DD has two mums...

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..Myself who she calls Mama and my DP who she calls Mamaí (mammy in Irish). AIBU and a bit precious to expect that close friends and family could learn which is which and use them when speaking to my DD 2.9 and stop confusing her and making me need to politely point out to her who they are talking about?
I don't mean aquaintances and random people we rarely see but the ones who have regular contact with us and who are very involved in her life.

yanbu
can't be that hard for them, just start calling them by the wrong names..

Yanbu. Are your friends just struggling to pronounce the Irish word properly or are they using the wrong word? Either way I would correct them.

Well in theory YANBU. But I imagine at that age she may well get confused on her own. They are quite similar sounding afterall, and are used interchangably by many people.

It's obviously a lot more confusing for friends and relatives than it is for you and your DD.

Maybe you need to get a bit cross with them and say "For heavens sake, I am Mama, DP is Mamai!!!". Once they've been told off they should grasp it.

Is there a difference in the pronunciation? If there is, there's no reason why people can't remember which of you is which and use the terms accordingly. But if it's one of those things where the difference is only discernable to someone who is Irish and has spoken Irish all their life, you might be being a tad U to expect everyone to be able to tell the difference, especially when it's a 2 yr old saying them. Mamm-a and Mamm-y or Mah-Mah and Mamm-y iyswim

YANBU but Im not sure what you can do. They do sound similar, so maybe its not a case of them not trying? Try not to be too upset about it op , I can imagine it must be quite annoying

Is your DD getting confused?

My daughter has nanny and nanna and she's the only one who doesn't mix them up! She's two as well. Maybe it's not as significant as mums though. Just correct people politely.

(by the way how do you pronounce the Irish name?)

"Mamaí" sounds like Mommy, and Mama presumably sounds as it is spelt. There is quite a difference in sound.

Irish kids typically call their parents "Mammy" or "Mam" anyway, not "Mamaí" so I don't think YABU to expect that close friends and family be able to identify which parent has which petname. Especially if you have explained it to them on previous occasions.

Yanbu if there is a pronunciation difference. DH is called Baba to DD (2.8) and her grandparents on that side are Daddi and Dadda (language difference) but however much we tell them nursery, family and friends all still call DH her daddy, it's irritating, make an effort! And it upsets DH when DD who does know the difference starts using "daddy" to fit in :(

If there isn't a pronunciation difference then I'd probably forgive it.

Sorry I should have made it clearer that Mamaí is pronounced as Mammy. So its Mama and Mammy which are not similar in sound at all.

Sorry if I'm not clear, I mean that it's not a name or sound which could only ever be used in Ireland (as it is not in common use there either - it's just a pet name and defines one particular person: the OP's partner), so therefore it's not right to suggest that it's only discernible to a native speaker.

I still think they sound very similar. I'm not saying YABU, like I said up thread, I think YANBU. But I do think it's understandable to a degree why people use them interchangably.

Yanbu. You wouldn't get people getting mummy and daddy confused!

I think they are different enough for people to use correctly so YANBU but if you figure out how to make people do it let me know!

refer to a female friend as Daddy to her child? Might drive the point home?

TBH, I think they do sound similar.

DD calls me Mumma/Mummy. DS calls me Mummy/Mum. DS1 calls me Mum. All quite similar, IMO.

I think they sound similar, and I do think you are being a bit unreasonable to expect people to remember who is which.

Also your daughter is bound to get easily confused at that age too. I called my mother "mum", "mummy", "mam"... and then you get other people referring to their mothers with their own names, so for a child it is going to be a bit hit and miss for them to get it right.

YABU I think. Mamaí isn't a name, it's a word, and people use different words for the same thing. I use Mamaí all the time to refer to the mums at playgroup, even though they might call themselves Ma or Mum. It's not because I don't listen, it's because that's the word I use for a mother.

BTW Mamaí is pronounced "Mommy" not "Mammy".

yanbu

i do think close friends/relatives should make the effort, not jsut to avoid confusion but because it is important

I think YABabitU actually. They are similiar enough that people are probably getting the two of you mixed up as to who's who rather than failing to make an effort with pronunciation iykwim.

The names your DD calls you are probably not top priority of things to remember for your friends. Family should be getting it right though, I agree.

My apologies CalinDana you are correct, its Mommy not Mummy. Autocorrected on my phone.

*Mammy. Bloody phone!!!!

DS calls me mummy, but when close friends are talking to him and refering to me I can be called mummy, mum, mother, mammy, mam, momma, or my own name, yabu and uptight.

Have people said they can't remember who is called what or is that your interpretation from the names they use?

I didn't know how to pronounce Mamaí so I looked it up. The pronunciation given was Mah-mee. Cailin says it's Mommy. Could that be part of the problem? People who know the word are pronouncing it the way they are familiar with. It's just not the way you want. If DP wants people to call her Mammy why not spell it Mammy?