to think it's not the baby's fault?

[WifiNappies]

So we've had:

• Propped up on sofa and just left while he went to do something and surprise she tumbled off

• Put in bouncy chair but not bothered to strap in so she tumbled forward onto tiled floor

• (tonight) Left on bed while he turned back to do something and surprise she tumbled head first onto floor

Apparently all these times it was her fault, not his. I know he feels bad but still take some f'ing responsibility. She's 8mo btw.

He hardly ever has sole responsibility for her but when he does something seems to happen. He's also spent 8 months questioning (passive aggressively, not directly) what I do all day and why didn't I just leave her for an hour while I mowed the lawn etc.

Is this kind of fuckwittism common or is he unique or am I being PFB?

This doesn't look good at all. In summary:

• He repeatedly puts your baby in danger
• He won't take responsibility, and instead says it's the baby's fault (therefore the baby should take responsibility)
• He's not offering to be more careful, he's saying he'll never look after her again i.e. you will be doing all childcare from now on.
• He bullies you into taking the blame for every problem even when it's his fault

But the most shocking thing is:

• he's already making your 8mo take the blame for his failings and she can't even talk yet. Wow this lesson's going to be ingrained in this little girl. Do you want this for her?

He sounds like a headfuck. The fact you have to come on MN to ask if you are reasonable means he's really doing a number on you!

"^But the most shocking thing is:

• he's already making your 8mo take the blame for his failings and she can't even talk yet. Wow this lesson's going to be ingrained in this little girl. Do you want this for her?^"

Couldn't have said it better myself. She will grow up feeling like everything he does wrong is her fault.

She's a baby for gods sake, it's disturbing that he will even consider blaming her for falling off of things.
What a fucking twat, does he not care about the damage he has done/could do in the future? She could end up seriously hurt, physically and emotionally.

You've got to look at the bigger picture OP, and do something about it asap.