To think that this is an odd way to react to being told the news about your first grandchild

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DH and I have just found out that we're having our first baby and were keen to let our parents in on our fantastic news. When we told DH's mum and dad, I felt quite upset at their reaction, if you can call it that. The thing is, they didn't seem to react at all. If you'd have walked into the room just after we'd broken the news, you wouldn't have known at all that we'd announced anything. It was quite bizarre. DH and I continued on chatting, more to fill the awkward silence than anything. We didn't even get a 'congratulations' out of them...even my boss did that much!

They aren't very emotional people, but for this announcement I did expect something along the lines of 'we're really happy for you' at least! AIBU to expect a bit of a fuss from our nearest and dearest (esp the future grandparents about their first grandchild?) Has anyone else had the same sort of reaction from their families/in laws??

Congratulations

If it makes you feel any better, my mum made me leave home when I told her I was pg the first time (I was 18, but still)

A few days before I had DD my Mum said on the phone, I can't sleep at night worrying about the pain you will have to go through!! Great help. Not.

How odd of them.

A good thing to do at times like this is to type 'you are a pair of oddballs' on a piece of paper, and hide it somewhere in their house that they may not find for some time - under a plant pot, slipped into a line of books in a bookcase, for example.

It will cheer you up no end, and you can have fun joining in looking baffled 'What on earth? Goodness me how strange, who could have done that' when the naughty bit of paper is finally discovered.

Mmm good idea

Just made me think then, I may hide a tenner in dd's room and see how long it takes for her to realise it's there

My DP's parents automatically jumped up and congratulated us when we walked in and said we had news. Sadly they thought we were getting married, not having a baby. They were less enthusiastic after that and remained so for most of my pregnancy. DP's mum even phoned him up a few days later and insisted that he marry me.

They're fab Grandparents to DD now though, but I'm a little bit sad every time I think about it.

'Oh but you said you werent going to have children' (my mum). Something we had never said, but we had been married for ages so I suppose she just assumed.

Next day she bought out John Lewis'.

When I told my boss, he jumped up, gave me a hug and was really happy for me. He loved kids though.

I am of an age to be a grandmother, although none in prospect at present. I am being very honest here and must say that I dread the idea of being a grandparent. Yes, ishoos. HOWEVER, before I am flamed, flambeed and put inside a wicker man I would push my own feelings right down and react with joy on behalf of the DC. I am sure I would love the DGC and give them and my children all the help I could. My feelings are my problem, not theirs.

We got a similar non-reaction when telling mil and fil we were having a baby, their first grandchild.
It was awkward and weird and pissed me off.
As it turns out they have been the proudest and most wonderful granparents i could ask for. (fil has recently passed away though )

Better no reaction than my ex's reaction to me telling him I thought I was pregnant (I was 24 and we had recently got married). His words 'well, we best see about getting you sorted out then'

Nooooooooooooooooo! That's kind of what my granny said to mum (her daughter) when she got pregnant with me. She was a very odd lady.

"I hope you wont expect us to babysit?" PILs
"Oh darlings how wonderful!" my parents

both their reactions pretty much still true 16 years later (although sadly my dad died 8 wks before DD1 was born)

My mother was quite shocked when I told her I was expecting DD1 - I think it made her feel old, which I can well imagine. It was just an initial gut reaction - she was fine afterwards throughout the PG and has a lovely relationship with the DDs.

My mum: "OH MY GOD! Are you ok? OH MY GOD I'm going to be a grandma. I'm too young (she was 66 at the time, I was 29, had been married 4 months :)) Oh well, great, congratulations!

My dad: Oh right. Oh right, yes, congratulations!

MIL: Oh fantastic, we are so happy for you (weep weep)
FIL: Hurrah, that's great! Drinks all round?

Old friends: We all guessed because you were actually 'phoning us

wonderful news :d

i got from my mum, oh really ok not sure i want to be a nanny yet (ffs she was 58). she was not really supportive during my pregnancy (i was on my own and needed her to be) but as soon as ds was born he has been the light of her life nothing is more wonderful in this world than her little grandson, at last we agree on something :) and our relationship is much better

Mil on telling her of dc2: oh no how will you afford it bont expect us to pay for it!"

Weown our house and dh works and we have no debts! I have no idea why she said it. Also no congrats.

My mum "why you cant cope with the one you have got"

Both crap gps.

Holy Night Haribojoe, your MIL puts mine in the shade!

I was out with my mum and had to sit down because i felt faint,

Her "don't tell me you're pregnant?"
Me, "Yes"
Her "well i don't know why you haven't got rid of it yet"

On announcing my second and third, there was silence, then a feeble "are you pleased?".

She adored my third from when she first saw her, because she looked like her.