To Expect a full replacement?

[AThousandSuns]

Greetings.

My DP and I have been looking after my MIL's dog while she is away on holiday for two weeks. We don't mind this at all, as we often do favours for eachother.

MIL suggested that the dog be put in the bathroom overnight, as he barks like a crazed lunatic for most of the night due to him being used to sleeping on MIL's bed. He was put in there with the door closed to drown out the noise and allow us all to sleep.

Yesterday I got up in the morning to find the bathroom flooring shredded. He had attempted to dig his way out. We have a downstairs bathroom that is joined to our kitchen, and they have a tile effect vinyl flooring going through both of them. Still on holiday, MIL was informed of the distruction and said she would replace the damaged floor.

The question is this - how much should she replace? As I said, we've always had matching flooring in the bathroom and kitchen. So replacing the bathroom only with an equivilent (though not exactly the same because we can't find the exact same one) would mean that they are no longer matching.

It would cost about £100 to replace the bathroom only, or about £250 to replace the kitchen and bathroom. The kitchen flooring does have several scuffs, rips and stains, but nothing we weren't happy to live with.

Would you want to whole thing done or would you settle for the bathroom only? Would you pay for the whole thing or just the bathroom only?

If the bathroom has a door and is clearly a separate room, then I think she should only replace the bathroom floor.

Pay half each. But more to the point it sounds very cruel to leave a dog locked in a bathroom all night where you can't hear him howling ad trying to dig his way out.

Poor dig must have been going mental

Yanbu to expect her to pay if it was her suggestion but I'm surprised you let it go that far

shut him in the kitchen tonight and he can ruin the floor in there too...job done.

I'd take her offer of £100, and pay for the kitchen myself.
If you only do the bathroom, it will show up the state of the kitchen floor, and you'll have missed the chance to get the whole lot re-done together in matching flooring.

Sorry meant to say I dont think she should have to pay for the kitchen

Actually I think Catsmamma is onto something here!

catsmamma that sounds exactly like a viz top tip, make me laugh.

Hang on, have I got this right? You expect MIL to replace bathroom flooring (fair enough) and the kitchen flooring, just so they will match?

They are different rooms. They don't have to match. And to expect MIL to replace both (it isn't her fault that you can't find the matching one) I think is very cheeky indeed.

Can't get past how awful the dog has been treated

have you any idea how distressed he must have been to do that?

Let him sleep on your bed next time, not that he would probably want to stay after being scared & wondering why he was being shut in every night for two weeks?

Why didn't you comfort the dog, as an aside, and let him out?

My dog sleeps on DDs bed because trying to put him anywhere else results in a whine and scrape-the-door fest

YABU. Your MIL has been entirely reasonable in offering to pay for new flooring where it's been damaged. If it's that improtant to you to have matching flooring in the kitchen and bathroom though Heaven knows why the onus is on you to find the original. I know that the stuff we bought 5 years ago is still available.

Poor dog . What are you going to do with him tonight? If he is used to sleeping in bed with your MIL it is so cruel to shut him in and 'drown out' his distressed barking.

She should only have to replace the bathroom floor. Pay for the kitchen floor yourself so it matches. And let the poor dog in bed tonight.

And why couldn't you have waited to tell your MIL after her holiday?

Matching kitchen & bathroom flooring-I´ve heard it all now!

Poor dog-must have been in a terrible state to do that.

And yes, I agree with the others with regards to the dog. Lock them in a confined space and especially when their owners are gone, they are bound to get scared and try to get out. God forbid if ever a person was scared/not easy with change and cried/whimpered and get locked in a bathroom all night. I hope you don't plan to keep him in there every night for 2 weeks

Thanks for the responses so far, I've been reading through them.

With regards to leaving him in the bathroom - we attempted to let him have more free reign donstairs. At 2 o'clock in the morning just couldn't stand the barking any more. And that was without him being locked in.

He is not sleeping on our bed. He has a tendancy to mark beds, for one thing. And he still barks at every noise all night. He also seems a bit happier now he's realised he gets more walks when he's with us.

Plus, we can't really put up with the noise all night. We have three kids, one of which is still a baby and we can't have them kept awake all night. And DP is still recovering from PND and the lack of sleep is likely to send her back down.

Bit cruel to lock a dog in a bathroom no wonder he pulled up the floor but as it was her suggestion i would get her to pay for both.
Next time let the dog sleep somewhere more comfortable like the sofa or on your bed you will probably find he wont bark then

Well I don´t find locking a dog in a small room in itself that bad.

But this dog clearly couldn´t cope.

I also don´t see why OP should have another persons dog on their bed if they don´t want to.

OP-how far are you from MILs house-could you fetch her duvet for it to sleep on somewhere?

Well next time I guess mil needs to use a boarding kennels. You should only ask for the bathroom flooring

We aren't far from her house. We have brought his blankets over.

Also, as a side note, our bathroom is quite a large one. Bigger than a single bedroom, anyway.

Also, we're having enough trouble with MIL's dog attemting to claim dominence over our dog as it is. They end up fighting if left together for two long, so we're hacving to keep them separate. It could be why MIL's dog never shuts up.

Well if that is the case, then surely the best option for yourselves and the dog is for it to stay somewhere else? Hasn't MIL got a friend? Another family member?

It isn't fair on the dog, but nor is it fair for a dog to keep the whole household up especially where there is a baby.

Oh, and he chews everything he gets his mouth on in our house. Mainly any of the kids toys he gets, but he's also chewed the garden fence up. But I built that myself, and it still serves to keep our dog inside even with the wholes.

I think it's very kind of you to have the dog, poor thing could have ended up where ours does when we go away-in the kennels

Yabu to expect her to pay for floor the mutt hasn't damaged though, if you must have matching then pay for rest of the floor yourself.