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To think DS is being REALLY ungrateful?

106 replies

SatinSheets · 28/05/2012 16:21

Thread about a thread but the last one was mine also!

So been trying to decide where to go on Holiday and DS1 (14, will be 15 when we go) wanted to go to LA. For numerous reasons I don't want to go there so me and the other adult have chosen Orlando. We went in 2009 but there is loads there we didn't do.

This time we will be swimming with dolphins, harry potter world, busch gardens etc. DS2 (who will be 13) will love it.

Well, DS1 has gone off in a major mood saying it's a crap holiday and he would rather stay here than go to "crappy Orlando again". I'm "tight" apparently not to mention "boring".

He's still kicking off saying he's not coming.

I said "fine, it will save me £1000 if you don't come".

He replied "no, you will OWE me £1000 if I don't come". Shock

I know the answer but I want back up. INBU am I?

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manicbmc · 28/05/2012 16:23

Butlins is the answer. That'll teach him.

Yes, he does sound very ungrateful and entitled, as many teenagers do (my own included).

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SatinSheets · 28/05/2012 16:25

Butlins was as far as I got as a kid!!

They just don't realise how lucky they are. It pisses me right off.

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Ishoes · 28/05/2012 16:25

Poor attempt at stealth boast

TantrumsAndBalloons · 28/05/2012 16:26

All teenage boys are bloody ungrateful, including mine.

Tell him if he doesn't want to go-fine.

A nice holiday is not a right you don't owe him anything.

I always tell mine to go and get a flipping job if they don't like what i am paying for

2shoes · 28/05/2012 16:26

yanbu, he sounds a bit spoilt

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 28/05/2012 16:27

Well call his bluff then and say that you have booked for you all and you have arranged for him to stay with Aunty Doris for 2 weeks!

Gumby · 28/05/2012 16:27

Well if he's already been why can't you go somewhere different?
There's a billion places in the world to see
A bit dull to revisit the same bit

CogitoErgoSometimes · 28/05/2012 16:27

YANBU. Is it booked or is there still time to have him sent for a fortnight corrective treatment in a caravan at Pwllheli?

comedycentral · 28/05/2012 16:28

Not the best attitude at all. He needs some perspective, how about volunteering with children from poorer areas in their youth clubs?

GnocchiNineDoors · 28/05/2012 16:28

Agree with him that you do ow him £100 then write him out a bill for food, water, electricity, clothing, school trips and pocket money and deduct it all from the £1000. No doubt he will be in the red.

GnocchiNineDoors · 28/05/2012 16:28

£1000

Grin
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SatinSheets · 28/05/2012 16:28

Stealth boast? erm ok - have you not seen the longhaul part of the site? are they all stealth boastiing too? yawn indeed.

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thisisyesterday · 28/05/2012 16:30

yes he's ungrateful (and maybe a bit spoilt??)
however, i do also agree that with the hundreds of thousands of holiday destinations available it's kind of boring to go somewhere you've already been, esp if you have a decent budget to go somewhere like that.

california is lovely btw!

GnocchiNineDoors · 28/05/2012 16:30

Oh, and also, if he doesn't want to go, leav him behind. "This is the family holiday, this is when we are going, if you want to come you are welcome but equally you can stay at the GPs if you would prefer".

He is entitiled to not want to go. But it is spoilt of him to demand his share of the cost. Would it not be better all round to decide on a mutually good place to go?

sugarice · 28/05/2012 16:31

We haven't had a holiday in 2 years, my ds's are 12, 14 and 17. They would absolutely adore the holiday that you're providing for your dc's. If he doesn't want to go leave him with a Grand Parent then he'll know the meaning of boring. Yes he is ungrateful and doesn't realise how lucky he is.

BooMagoo · 28/05/2012 16:32

Grin They're something else,aren't they? I remember mine saying,"do we always have to go to Europe?". Well yes,if you want two holidays a year. Ingrates!

FannyFifer · 28/05/2012 16:32

I wouldn't bring him.

TiddlesTheNaughtyTortoise · 28/05/2012 16:33

Wow. Just wow.

I was just watching something on TV and it said it costs about £210 000 to raise a child to 21, so 10 grand a year.

So your DS owes you £150 000 so far. Tell him you'll take that £1000 off his bill Grin

DizzyKipper · 28/05/2012 16:34

manicbmc has it spot on, send him to Butlins whilst the rest of you go to Orlando Grin

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SatinSheets · 28/05/2012 16:35

What he fails to recall is that I'm paying £400 for him to go to Germany on a school trip for the 2nd time - which his brother doesn't get.

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thisisyesterday · 28/05/2012 16:35

really tiddles? i owe my kids a lot then! lol

PandaWatch · 28/05/2012 16:36

I think you should leave your son at home and take me instead! Grin

AllYoursBabooshka · 28/05/2012 16:36

Are there any relatives he can stay with while you go?

He needs a reality check.

Salmotrutta · 28/05/2012 16:37

Oh my - teens can be so awful sometimes can't they?

When our DD and DS were about 15 and 13 ish respectively we went to Florida.
Well, DD went under protest as she had to leave her new boyfriend for two whole weeks which wasn't fair and clearly the world would end Hmm

DorothyGherkins · 28/05/2012 16:38

I think your son needs to do some volunteering work with disadvantaged people, homeless, or help out at a hospice or whatever - I think he needs an alternative view on life. His aint so bad, is it.