to use bondage tape on dd and dsd?

[Rachog]

Dd and dsd both 4 are into the little mermaid at the moment. Dd found a Christmas stocking in the toy box and was wearing it like a fin.

This of course caused arguments because dsd wanted a fin too. I remembered that I had a roll of pink bondage tape in the grown up toy box so I used it to bind their legs from knee to ankle leaving their feet Aw flippers.

The girls were made up with their mermaid tails and had lots of fun but when dp came in he was less than impressed.

The tape is like punk plastic on a roll that sticks to itself but not clothes or skin. It's quite flexible and easily torn to remove it.

So was I being unreasonAble?

I have this tape and bought it as bondage tape but the packaging is just clear thin plastic wrapped around it with a black label stating "PVC tape" and the width etc, it doesn't actually say bondage or anything sex related on it.

Dittany, if you were shown two rolls of identical tape, one called "mermaid dress up tape" for £10 and the other called "naughty couple's play tape" for £5 and you were going to chuck away the packaging, are you seriously suggesting you would only consider buying the tape with the mermaid tag for the kids?

Really?

If so you are a marketer's absolute dream?

It is the same tape
The kids know no different
Take away the packaging and there is no difference
Did I mention it is the same tape?

In fact the only possible difference is living in your head and is something you bring to the situation.
Not the kids.
Not the tape.
Not the OP.

Yes why justify a Mother helping her two innocent young DDs to play at being Mermaids?

Let's just all pile in with filthy, disgusting thoughts instead...that's much better isn't it?

On the other hand that's exactly what bondage tape is sold as, and what the OP used it before previously

Actually, this tape is a type of tape/glue combination used for many applications, bondage being just one.

A messianic or some other transubstantiation clearly occurs when someone slaps "bondage tape" on the adblurb, making it unfit for any other use.

its just tape! which CAN be used as a sex toy, we have some in black, i mentioned this thread to dp and he said he would only be annoyed because its bloody expensive, i think we paid £10 for a roll of it? however i have seen it mentioned on here that it is cheaper on lovehoney...goes off to have a look.

fwiw when ds1 was little dp and i were in london with ds1, whilst he was asleep we visited a sex shop in soho, ds1 was about 8mths old? he was asleep when we went in the shop and we looked around and were paying for our purchases when he woke up, he cried as babies do when they wake! and the man behind the till gave him a small teddy bear to cheer him up, fine yes? only the teddy bear was infact a bear dressed in bondage gear, it had a on a little mask and fake leather outfit, anyway ds1 was quite happy with his new toy :) and the man gave it to use for free! when we got back to mil's (where we were staying) we forgot to remove the toy and she saw it and asked what superhero character the bear was meant to be!!! i cant remember exactly what we said, i jsut remember the look of horror on dps face when he realised his mum had seen the toy, she had no idea (or certainly didnt let one if she did) what kind of 'clothes' the bear was wearing! anyway it was just another toy bear, it lived in the toy box for a while, no idea what happened to it :)

there are many products that are used as sex toys, some marketed as that and other that people just use, its down to the marketing and the packaging, taken OUT of the packaging and it is JUST TAPE!! being used by 2 little girls to play mermaids, no big deal at all! :)

ds4 has spent a large part of the day playing with some toy handcuffs, they are just plain metal handcuffs, i think they were origionally from ann summers but he uses them as handcuffs, he has had toy plastic ones but they are crap and break easily so we gave him the metal ones, i dont think we ever used them ourselves, they were a jokey gift between dp and myself some years back and i found them in the wardrobe and figured ds4 would like them. Yes they can be used as a sex toy, but they are essentially toy handcuffs and he doesnt know any different.

Ann Summers actually calls this tape 'Body Wrap'. And that is exactly what the OP did with it.

So do those of you who object due to it being sold as bondage tape only ever use things in the way the packaging suggests? Do you never get creative with other uses?

Also Dittany you seem to take issue not just with what the packaging says, but also with the fact their legs were bound. Would you therefore have the same issue if the OP had used parcel tape?

Have to say, despite it usually being called bondage tape I know huge amounts of people who use it to create clothing.

I privately took the batteries out of my vibrator a few months back and gave them to DS3 for his Xbox controls.

I may call SS on myself in the morning.

Fgs surprised this thread aint ended yet.
It is just tape at the end of the day but just packaged to sell as sex toy-all in all it is just tape isnt it?
I really dont get the problem with it unless you are both weirdos.
Its not as if op has gave her kids rampant rabbits to play spaceships with.

"the only possible difference is living in your head"

Sex starts in your head, especially imaginative dress up/prop sex. So personal/individual opinions are all valid.

If the DP doesn't want the tape used for anything, by anyone but them then his wishes should be taken on board.

It doesn't matter what a group of strangers think on the internet. Both parties need to agree on this.

We are all entitled to set our own bounderies. If you have it fixed in your head that this is sex/bondage tape then you are going to feel uncomfortable on seeing your partner using it on children.

If you see it as body tape, then you will be fine with that.

If your partner feels uncomfortable with something that is unnecessary, then you have to go with their wishes.

Surely the Cone would be more appropriate for spaceships pumpkin

Ann Summers

The go-to people when you need clarification on a subtle point

yeah

WorraLiberty Thu 07-Jun-12 22:44:29
"Yes why justify a Mother helping her two innocent young DDs to play at being Mermaids?

Let's just all pile in with filthy, disgusting thoughts instead...that's much better isn't it?"

Oh honestly, what do you think op was expecting? There was no need for the thread, none at all. Proudnscary called it very well early on when 'congratulating' op on making up the dp disapproved slant to justify the aibu.

There was no need for the thread, no need for the horrible title. So fuck knows why anyone feels the need to get annoyed on her behalf.

""If your partner feels uncomfortable with something that is unnecessary, then you have to go with their wishes." err no you dont, you can talk to them about it and come to an agreement but you dont have to go along with their wishes at all.

FFS it's just tape! Clingfilm can also be used for sex play not that I'd know but I still use it to wrap up food, not the same clingfilm you understand

There's no need for most of the threads on here TheDreaded and fortunately the dirty of mind do seem to be in the minority here and it would seem most people can see nothing more than two innocent sisters having fun.

But cling film isn't marketed as a sex aid.

If my DH was to wrap my DCs up in cling film or gaffer tape, to play mermaids, I would still use cling film for sandwiches.

If bondage tape was part of our sex life and he wrapped them up in that I would never use it with him again.

But again, each to their own.

I don't think this thread needs to be quite so nasty.
I personally think its inappropriate, others think its fine.

I am not going to convince others my opinion is right, neither is repeating its just tape and listing all the household items that could be used in the bedroom going to change my mind.

""If your partner feels uncomfortable with something that is unnecessary, then you have to go with their wishes." err no you dont, you can talk to them about it and come to an agreement but you dont have to go along with their wishes at all

Well you do if you still want to enjoy the sex acts that you have previously done.

You are also forgetting that two parents are not making this decision. If the DP gets asked were they got the tape from because the dsd has enjoyed playing with it, he then may have to lie.

It can spoil what they used to really enjoy. It isn't a great hardshipto not use their private sex stuff with/for anything else.

Theoretically all tape is bondage tape - it's used to bond objects.

Even wikipedia describes electrical tape as - being used for different purposes including temporalily attaching 2 objects together. You could sexualise that if you decided to read enough into it.

i dont think the op has said her partner now doesnt want to use the tape and wont enjoy using it has she?

i know it wouldnt bother my partner, he is able to realise that things can have more than one purpose, i think someone else has also said about scarves etc i had some silk type scarves, which i may have used in sex play for restraint purposes, but my ds's may have also used them when playing fancy dress, they are scarves, one is black and i think i wore it as a wrap to my sisters wedding evening due, the fact that we may have also used it for sex play is neither here nor there.

this tape is not just bondage tape, the packaging on that tape was for that but the tape itself has many purposes as has been said on this thread, if you cant seperate those uses off fine dont use it or only use it for wahtever purpose you feel it is 'ok' for but most people can seperate of the fact that they use things for different purposes so i can have sex on my sofa but we can still sit on it as a family the next day and watch a film and i can use a scarf to tie myself or dp for sex play, but not be bothered if a few days later one of my ds's uses the same black scarf as a darth vader cloak, its just a bit of material and this is just tape.

if her dp is bothered they can discuss it and iether he will get over it, or maybe they can just use the black tape rather than the pink

and if the dp gets asked where the tape is from he can either be truthful, or he can just say its a tape you by in a craft shop etc as you CAN buy it from craft shops as well, he can say i am not sure but you can get it from...the choice is his and its not really a lie in that you can indeed buy it from other sources, marketed for others purposes, its the same product just in different packaging.

You are also forgetting that two parents are not making this decision. If the DP gets asked were they got the tape from because the dsd has enjoyed playing with it, he then may have to lie. - no he won't he'll just have to send the asker to one of the webpages that sell it as just tape.

X posts re the purchasing question

I think yabu to be so dismissive of your dps obvious discomfort when he realised you'd allowed two small children to play with a sex toy ( as per your link)

The paedo tape thread is still going?

WTAF?