To get annoyed by the constant comments about DS's red hair?

[BakingBunty]

DS (9 months) has beautiful red hair. It's the first thing that people comment on when they see him. Many of the comments are because people are genuinely intrigued - neither myself or DH have red hair (and no, neither does the milkman...), and I totally understand this. Some of the comments are nice ones. However, most of the comments are along the lines of 'ah well, it might change as he gets older' or 'what were the chances of that, you poor things'. I just smile and tell them that I love it, but it breaks my heart to think that people may still be commenting when he is old enough to understand. DF in particular is a prime example of someone who can't resist commenting on it, but I think he - and others - would think I'm being over sensitive if I told them to keep their remarks to themselves. AIBU to want them all to shut up? And what's the best way of handling it?

My dad had ginger hair so I was always hoping it would be passed on but it wasn't. I also wanted curly haired children but no. I have straight blonde haired boys! I love red hair. Rejoice in your beautiful coloured hair!

I have 4 lovely red headed nephews and neices. Their mum has stunning long auburn hair.

Why dont you get a copy of Tim Minchins DVD and play prejudice (linked to up thread) to your DF next time you see him. Bet that will shut him up

People always comment on everything starting when you are pregnant 'you are huge/small/fat' 'don't eat that' 'you must breastfeed/wean/bottlefeed' . . . And then it carries on when they are babies 'he is very big/small' 'does he really need a dummy' 'yes, he can have chocolate' 'does she not speak yet?'

So probably commenting on red hair (which I imagine is beautiful on a baby) is just one more thing for people to say! Because they can.

Oh dear I really feel for you, but you know what I just love red hair!!!!!!! You know I come from a country where you can not find people with that color, I had never seen it before, and I just love ginger-red, especially if you little one has blue-green eyes, which I am rather sure he has. It just looks gorgeous to my taste, beautiful combination of colors. We all get comments about our kids that we do not like time to time, and we have all the right to be annoyed, but if someone is getting too much on it, I will tell them straight away that you do not want them to make your child feel bad. I think people sometimes do not think that the baby will feel wrongly about that comments when they get to understand, they think they will be babies forever [sceptical]

What Worra said. This is all really quite silly and to blether on and on about people being jealous of others with red hair makes you sound a bit daft. It is a hair colour - no more, no less.

A child, a person is more than the colour of their hair and if I had a red-headed child I wouldn't be blowing this fakery at them because it won't wash in the real world. Teach them to stand up for themselves at school and be proud of what's inside by all means.

Love it/don't love it - it's h-a-i-r. It's no better or worse than blonde, brown, black, mouse and whatever shades in between.

i'm always admiring my friends dd with gorgeous red hair, i just find myself looking at her hair as it is so beautiful.

never thought i might be pissing her or her dd off.

perhaps i better stop commenting on it

Amen to that sista

Seriously it's true.

Kids (and adults) can see through the OTT simpering and if it's too OTT they'll wonder just who you are trying to convince (and it certainly won't be them)

It's a hair colour not a visit to Earth by Jesus himself

There are far more things to get worked up and simpering about (like the new Angus burger from Burger King)

Gingers are taking over the world. Or so it seems to me. I was so disappointed that DD1 had blonde hair, baffled as to where she came from. DD2 came along with the most gorgeous head of red hair. Then DS. Bless hime, he looks like he wears a toupee, with mousy hair undeneath, gingerish hair the toupee looking bit ( a clear line half way down his head) and just to finish it off, a bright orange stripe from his(double) crown to the front of his head.
There do seem to be more ginger haired people than there where when I was a child and it is lovely!!

There was a girl in my town who had the most amazing flame red hair - goldy red through to dark auburn, and she wore it long and curly. She was stunning - I was so !

Some people seem to have a real issue with red-heads, especially in England / English culture. It's not something I encountered growing up (not in England) and now we're living in the US, I haven't come across it here either.

I have red hair and my son has blonde hair but with a slight strawberry tint and with those classic red-head blonde eyebrows and eyelashes. Everyone here in the US tells me he's gorgeous and comments on his beautiful hair. The only negative comment I had was from a - yes - English friend who said 'oh dear, is that a bit of ginger coming through in his hair?'. She kind of said it in a teasing tone so I said 'I hope it is, it'd be nice if he took after me in his looks!' She was pretty embarrassed.

I don't get it. It seems to be something engrained in English culture and it's odd because England is one of the countries, along with Scotland and Ireland, where there are more redheads than elsewhere in the world, probably because of the Celtic influence in the English ethnic make-up. English people need to embrace their inner redheads and learn to love us!

There has been a suggestion before, and it may now be labelled as a "myth", that red hair denoted someone of Irish or Scottish ancestry, which may have caused nationalistic tension in the non-redheaded English.

It's a bit hit and miss in Australia - boys seem to cop the teasing more than the girls here - and they have an even less lovely nn for redheads here - "ranga" (short for orangutan). Fab! Much though I would love DC2 to come out with red hair (and I really would) I do hope that they won't encounter the same sort of ignorant taunting that I had to put up with at junior school (hardly any issue at senior school but was all girls, don't know if that made a differece) - and as an adult, oddly. One boyfriend, who had many other personality issues as well (he didn't last that long) liked to tell me that "gingers are like foxes and stink of piss". Niiiiice.

DD (14) unfortunately gets teased about many things, always has. I'm sure her long deep red hair is one of them, but she won't tell me. I asked last night and she just shrugged and refused to answer.

squoosh, how rude .

Ed Sheeran anyone? My beautiful red-head daughter loooooves him! (I've taken a shine to him too!)

A very talented "ginge", he is

Ed sheeran is sex on legs and my ds looks just like him, with loads of gorgeous red hair which i have never had cut.

Dh calls him ginge constantly and he thinks it's great he is different from everyone else

I have 2 of the loveliest gingers ever :)
Ds1 is 19 and Dd1 is 16. They have the REDEST hair youve ever seen but totally different shades of red. They are lovely. Ds2 has dark hair but the 3 of them are very close in age and when they were little people always asked of Ds2 was mine too

I was always leary of gingers :o. I used to tell people I didnt care if I was having a boy or a girl so long as it wasnt a ginger:o I was horrified when Ds1 was born red headed. I LOVE it now, love gingers and think Dd1 has the most beautiful hair ever.

A mum in a baby class I went to had a baby daughter with bright red hair. Despite the mum clearly being a redhead herself she would constantly make comments about her little girls hair. One in particular I remember was 'I'm not worried, I had ginger hair when I was little so fingers crossed I'm hoping she will eventually turn blond like me'

Confusing polite smiling faces all round...

Its not simply the colour of DDs hair that makes me jealous it's the fact that it will grow long with out splitting that I'm really jealous of.

My ds 12 y.o. and dd 9 y.o. have beautiful red hair and have only experienced lovely comments about it. So much so that when my dd was annoying me so much that it caused me to comment "And what makes you so special?" she immediately pointed to her head

Take a look at Tim Minchin's - my dc find it hilarious, obviously without the 'language'.

I've got the same problem! I'm blond and my OH is dark, but DS is ginger, not bright but it's definitely there, he's 9 months now and people always say, oh well, maybe it will change! I'm getting a bit sick of it, I wouldn't go up to their babies and say "Oh, why is your child so ugly/sticky out ears etc!!" as I used to feel a bit like I had to justify why he had different color hair - maybe I should of told them that I was having a wild affair with the ginger postman or something. I LOVE it as it makes him different but I must admit that I do worry about it when he gets older as anything that makes kids different puts them in line for bullying