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To expect DCs grandparents to attend their baptism?

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Babylon1 · 17/05/2012 10:07

So I've booked for all 3 DCs to be baptised at the same time now our family is complete.

I told my mum the date, and she said straight away, that her and my dad wouldn't be there as it was the same weekend as the game fair they go to with their neighbours; and they've already got tickets.

She then informed me it was going to be a very busy day for me as I had already agreed to take charge of their business for the weekend while they go to said game fair.

This isn't true, I had agreed to look after the business on the Saturday of the weekend, but no dates had been discussed and she had said she wouldn't be going to game fair on Sunday as she would have had enough after being there on Saturday.

I'm literally sat here crying my eyes out and feeling so hurt that she/they are putting the game fair before their grandchildren, but I'm certain that this is what mum is saying and not dad.

AIBU, even if they've already bought tickets, they could sell them on for they day? Or go later, it's less than half an hours drive from their home and baptism is at 10am, will be done before 11am.

There is more to this story involving my sister who will not be invited to baptism or celebration afterwards and I think this could have something to do with my mums decision ....

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Babylon1 · 24/05/2012 16:45

I really feel for my dad bless him Sad

He can't do right for doing bloody wrong and she bites his head off all the time.

But he loves her, warts and all Smile

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Babylon1 · 04/07/2012 09:57

So we're still going ahead with Christening on original date as planned.

Invites have gone out and RSVPs have started coming in! I have booked entertainment for the afternoon (bouncy castle) to keeps the kids amused and a DJ for the night time for DHs 40th celebration.

I've just got to finalsie catering arrangments and decorating the rooms and I'm done Grin

DM called yesterday and the conversation got round to the christening. Basically, the first RSVP I have received was from my aunty (with who my mum has arranged to look after her business on the sunday) saying she can't wait and wouldn't miss it for the world. I mentioned this to DM and said she ought to check with aunty she hasn't forgotten her prior commitment......

DM then states it's ok as she has deliberately arranged that there will be no movement within her business on the Sunday, and as soon as feeding is complete in the morning, aunty will be free to attend Christening :)

Great news, so at least one member of my family is coming!! DM then goes on to say that unless there is a significant change in the weather, her and DF will also be available on this day now as they cannot see the fun in wandering around a game fair in the pissing down rain getting wet.

They will forfeit the tickets they have already purchased and if they're free, well they might as well come to the Christening then and DHs 40th! How gracious of them!!

I think deep down, I knew this would happen, and even if there is significant change in the weather and summer descends on us with an almighty heatwave, I think they will still be there - basically DM has now realised how many people are going to be there, and that actually she might not be seen in the best light if she isn't there for her GCs christenings, having preferred to go to a game fair instead.

My DB has also had some input here, and for whatever reason, DM listens to him more than anyone else. He said he wasn't going to the actual christening as he r3efuses to step into church, but that he would be coming immediately afterwards. He also said how much he'd like to be going to the game fair, but it'll be on another year, and every other year etc, and GCs will only be Christened once.

DM would not want to be seen in a negative light by anyone, nor would she want to be talked about negatively, which is understandable!

I immediately said how lovely it would be if my parents could be there, and I genuinely mean that; even if my first reaction was to be a bit put out that they'll only be there if the weather doesn't suit them to be somewhere else, and because they're worried about their reputations if they don't put in an appearance!!

It did cross my mind to say, actually don't bother, I haven't catered for you, but after the upset I felt in the beginning, I realise that this would be cutting my nose off to spite my face - and I really do want them there.

So, with 3 weeks to go, things are looking up, I'm feeling better about it all, and I'm just hoping against all hope that DM and DF do come, and that in the next 3 weeks, DM doesn't take it upon herself to invite my sister and co! If she does, it WILL be curtains!!

Wow, epic update!!

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Babylon1 · 12/07/2012 18:53

Just heard the Game Fair is cancelled.

Sad for everyone who was looking forward to it BUT Grin for me as it means DCs grandparents will be in attendance at their baptism after all GrinGrinGrin

Result!!

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Babylon1 · 23/07/2012 02:14

Well today was the day for the christening and DHs 40th and its been great xxxxx

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MrsTerryPratchett · 23/07/2012 05:30

Well done you. I really like when people come back and update! Thanks

Condensedmilk · 23/07/2012 06:08

Glad it went well Babylon1.

Babylon1 · 23/07/2012 08:20

It was a brilliant day, well worth the effort Grin

But I have got one helluva almighty headache this morning Blush

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Safire · 23/07/2012 08:27

Lovely to read your updates. Was the guest list perfect?

Babylon1 · 23/07/2012 10:10

The guest list worked out just fine, thank you!

The whole day went off without a hitch, apart from my mascara running in church when I got rather emotional.Blush

Our vicar is a fantastic man who made the service very personal and lovely. It was easily the best part of the whole day and I'm so glad we waited and had all three christened together.Smile

All in all absolutely perfect Smile

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