to send my son to school?

[morecoffeemorecoffee]

Ds (6) was sick in the night at about 2am. He had been fine all day, woke up at 1.30 said he felt sick and then was sick half an hour later. He had a drink and went back to bed.

I fully expected him to be ill when we got up today and was expecting to keep him home. When he woke up he was fine. No sign of illness (didn't feel sick, normal temp etc) and was hungry. Ate a normal breakfast washed dressed and played etc as normal.

So I have sent him to school as he doesn't seem unwell. If it was a stomach bug he would have been sick more than once surely and or have diarrhea and feel ill? He had a busy evening yesterday- swimming, various medical appts(not due to illness) and homework.

So aibu? Should I have kept him home anyway?

Maybe I should look into home schooling him then if this continues to happen?

Our school also has a 48hr exclusion policy. My previous posts explain why school, gp and us thought it was ok to send him in.

He is fine BTW. Is just eating his packed lunch in the garden.

He has 2 friends coming round for tea tonight. I have text them explaining what has happened today and they are still coming!

I am fully aware the risk of some illnesses to others and have my own personal experiences of similar things which I do not wish to share. That is why I would not have sent him unless I was sure he was ok.

I've changed my mind a few times because when you are bombarded with negativity you doubt yourself even though I am still 100% sure he's fine.

Anyway, he's home and having a lovely time. :)

Having had to keep my dd off 48 hours for the 2nd time in a month due to a vomiting bug - I think YABU.

If all the parents had kept their children off for 48 hours when they had the bug it is just possible my dd would not have had a 2nd bout

You thought it was ok, you can't be sure.

Are you planning the send him tomorrow before the 48 hours are up?

You drip fed, which is why most of the people responding are saying you're being unreasonable.

If you actually want advice, start a thred in a different section and put the relevant information about your son's health in the OP. It's obvious that he has medical issues - and you mentioned medication - that cause him to be sick from time to time, and that this isn't the result of any bug.

YWBU but i hope your DS feels better soon at our school and the local playgroup its 48 hours after sickness as long as they have started eating 24 hours before returning to school speaking as someone who saw my three go down like flies over 2 weeks with them all at it at one point in a house with only one loo I'm sure there are lots of people who dont stick to it for whatever reasons. Although we don't have any serious illness to be worried about re catching D&V my DH is a chef so if he comes into contact through DCs regardless of whether he has it or not, it has to be reported and cant work for 48 hours so we lose money.

'bombarded with negativity'??

Wouldn't be the truth would it?

YABU most schools and even my work place ( I work with adults with learning disabilities) have the 48 hour rule which means you don't go to school/work until 48 hours afetr the las D and V episode, So you should have kept your son home today and tomorow.

Sorry if your school has a 48 exclusion rule than they have to abide ny it and should not except any child into school if they have been sick during the night before. If your DS's friends parents are still fine to let thier DC come to tea that's up to them but what happens if then one of them get sick and they go back to school?

I hate it when people do this. I know sometimes you don't know when your child is ill and you send them in, these things happen. But when you know they have been sick, and you are supposed to keep them home for 48 hours, then I think it's pretty selfish tbh on the other families. My husband has cancer and is on chemo at the moment. He has no immunity whatsoever and a simple sickness bug, which most of us get over, would make him severely ill and end up with a long hospital stay pumped full of antibiotics. It's frightening. I wish people would consider things like this when they knowingly send their sick child to school.

I'd have kept him off at least for the day.

I am not sure that the responses here are representative of everyone's views. certainly at my children's school it seems that no-one would hold to that rule and there would be no pressure from the school to do so. They are much more concerned to pressurise the children to come to school even when not feeling 100% and there are lots of attendance certificates given out with that message about trying to attend even if feeling under the weather.
I often hear people saying that their child was vomiting the day before and they are sending them in. My feeling is to follow the rules but it is pointless if no-one else is.
Also, we have never had any norovirus incidents that didn't involve copious amounts of vomiting in the first few hours. I would have been doubtful that my child did have a tummy bug if they only vomited once and then felt fine. I might have sent them to school, bearing in mind all the above...

YABVVVU The 48 hour rule is there for a reason.

I'd be well fucked off if your kid went to my childs school and he caught it. Very Very selfish.

On a positive note I am glad that most of the people on this thread tend to agree that you shouldn't send them in. Hopefully that means it is not something the majority would do.

V unreasonable. 48 hour rule there for a reason. Sick and tired of selfish parents who send their kids in when they've been sick only hours before start of school day. And how dare you put the child through the stress of being unwell and miserable away from home, unnecessarily.
Taking him to a gp for a vomit bug that'll be gone in a couple of days??
Get a grip OP..

Cocky, why don't you get a grip and read the whole thread. You may then realise-

A, my son was not unwell and miserable away from home and therefore not under any stress. He spent the day at home.

B, was infact never feeling unwell or miserable. He has had a lovely day at home :)

C, saw his gp for reasons related to previous similar reasons as detailed previously in the thread ie because it is unlikely that this is a bug! So yes, I will take my son to see his doctor if he is ill and there is no apparent reason. I would not take my son to see gp if he was suffering from a d&v bug as there is not much they cam do accept let it run its course!

D, the school and gp both said he was fine to attend school

Again (!) My reason for starting the thread was to gauge opinion on what other parents do when their child has a one off instance of vomiting and it is not a bug. It would appear I have a unique child and infact no other child can be sick unless it is a bug!

I have apologised for not putting all the info in my op. I did not mean to drip feed, but I post elsewhere regarding my son and I forget which info I have shared and where.

Anyway, he is fine, not in anyway ill, has eaten as usual and been out playing most of the day.

The only reason I would not keep my child off school for 48hrs after being sick, is if it was clearly travel sickness.
Both of their high achieving schools would fully support this too.

morecoffee, Your original post was AIBU to send my son to school when he has been sick in the night? So you can hardly blame people from responding to that. Neither should you get arsey if people don't read the whole thread, this is exactly why it is bad form to drip feed.

Of course plenty of kids can be sick when it isn't a bug! But you can never be 100% sure hence the 48 hour rule.

If you are so sure you did the right thing sending him to school then why start the thread in the first place

If they are sick you keep them off. You have no way of knowing whether it is a bug or not.

And, as others have said, if they are sick you keep them off, you cannot be sure that it's not a bug.

Yes, both of my children have occasions when they are sick only once and I can sometimes point to alternative causes - such as over indulging at a party, or over excitement, being overtired or hot.

But given that I don't know for sure and I understand the potential risks to other people if it is a bug, I don't send them to school.

And yes, it's just as frustrating for everyone else as it is for you to keep an otherwise/seemingly healthy child off school.

And if I were confident that it was too many strawberries and brioche... and I did send one of them in, then I wouldn't be posting on AIBU about it!!!

OP you sent him in to school. He had been sick only a few hours previously.
You do not know and still don't know if he is carrying a bug.
End of.

YABVU. You shouldn't even have taken a child who may be incubating a sickness bug to the doctor. What about all the staff and patients in the waiting room?

And if your child is off school, you don't let them have fun playing out on their bikes and invite friends for tea! I find it hard to believe any parents would even let their children go to tea with a child who was off school sick.

And don't even get me started on how you've messed the school around!

Jeez...

ffs sometimes people and children are just sick! it doesn't always mean they have bubonic plague . If I was sick with no other symptoms I would assume I had eaten too much or eaten something that disagreed a bit and carry on, if I had anything else I would stay home. Some people just have sicky tums!

It's the drip feed that was the problem. If you had made your ds' condition clear from the start people wouldn't have gone off on the wrong track.

My dd used to vomit every day after dinner from stress: it went on for about six months. We couldn't have kept her at home for every day of those six months just because one day it might be a bug: we had to use our common sense to look for other signs of when it might be a bug.