to think it's not the baby's fault?

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So we've had:

• Propped up on sofa and just left while he went to do something and surprise she tumbled off

• Put in bouncy chair but not bothered to strap in so she tumbled forward onto tiled floor

• (tonight) Left on bed while he turned back to do something and surprise she tumbled head first onto floor

Apparently all these times it was her fault, not his. I know he feels bad but still take some f'ing responsibility. She's 8mo btw.

He hardly ever has sole responsibility for her but when he does something seems to happen. He's also spent 8 months questioning (passive aggressively, not directly) what I do all day and why didn't I just leave her for an hour while I mowed the lawn etc.

Is this kind of fuckwittism common or is he unique or am I being PFB?

He's a fuckwit.

He's probably not unique but he's definitely a fuckwit.

They just don't bloomin get it do they

He's a fuckwit

I will agree- what a fuckwit.

By the way, bouncy chairs aren't suitable for babies who can sit up/ are starting to pull themselves to sitting whether the baby is strapped in or not.

Do you have a playpen/travel cot you could use if you need to do something and leave her?

Jesus. What a total fuckwit.
You are not being PFB. He is a complete liability. Once, fine, but this much and without looking after her very much?
My Dsis broke her arm at that age by being left on a changing table by my Dad, so this does happen, but I wouldn't be thrilled and I can be a bit cavalier with my DCs.

Is he this bad in other aspects of her care?

Secrets right. Baby could have fallen over in bouncy chair strapped in or not. But yes he is a fuckwit.

He sounds like a fuckwit with no clue as to what looking after a baby entails. I would say leave him alone for the day but I fear for your baby's life. What sort of idiot would blame an 8 month old baby for falling?

He's an idiot, sorry. I know of two other fathers like that. My mum divorced the first and my friend is divorcing the second. In the latter case he left a 2 year old alone while he went to the shops and then "forgot" about her and went to the pub with the friend he bumped into.

Of course it's not the baby's fault. He needs to be far more careful. She could hurt her head, her neck or break something.

HappyCamel

YANBU

Accidents do happen, but with a baby that age it's the adult's accident and not the baby's IYSWIM

Once = accident
Twice = Twat
Three times = neglectful and I would be going fucking APESHIT

Wow.

FWIW, my 9mo DS flipped over his bouncy chair months ago, around 4mo, before he could sit up. Head first onto hard floor. And he was strapped in. I left him for all of a minute. Not safe.

OP I think he is being deliberately neglectful in order to get a free pass to be let off all future childcare duties. He needs to get a clue FAST!

How big is your lawn that it makes an hour to mow?

There are baby chairs that are suitable past sitting up age. Bjorn makes one.

But he is a fuckwit.

Agree with Tee. Both statements.

Maybe the lawn has lots of trees.

OP dd 7 months roiled off bed when dh turned away. He was devastated. Literally in bits. I ran up when I ears thump and held her as she was sobbing and dh was so upset he cried. I've never seen him cry before. He felt so bad and is so careful with her. She's our 3rd.

Your are not being pfb. It's a fucking arse and I wouldn't trust him with baby of he is foisting blame on baby.

You're not PFB. I don't think this kind of fuckwittery is typical either though, DH certainly never indulged.

I'm glad it's not just me. He acts like he's so bloody perfect and is indignant that I'm even slightly annoyed about all this! I must admit he's very good in other areas and has heaps of common sense generally. It's like he forgets she's actually just a little baby and assigns her with full adult competence to not do stuff. It's upsetting I can't just leave her with him and relax.

Well I say bouncy chair, it's actually a 'rocker' (fisher price) and designed for

What bogeyface said. And I'd add that to blame a baby (FFS!) rather than take responsibility points towards some pretty disordered thinking.

How is he with you when you disagree? Does he take responsibility for other things? Or do you find that you always have to take the blame for things?

What a total and utter fuckwit!

Once is understandable, parenting is a learning curve and no one is perfect.

Three times, however is just idiocy.

I am sorry OP, but this man is a prize idiot. And blaming the baby is low, very low