I've just come home from a huge party I'll have you know!

Err not

when people have nothing construtive to say they then just attack other posters.

Oh and the bf baby question is three times if the baby is anything like my six month old bf dd :)

Actually i am sure that the vast majority of the claimed 20 to 30 thousand posts per day on here come from a very small number of regular, prolific posters.

Hypocrisy, Novack.

:o

That sounds like you're insinuating that posters who don't see the OP as being taken for a ride, openly don't care about vulnerable women and can't wait to see them being walked all over Fanjo.

Posters can not want those things for a woman, and still read the OP as though her DP hasn't done anything wrong.

How would you know that? You would have to be spending just as much time on here as them to see enough to think that.

Agent, I don't mean that at all, I mean her motives are intrinsically good and kind and she doesn't deserve a kicking :)

Where did the OP claim she was a vulnerable woman? Did I miss a post somwhere.

Novack, so what?

I ain't engaging with your nit picking Novack dear

fanjo ..what are you on about? Are you trying to ask me a question or something?

Novack - so you think the husband did nothing wrong and the OP should not feel upset?