MIL not happy with the clothes (toddler) DD wears?

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MIL has asked that when she has DD she wears more pink and dresses "so everyone knows she is a girl"!

MIL babysits for me a couple of evenings a month (they don't go out as she doesn't have her until 5.30 ish) and then whenever MIL would like to have her/ be kind enough to take her out for the day.

Today they went to a little village fair, me and DH stayed at home as there was various mumsnetting jobs to be getting on with.

When they returned, MIL asked to talk to me and these were her exact words-

"when we have BeatriceBaby, please can she wear at least something pink- and really I woul like her to wear more dresses and "girly" stuff- so that every one who sees her knows she is a girl"

I replied-

"er, yeah I guess, it was a bit too cold for dresses today though?

MIL

"but she could wear leggings with them...."

Me

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Just to add- I do not dress DD as a boy. Today she had blue and White pumps with bows on, skinny jeans, a square necked red White and blue smock type top, with the front of her shoulder lengh hair plaited sideways into a clip with a FREAKING flower on it!!

Is MIL off her rocker?? Should I just do as she asks- it's not really hurting me. Although I feel like it was just rude of her to even ask.........
What do you lovely MNers think?

Pictish

They DO cause nerve damage....not all kids are skinny and small like your DD

Dr. Karen Boyle from Greater Baltimore Medical Center, who has recently seen cases of women suffering pain from wearing tight jeans. She explains:

"This disorder is called Meralgia Paresthetica and it's a disorder that occurs when one of the nerves that runs in the outer part of a thigh gets compressed. The pressure on it causes symptoms of tingling, numbness and pain in the outer part of the thigh

And that's in grown women...so what can it do to small growing children? I KNOW that not all kids will get damaged of course but it stands to reason that children with normal, or plumpish bodies shouldn't be in restricive clothing.

Petal.

Rum tum tigger, or rum tum tugger. It just means rough and tumble, on the go, ready for adventure. Maybe it's just here we say it.
I think it's a character from an old poem or something?

LOL @ Petal.

@settle petal pictish are you scottish ? jeans on toddlers isnt good for them really mine wore jeans

Doesn't that only apply if the skinny jeans are tight though?
I'm 4'11 and 7.5 stone, I live in size 8 skinnies. They're comfy, not tight, and anything else is too big.

most skinny jeans have stretch to them anyway my bums far to big for skinny jeans

and toddlers jeans do have give in them don't they

thatas women thehouseonethecorner who are obviously stupid enough towear jeans that was way too tight, ffs if they are so tight they are pressing on your nerves and causing numbness and pain you dont wear them!!

and all toddler striaght jeans are stretchy, my dd has a pair for gap, i have only just started putting her in jeans now she is running around and climbing, mainly leggings still tbh but she has some fab skinny jeans from gap and they are stretchy, have a lovely waistband that means they stay up, and they are fitted but not tight and dont restrict her movement in anyway!

anyway op my mil can be a bit funny about what my children wear, she has always bought clothes for my 4 boys but since having dd she didnt really buy her much, it transpired that she knows i am picky about why my dd wears! not a fan of pink! and so she wasnt sure what to buy, we went shopping together and got some lovely bits, stripey dresses and leggings, spots, lots of reds and blues and bright, cheerful lovely girls clothes, i think we got one pair of leggins that are stripey in refreshers colours which have some pink in them, dd is wearing them today, with a yellow t-shirt and a denim pinafore, she looks funky and girly :)

my dilema is that on saturday both my parents and my mil are visiting, both would quite like dd to be wearing the clothes that they have bought her.... i suspect an outfit change halfway through the day, probably after her nap so she can wear an outfit from each of her grandparents, bit of a faff for me yes, but they will love ot see her in the clothes they bought, a little boden outfit my mum bought her and probably a nice dress and leggings that mil bought, will be red or blue to match the shoes that mil also bought.

i see it this way that 99.9999% of the time i decide what dd wears, so to humour my mil when she visits once every 6wks really isnt a big deal and tbh the fact that we went shopping together meant that i had my input and i like the clothes anyway.

btw those next tutus with a pair of leggins and converse are awesome, they are short so dont get in the way of climbing etc, my dd has a few of them, they were so cute when she was crawling this big tutu bum as she crawled and now she is running and climbing they are still fine, they wash and dry really easily as well, perfect for a party :)

btw depending on your budget there was some lovely stuff in monsoon, as i said i am not a fan of pink but i got a lovely top and leggings (in a set) from there the other day, the leggings are a dusky pink and the top has butterflies on it, its really sweet, will try and find a link :)

Really? Nerve Damage?! Dramatic much?

Maybe I should of said "narrow legged jeans", ie they are skinny at the ankle. I am not restricting my child's blood flow by putting jeans on two sizes too small to make her look "sexy" ( as I'm guessing the adults in your report would be).

Also DD is 2.5 so quite an old toddler, hence jeans etc. Not a wobbling about 13 month toddler who would be better in leggings.

She also only wears jeans from Gap as they have the elastic waistband, as she is so tiny, ones with out just fall down.

I'm not a huge lover of Monsoon 5boys, sometimes I find it a bit "floral", but I pretty much just use Gap, and they do a massive range of dress in all different colours (did link here, but don't think it worked).

Just too reiterate, DD does wear pink, and sometimes dresses, just not on that day. I have no problem with her wearing these things, I was asking if MIL WBU re- dictating what I put her in.

Thanks for your posts

Sorry- meant 5madthings, not 5boys! Sorry!

no worries, i often lump dd in with the 4boys hwen out and just shout boys or i even call her by her brothers names, or tell her she is a good boy she may grow up wiht some issues

gap clothes are nice i have two lovely dresses from there this year for dd with poppies on, they are just lovely, one comes with matching pants, oh how i love a dress with matching pants, and no children arent dolls but oh so much fun can be had dressing them, therer are so many lovely clothes available for girls particularly. i make sure dd wears clothes that are practical, comfortable and wash easily! but yes i do enjoy choosing and buying her clothes.

and if you mil is 'dictating' hten yes that is unreasonable but maybe you could go shopping together and pick up some stuff you both like and then when dd is with mil she can wear those clothes, grandparents DO like to show of their grandchildren, they are proud of them and thats not a bad thing :)

Just reply "DD is not a doll."

Worked for me.

I think it's must a case of older ladies liking a baby/toddler dressed in a classic style.

I went into town last week when we were having sone nice weather, 17mo DD was in a big summer dress with a massive red spotty sun hat with a tie around her chin.......she was cooed at so many times, I was smiling at old ladies all day, they love all that crap

Just a case, shitty I pad.

Well maybe I just think skinny jeans or any faddy fashion type clothing looks common on toddlers then! Should have just said that...common and uncomfortable!