AIBU and could you help settle a quandry please????

[sponkle]

Ok wise mumsnetters we need your help to resolve a quandry.

AIBU to think DH should put DS2 first?

DH childhhood friend (like brother) got married overseas earlier this year but as it was other side of the world is having a wedding celebration this weekend for friends and family who couldn't make it. DH didn't go to stag do as it was one of those expensive trips to a European city which we just couldn't afford.

DH and friend's relationship has cooled somewhat over the last 10 years or so...friend living single high life in London, DH living provincial family life. Friend was our best man, but has not had time to support (not even been in touch) DH through a significantly difficult time recently (teenage DS1 almost tore our family apart ADHD, ASD, heavy drugs usage, expelled from school etc)

DS2 turns 5 this week. He really wants to go to Legoland. He is not having a birthday party but is having a friend over for tea after school. DH wants to go to friends wedding celebration.

What do you think DH should do? Legoland or wedding celebration?

Well done, sponkle, for doing the right thing and for being big enough to come back and admit you overreacted. I hope you all have a great day at Legoland.

I hope you all have a great time, at both events.

And sponkle, when did you last have some time to yourself with no responsibilities? I'm not suggesting you start keeping score IYSWIM whenever he gets an invitation, but I do hope you are getting breaks.

Glad itegoland. has all worked out & hope you have a lovely time at L

Oops!

Well done, Sponkle. It is sometimes hard to compromise in the areas we are most nervous about ourselves.

I still don't understand why you can't go to Legoland on the planned Sunday. You've told us that you and ds2 won't be attending the wedding celebration anyway. So what's stopping you having a quiet Saturday while your DH is at the wedding party and a family outing on the Sunday?